[Goodgirl93]

It seems to me like you are trying too hard.I'm sure each time you masturbate,you focus on the sensations,and hope to reach orgasm.That's only natural.You have tried many things.But there has got to be something to get you off. What positions have you tried so far? Any new ones today?

[Texinator]

I hate that word horny!!

Why's that?

[WildChild]

It has ancient origins. There are 12,000 yr old cave paintings in France showing a man with antlers. The Greeks had satyrs (with a man's face and torso, horns and a perpetually errect penis. They had the horned god, Pan. The Romans had Faunus. Lupercalia which survives in part as Valentines day, was dedicated to Faunus.

Across Europe a horned male spirit with antlers was found- in many old tales that have been "adapted" by newer faiths, there is a stag, probably once a significant part of a teaching tale. Many African and Asian cultures have horned male spirits.

The devil is essentially an image of Pan.

Many lunar Goddesses such as Artemis, Astarte, Diana, Inana-Ishtar and Isis are depicted with horns or wearing headdresses with horns. Bronze Celtic statues show antlered women, so in some cultures "horniness" wasn't limited to men. A male horned creature often accompanies Goddesses in art, think of Diana or Artemis.

Christianity (and other faiths) worked hard to erraticate or demonize the older beliefs, in the 570s in Auxerre France, masquerading as a calf or stag was banned. The Liber Penitentials gave a three year penance for transforming oneself into the appearance of a wild annimal. The witch trials frequently mention consorting with the horned devil or a horned creature.

So horniness, as it were, has been long embeded in human history. Once celebrated, as a sign of male or sexual power, fertility, wisdom, shamans, leadership, joyfullness, partying - various things depending on the time and culture - it became a hidden, dirty, sinful, pagan thing associated with lewdness and sex abandon. Personally I think we could do with more of the older, healthier acceptance and celebration of the horns.

[rcoreyus]

Don't focus on the sex, focus on the setting, on how the scene starts. Be creative - find out what sorts of thoughts you find enjoyable. I think you need to find the mental image first, before worrying about the physical

Secret agent seducing a guard.

Young heiress arranging a clandestine meeting with the house servant she really loves. (or reverse the roles)

Captured by barbarians.

Harem girl trying to please the sultan

Princess and her slave(s)

Lovers on a private yacht.

Quick sex with a stranger in an airplane restroom.


The thing about fantasy is that it can be anything you want with no embarrassment, and no one else knowing what you are thinking.

If you mean something that is erotic, then I tried that tonight and failed miserably. I honestly don't know what to think about. My experience having sex is very limited. I barely touched my ex. i was too nervous to do so. And when he touched me, aside from the light touching of the skin that felt good, everything else I was too nervous to enjoy. I'm the type that if I don't know about it, I can't make up a story about it.

I know I probably could make up a romantic fantasy but not anything that is going to make me feeling horny, as Tex puts it. I hate that word horny!! Well, I guess I can say so far, at least. Maybe somehow I can learn about what can be done, through romance books. But will I be able to connect what there saying with how it feels in my head, if I have never felt it before myself. So far I have no luck on it when it comes to movies.

[Amber]

Sorry, but I haven't even gotten around to read what all of you have posted since last night. I'll get to it late tonight or tomorrow. I'm just not in the mood for it right now.

Actually I'm in real lousy mood today. I'm just sick of everyone and everything and just life in general. I would hide under a rock and scream my brains out if I thought it would do any good but it never does!! And it is not even PMS. That ended a few days ago.

Well, bad enough I'm in a lousy mood today, I'm still getting reading to go out tonight. And I'm really not in the mood for this. I'm going to see Wicked the musical. I like musicals and all but I just don't feel like going today. The seats are balcony or something but that is ok. I'm going with a group of singles. I could have gone out to dinner with them beforehand but I backed out of that. That would mean me heading right into rush hour traffic and I said stick that.

So anyways, I wanted to see this musical but I don't know, just not tonight. But if I stay home, then I will have to be here with my parents. They should be home any moment now and the last thing I want to do is spend the night here with them. I'm definitely not in the mood for that!!!! So instead of wasting the money I paid for the ticket, I'm going to drag my butt and go see it. Hopefully I can keep my mind on it and not elsewhere.

[rcoreyus]

Have a nice night out - enjoy Wicked - its really fun.

[WildChild]

Read the book and loved it! Maybe this will be just what you need to boost your mood.

[Amber]

I finally got my long awaited closure with my ex today. His dog has passed away recently and I just found out the other day. I emailed him telling him how sorry I was to hear about her and he asked me the loaded question of how I was doing, when he had emailed me back. And a few emails went back and forth over a day or so before I said stick this dam emailing and picked up the phone this morning.

I cried and blowed my nose in his ear for about two and a half hours today. And he was good and sweet enough to put up with it. And at the end, I told him he had to the end the call because there was no way I could have done it.

But we discussed some things. And even though I kept telling myself that I knew it was over, there was still a small piece of me that didn't believe that. That thought that maybe one day we could be together again. But he snuffed out that thought and even though it hurts like heck, I have accepted that. And it does still hurt like worse than heck on earth. (That word heck just doesn't cut it but this place won't let me say the other word!!) No matter how much I kid myself, I'm not over him yet. Who knows when I will. But at least I can continue to try and head in that direction. He did really care a lot about me but he has moved on and now I have to also. As much as it makes me cry just tying that.

Some day I really do hope that we can be just friends, even if it is just by email. Who knows. He is really a great guy. I don't fall that head over heals for a loosers, you know. Hopefully, I never do, run into a looser I mean. I do want to find love though.

I am not in the mood for romance stories or for masturbation right now. But I'm not one to quit so I'' continue that but just not today.

Oh by the way, Wicked was really cool last night. I'm glad I went. Even though my mind wasn't on it the entire time, what I did see of it was really funny and cute. Good singers also!

[Texinator]

This should provide some closure. It shows that even though the romantic relationship is over, he did and does care about you on some level.

[Amber]

I do feel a little bit better. I needed that talk with him. I had so many unanswered questions that bothered me. But they have been answered now. It still hurts so much but that is obviously not going away any time soon.