[Olympia]

Thank you all for caring and for all the good advice. You helped me more than you'll ever know. I hope that someday I can help others like you helped me.

I am overjoyed... My eyes have welled up with tears, as i read.. Tears of JOY!...
Much happiness to you and your sweetie.. If i were there i would hug you!
Love always makes me sooo emotional..

[jns]

chisaki, what a wonderful ending to this stage of your relationship and what a wonderful beginning to the next stage. You now have conquered the hurdle of telling what happened. You are now stronger because of it. And your fiancee has shown he is every bit the upstanding young man we expected him to be. Best wishes on everything. Are you going to tell him of this site?

[WildChild]

What a wonderful thing to see as I am ending my day. I am so happy for you. You are very fortunate to have each other. When ever you hesitate or doubt that you can share something with him, remember this day and you will know that you can.

[Allie602]

You deserve the best and I think you found him. Best wishes.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

When someone so beautiful enters this Forum, it's evident, that others see her that way, we did, he did

I wish you all the happiness and love you deserve and have, thank you for sharing your story, and being apart of this Forum...

If I said I didn't cry reading that, I would be lying....

Please stay in touch with us from time to time, people here, were not only there, but worried and eager to know it went well and that's why we love this place, the love and care.

You take care sweetheart...

CW

[chaya]

I didn't wake up until 11 AM this morning. My fiance was shaking me and asked me if I was going to sleep the whole day away. I got up and found he had fixed breakfast for us on the lanai and I can't remember ever being that happy in my life.

Then he told me that he wanted to get married soon, maybe over the holiday school break. When we got engaged we had agreed not to set the date until I had finished school. It was not the early date that worried me so much as he wants to either get married and have a honeymoon in Hawaii or get married in Hawaii so he can meet my parents. I haven't told my parents about him yet or that I am engaged. I am absolutely sure my father and probably my mother too, will never accept him as a son-in law. Not only is he not 100% Japanese like me but he is not a Buddhist like me. I told him that I would think it over. I just sent my mother an email telling her that I was engaged and was part time living with my fiance. I'm waiting to see what she says before i give him my answer. Even if my parents are against it, I will still marry him whenever he wants, I love him too much to refuse him anything.

[WildChild]

Sweetling, I think you are now open to a world of blessings. Your parents will want what is best for you but they may have different ideas of what that is.
Have you introduced you fiancee to any aspects of your culture, beliefs and practices? It may really help when the time comes to meet your family if he is comfortable with that. Are there are any Buddhist temples or community where you live that would give a neutral place for him learn something about it?

[chaya]

I have told him that I was raised in the Buddhist tradition but do not go to temple. I did go to temple with my mother and meditated a lot when I was home. It makes no difference to me what his religious beliefs are. Buddhism is more a philosophy and set of moral values than a religion anyway.

Unless my mother convinces me that both her and my father would accept him as their son in law, I never want him to meet them. When they sent me here it was like they wanted to get rid of me because of the shame I brought on the family. I have made a new life here, away from my cultural roots and I don't need them and I won't let them interfere with my marrage.

There is one thing that could be a big problem, my father now supports me; he pays for all my school expenses, my room and board with my aunt and all of my medical expenses. He also gives me a generous living allowance. If he stops doing that, I'm don't know if my fiance could afford them. Maybe if we got married I would have health insurance, I don't know. My medical expenses alone cost more than I could make if I got a part time job.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cross that bridge when you get to it...

What's important is that you are happy, money doesn't buy it and if your Dad, does do that, you will both find a way, through love...

CW

[WildChild]

Can you contact you health care provider and tell them you have family situation which may result in the loss of your insurance coverage and see if you can get an extended supply of your meds so that if you have a couple months without coverage you are OK?