[kristalyn_04]

Have you tried iMovie Amber? You should have that already, comes with every Mac. You can find the clip you want, save it and export it with iMovie. Let me know if you need help, I can try to walk you through it.

[Amber]

Have you tried iMovie Amber? You should have that already, comes with every Mac. You can find the clip you want, save it and export it with iMovie. Let me know if you need help, I can try to walk you through it.

I think I do but would that be able to edit it? I want the first two and a half minutes of the chapter but not the rest of it. I used handbrake to copy the chapter into mp4 format. But handbrake didn't let me copy only the first half of the chapter. I had to copy the entire chapter. The scene right after in that chapter is of the old lady. Not really a turn on for me.

[kristalyn_04]

yes, you can do that with iMovie... it lets you isolate segments right down to the frame and export it.

[Amber]

Thanks kristalyn. I'll check it out when I have a chance. Probably this weekend. I think I do have that.

[sianie87]

some guys are like that. if he loves you he will get back. my husband can be like this sometimes think its there way of dealing with.

[Allie602]

Allie, over the past few months, I have tried exploring my body. Even when relaxed, there are no sensations at all when my nipples are touched, rubbed, or anything. It feels like touching rubber. I know I'm being touched but no sensations. I guess there are places that feel nice like my shoulders and my neck but the only place I get sensations is my clitoris. Well, at least so far as I have found.

Every guy I kissed so far, I haven't felt anything from it. Now I don't know if that is a mindset or even the stupid chemistry thing of it all. I say stupid because I have had arguments with my ex-boyfriend about that exactly. Because I never felt anything when he kissed me. :-(

Allie, so when you kiss, you don't get the firework or wonderful sensations so many people say that they get when they kiss a guy? I wonder if I will ever feel those feelings.

kristalyn, you areoles have a little bit of sensation? I ask because I always touch my nipples. I don't think I have tried around the nipples. I'm guessing I won't feel it there, since the nipples have no sensations. But I guess I can try there tonight. I find myself wanting to try now but since I'm in public, I think I'll refrain from that. LOL

Amber I really don't feel any sparks with kissing either. But I do enjoy the body contact and I concentrate more on that. It amazes me how different one women is to one another. I really did not realize that until I started reading books and forums. At one time women were thought to be all alike, on the same design as men. If we did not have an orgasm with 10 min of vaginal sex then we were labeled frigid! I think it will take another generation to affect these negative female notions. Not many women can get there with 10 mins of trusting even the 30% of woman who can cum vaginally. So in the 50s, practically all women were frigid.

But female sexuality research is nascent and very little credible research. Amber look on the Kinsey site you'll find great deal of info. Some times knowledge helps you to accept and go with what you got without feeling like you are not normal. If you reassure yourself that you are normal, then you can relax and concentrate on your unique sexuality. Got off on a tangent as per usual.

But back to your concerns. I don't understand why God made women so sexually complex but it is what it is. I think for you, it's a matter of allowing your self to feel sensually. You can't change your natural wiring like the sensitivity of your breast but you can discover where your sensual parts are and how you need to be touched to stimulate them.

[Amber]

Allie, what is the kinsey site? If the only way to tell me is by giving me the link, then please private email me with it. One of the rules here is that we can't post a link.

Lately I have been feeling this heated, edgy feeling rising up in my stomach, when I'm using the vibrator and thinking of my ex. I wonder if that is what butterflies feel like. I can't help but doubt that I wll ever feel anything when kissing. To feel that feeling in my stomach, I need the vibrator to go crazy on me first. You can't use a vibrator on your lips! But I know it is not just the vibrator because I have only felt that recently and I have been using the vibrator for a while now. It definitely has to do with my thought also. That is for sure. But it is a combination of both. So I can't imagine that kind of heated feeling with just kissing.

[Amber]

I cant' wait until I have that first orgasm. Maybe then it won't seem like some kind of mission anymore and I can actually enjoy it. Right now it is something that I need to do and won't rest until it happens!!

[Allie602]

Allie, what is the kinsey site? If the only way to tell me is by giving me the link, then please private email me with it. One of the rules here is that we can't post a link.

Lately I have been feeling this heated, edgy feeling rising up in my stomach, when I'm using the vibrator and thinking of my ex. I wonder if that is what butterflies feel like. I can't help but doubt that I wll ever feel anything when kissing. To feel that feeling in my stomach, I need the vibrator to go crazy on me first. You can't use a vibrator on your lips! But I know it is not just the vibrator because I have only felt that recently and I have been using the vibrator for a while now. It definitely has to do with my thought also. That is for sure. But it is a combination of both. So I can't imagine that kind of heated feeling with just kissing.

The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction it comes right up when you google it
It a reputable research institute that has done pioneering research in human sexual response. Been around since the 40's lots of good info.

[WildChild]

Thing is emotional intensity and connection can vary widely. With the LOML the connection was immediate and intense and for me it stayed that way, even though after a few months he started being a real prick. I'm seeing someone else now and he is tender and sweet and caring and there is just no spark. We've talked about it - it isn't just me, we are both healing from painful relationship failures. In some cases it doesn't matter what you do or how good it 'should' be, it just isn't.

Amber, focusing your arousal efforts on emotional/mental images of your ex won't serve you long term. You got a copy of The Orgasm Loop, didin't you? Did you read what she said about having an image to visualise or focus on? That guy didn't really arouse you anyway. Re-read and rethink what you are using to arouse yourself. Also you can't force an orgasm or arousal. The harder you try the more elusive it is likely to be. Try relaxing into it.