[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yep, being honest and up-front will give him the "choice" of whether to see if you change your mind further down the track, or become a friend, or dwindle away...

If he's not prepared to accept your "terms" then, he's not after communication, rather trying to whoo you for other reasons

Be careful not to email back and forth every day, it sends messages out there that maybe you actually do have things in common, interest and if someone is lonley they rely on receiving them and can't help themselves from sending them.

Just say : PS, I'm in the "friends zone" at present, but "never say never"... Be glad to converse...

CW

[Amber]

We actually did meet once, last Saturday. But it was with a group of people and not a conversation alone together. I'll email him nicely and be honest with him. Leave it up to him if he wants to just email or not. If I ran into him in a group again, I would mind that but I'm not ready to go on a date with anyone just yet.

[Texinator]

I don't know if that is weird or not but it seems you pay more attention to the woman than yourself. If that is weird, it sounds like a good kind of weird to me.

I was pondering whether I put her needs ahead of my own but then I realized there is a bit of selfishness involved on my part. Like I said I find both vaginas and female orgasms extremely beautiful, and so it's very entertaining for me if I get to be a part of that. Another thing is that guys are real easy to get off but women are a little bit more of a challenge, and it's actually a challenge that I enjoy. And of course an orgasmic woman is one that wants to 'play' again sooner than later. Last but not least, having an orgasm in two or three minutes is rather boring, but having to wait until we're close to being done with whatever we're doing just lets a bunch of wild energy build up in me and makes everything more fun. So in a sense I'm also paying attention to myself at the same time.

Sorry for the hijack.

[WildChild]

I was pondering whether I put her needs ahead of my own but then I realized there is a bit of selfishness involved on my part. Like I said I find both vaginas and female orgasms extremely beautiful, and so it's very entertaining for me if I get to be a part of that. Another thing is that guys are real easy to get off but women are a little bit more of a challenge, and it's actually a challenge that I enjoy. And of course an orgasmic woman is one that wants to 'play' again sooner than later. Last but not least, having an orgasm in two or three minutes is rather boring, but having to wait until we're close to being done with whatever we're doing just lets a bunch of wild energy build up in me and makes everything more fun. So in a sense I'm also paying attention to myself at the same time.

Sorry for the hijack.

I think you've stumbled on to something many men miss. Taking time pleasuring a woman instead of just jumping to your own needs, can increase your pleasure. Too bad more don't get it.

[Amber]

Sorry for the hijack.

Tex, since it is you, I'll forgive you. But really, I actually found your post interesting. I bet women would love it if men could be more like that.


I emailed him last night, being honest with him. If he doesn't want to just email, I'm fine with that. I'm not ready to date anyone just yet and I'm not going to do it just to please the guy. I'm not over my ex yet and it doesn't feel right to date just yet.

[Texinator]

So this morning I walked outside.. It was on the cold side but I liked how the crisp air felt against my face and my cool jeans against my legs. The wind is usually always going but there was none this morning, and the stillness and quietness was somehow beautiful. I also noticed some nice aroma in the air..I couldn't figure out what it was but it seemed floral. Ah, the the sky was mostly cloudy but rays of sunshine were poking through here and there and it seemed very cozy.

[ItsASecret]

So this morning I walked outside.. It was on the cold side but I liked how the crisp air felt against my face and my cool jeans against my legs. The wind is usually always going but there was none this morning, and the stillness and quietness was somehow beautiful. I also noticed some nice aroma in the air..I couldn't figure out what it was but it seemed floral. Ah, the the sky was mostly cloudy but rays of sunshine were poking through here and there and it seemed very cozy.

I felt the same way this morning. Living in Canada, I know when to appreciate the crisp cool air before it turns into and unforgivable bitter cold air. Today was only a bit of snow, and the freezing rain from yesterday did it's job of covering every in slick ice but it was still nice out.

[Amber]

So this morning I walked outside.. It was on the cold side but I liked how the crisp air felt against my face and my cool jeans against my legs. The wind is usually always going but there was none this morning, and the stillness and quietness was somehow beautiful. I also noticed some nice aroma in the air..I couldn't figure out what it was but it seemed floral. Ah, the the sky was mostly cloudy but rays of sunshine were poking through here and there and it seemed very cozy.

LOL You are one unusual guy Tex. Is this a lesson in how you put into words of how your sense are experiencing the beauty around you? I have to learn how to appreciate beauty like that.

[Texinator]

Yup, just thought I'd provide an example. I think I'll do it more often if that's alright with you.

[Texinator]

Fun with a pear..

I had a pear for an afternoon snack. I cut it in slices. The outside was a nice shade of darker green. There were a few dots and swirls of black here and there, but I think the pear looked more interesting this way than if it had been a perfect green. The inside was an off white.

I found several interesting contrasts. The outside of the pear was very smooth and a bit shiny but on the inside I could feel some subtle graining. Another one was that I felt a firmness biting into a piece but soon I could also feel the sweet juices sweep across my tongue. And it was a nice sweetness. Not overpowering but it lingered for a few minutes after I was done.