[LanaBear]

You've definitely overcame some obstacles in your life and that is commendable. But don't let the bitterness reflect who you are as a person, that you can change and I recommend that you do.

Everyone deserves happiness, whether or not your were supposed to live a normal life. If you move past the bitterness of how you were and focus on the person you are now, you'll make great strides personally.

Women don't want a guy with the outlook that you have on us. That is an uphill battle relationship wise... Instead of focusing on a potential relationship with you, she is also having to try to prove your stereotype of women wrong. It won't work.

[danceintx]

Not all women are this superficial, many are yes, but not the majority. I teach dance lessons every day to men who make a lot of money and are fit and this does not interest me. My bf has a decent job, but doesn't make a lot, he's very hot to me, but is not really muscular. I love him because we connect, I love being around him, he's sweet to me, there for me, and is completely sexy to me. One thing you did not mention in your post is anything about personality.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

If you work for a living, you have potential.. Because, your not lazy and your ambitious, there's a sense of "safety" there.

For sure there are girls out there that want the picket fence and babies and no more work.

And, girls who want to be spoilt, pampered by what they want, so they may work and keep all their money whilst you work and work to pay everything else.

But, there are also girls who are hopeless romantics who purely want laughter some stability and will work together to make things happen in life.

It's a bit like saying a guys wish list is big boobs, good looks, a handbag

As, others have stated, not all girls are superficial but they do not want a loser either with no ambitions, although some will fall for that type too, "saving them" or thinking they can.

Your 22.. You have a long journey/road ahead of you, it's personality mainly, I think that women love in a man... The man who smiles and looks at them, pays attention, thinks their attractive. "he finds me attractive?" type feeling.... then she finds out more about you and what your about.

You've already had an interesting journey that shows that you have a head on your shoulder and always learning, always questioning, always wanting and is only going to go forward in life.

CW

[Haven]

Women don't want a guy with the outlook that you have

I'm gonna hop on the bandwagon here. Women like a guy who's positive, a guy with a smile on his face. A poor attitude brings people down. Women want to be nowhere near that.

You've got to look at things from the women's perspective. What qualities do you have that make you a good choice? What can you do to show those qualities to them? How do you think they'll interpret what you say? You have a good body and a decent face, so I'm guessing your troubles with women are like the classic Chris Rock skit - ''Yeah, l was gonna give him some... but he just started talking."

Be the strong, silent type. You can't go wrong if you think about what you're going to say and only say the best 20% of what you're thinking. If you're willing to put yourself out there, if you can be friendly, interested and attractive without looking desperate or saying something stupid, you'll be able to get dates.

[WildChild]

The more you have that interests you the more interesting you will be. How about picking up a class or seminar or two on things like gourmet cooking, wine tasting, beer making, learn to change oil and tune an engine (I can do it but love it if a man offers to take care of it for me) learn to locate and identify the constellations - what interests you? Build on those and became a more well rounded individual. It will boast your self confidence and make you more interesting. However (this ties into something I said on a post the other day) don't change yourself just to interest someone or pretend you like things that you don't (be open to trying things just no pretending) too often men (and women) meet someone and put up a front to attract that person. Then once they feel the relationship is progressing, they slip back into what they really are and it can be a shock to the other person and ultimately could end the relationship. Be who you are but always work on bettering yourself, expanding your interests, skills and competencies. This is about growing and developing throughout life and enjoying yourself more.

[GentlemanGhost]

I'm gonna hop on the bandwagon here. Women like a guy who's positive, a guy with a smile on his face. A poor attitude brings people down. Women want to be nowhere near that.

You've got to look at things from the women's perspective. What qualities do you have that make you a good choice? What can you do to show those qualities to them? How do you think they'll interpret what you say? You have a good body and a decent face, so I'm guessing your troubles with women are like the classic Chris Rock skit - ''Yeah, l was gonna give him some... but he just started talking."

Be the strong, silent type. You can't go wrong if you think about what you're going to say and only say the best 20% of what you're thinking. If you're willing to put yourself out there, if you can be friendly, interested and attractive without looking desperate or saying something stupid, you'll be able to get dates.

I should add that the problem with having a semi good build is that no one can tell. No one can tell if your semi muscular with a flat stomach

[GentlemanGhost]

If you work for a living, you have potential.. Because, your not lazy and your ambitious, there's a sense of "safety" there.

For sure there are girls out there that want the picket fence and babies and no more work.

And, girls who want to be spoilt, pampered by what they want, so they may work and keep all their money whilst you work and work to pay everything else.

But, there are also girls who are hopeless romantics who purely want laughter some stability and will work together to make things happen in life.

It's a bit like saying a guys wish list is big boobs, good looks, a handbag

As, others have stated, not all girls are superficial but they do not want a loser either with no ambitions, although some will fall for that type too, "saving them" or thinking they can.

Your 22.. You have a long journey/road ahead of you, it's personality mainly, I think that women love in a man... The man who smiles and looks at them, pays attention, thinks their attractive. "he finds me attractive?" type feeling.... then she finds out more about you and what your about.

You've already had an interesting journey that shows that you have a head on your shoulder and always learning, always questioning, always wanting and is only going to go forward in life.

CW

Are you REALLY 46???? Common now. You look 35.



t's a bit like saying a guys wish list is big boobs, good looks, a handbag "


Lol, I have never cared about breast size. I would marry a girl with no boobs at all if I liked her enough.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I should add that the problem with having a semi good build is that no one can tell. No one can tell if your semi muscular with a flat stomach

Walk around topless

Yessum and a half

[GentlemanGhost]

Walk around topless

Yessum and a half

It's considered *ssholish to walk around topless by modern society. It makes you look like a conceited prick.


Man, time hasn't really taken it's toll on you at all eh? Almost 47 and you STILL got it. What's your secret? I can imagine you will be hot even when your like 60 something.


Maybe it's because you didn't have kids. My parents look like and both of them had kids.

[WildChild]

My parents look like and both of them had kids.

HEhehehe, This hit my funny bone. Who was at least one of those kids?
Oh no! Did you ruin your parents!! ?Do you mean to say they would be more attractive if they didn't have you?