[Amber]

Yup, it doesn't even have to be limited to your body but also works well with other things that stimulate the senses, from your clothes to birds chirping underneath a beautiful sky.

Like WC said, even though lots of people call it dirty talk, don't think of it as dirty but as sensual communication. Become more aware of what your senses tell you and learn to communicate that. Say it out loud rather than just in your mind if that helps.

The objective is to form a stronger bond between your senses and your mind. You may very well come to find a lot of things sexy that you had never thought of like that before.

Would it work if I start to become aware of it, and learn to admire it but don't put it into actual words? I sort of feel like I loose a lot when I put it into words because I'm not good at finding the right words. Just becoming aware of the beauty around me with my senses is still very strange to me but it can be learned, I guess.

[Amber]

I would think so. A few women also think penises have an aesthetic appeal.

Here is how it works with me with the female anatomy: I find vaginas extremely beautiful. I find female orgasms extremely beautiful. So the idea of not only touching and licking a beautiful vagina but through my touching and licking also being able to give a woman a beautiful orgasms has the power to divert large quantities of blood in me.

Tex, when you say divert large quantities of blood, do you mean arousal? I don't know if I find the penis as beautiful (at least not yet anyways) but i could easily find a lot of the other parts of a man's body to be beautiful. Like I said before, I think the waist up on a man interest me more.

[Texinator]

Yes, arousal. Then again I know lots of other guys think a vagina looks best with their penis in it and they'd rather spend two minutes getting off themselves than to put in the extra time and effort to help the woman, so maybe I'm just weird that way.

[Amber]

Yes, arousal. Then again I know lots of other guys think a vagina looks best with their penis in it and they'd rather spend two minutes getting off themselves than to put in the extra time and effort to help the woman, so maybe I'm just weird that way.

I don't know if that is weird or not but it seems you pay more attention to the woman than yourself. If that is weird, it sounds like a good kind of weird to me.

[Amber]

That guy emailed me back again. This time he is talking football. If I ignore him, I may alienate him which I don't want to do because he may be a really nice guy. But I'm not sure I want to start emailing a guy back and forth just yet. I'm not sure if I'm ready for something as simple as that. It makes me feel anxious or tense somehow and not in a good way.

[Texinator]

Football seems harmless enough. Why do you think you're not ready for emailing someone? Is it too soon after your breakup or are you afraid of getting hurt again?

[WildChild]

I totally agree with Tex.


Taping into the sensual side, seemed to make everything beautiful and inside, feeling that nothing negative, no stress, those feelings thoughts never occured during this period, nothing got to me, life was beautiful.

haha, hard to explain and certainly I need to go back there more, it's still within me, but I need to tap into it more, I can't describe the feeling that I had day upon day upon day at that time of my life.

CW

Absolutely. I agree, the sensual and continual awareness keeps me at a simmer most of the time. It's about far more than intercourse and far more than sex or a partner of the complimentary gender, it's a way of relating to the world around you.

[Amber]

Football seems harmless enough. Why do you think you're not ready for emailing someone? Is it too soon after your breakup or are you afraid of getting hurt again?

As much as I want a relationship with a man, I don't think I'm ready yet. If it was just emailing, I probably would be ok with that. But I don't know what he is looking for. if after a few emails, he asks me on a date, I know I'm not ready for that. I can't see myself with anyone else like that just yet.

Would you want to be told by a woman that she is not ready to date yet because she is not over her ex yet or would you rather she just didn't respond to your email? But then I would scare him away completely. Thinking of that, how would you feel if a woman emailed you, only to turn you down when it came to a date, saying she is not ready? Or would you rather she just tell you in the beginning and stop emailing you.

[WildChild]

WHy don't you just work on getting good communication built? Tell him honestly you aren't quite ready to meet in person but you can chat, get aquaninted, share some laughs and see how you feel later on?

[Texinator]

What WC said. I'd rather the woman respond and tell me honestly that she's not ready to date but that she wouldn't mind having a chat. No problem there. We could get to know each other anyway and, who knows, maybe sometime in the future when she's ready to date again we may realize that we're not compatible like that after all but make good pen pals or we may realize that we really have lots in common and a date would be a really good idea.

If she'd never respond I'd think it's kind of cold. Then should she change her mind sometime in the future and tell me that she ignored me because she didn't want to date but she's ready now then I don't think I'd want to take her up on her offer.