[Trixareforkids]

hmm so no one has ever been friends with their exes?

There's lots of friendly Ex's but this wasn't a BF/GF relationship. It was an affair, he's still married and whether he pushes for it or not he'll still want some 'benefits' and if you're having a weak moment you may suggest it and boom, right back in it. Plus as I said before, the longer y'all are in contact, the more chance of his wife figuring/finding out. It's just not a good situation.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

hmm so no one has ever been friends with their exes?

Thinking, thinking, darn, but they always wanted that "one more"

[jen1447]

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that the sex is really, really, REALLY good and that this affair is anything but over.

[effy2014]

Jen, let me extend that to: The attention, excitement, romance AND sex are really really good. And, if they remain friends, the benefits will be extended for quite some time.

I wish the best for both women, but there is one simple truth: when these married men became unhappy in their marriages, the solution they picked was to fill the hole in their life in the arms of another woman. Not encouraging for a future relationship. Just sayin'.

[Millner]

We have both agreed the whole thing is too complicated to continue with....

Effy, please speak at me not around me.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Millner, I am not sure if you are happy with that but I am wishing you all the best. Perhaps he has a conscious, who knows.

Effy wrote

I wish the best for both women

, consequently she was speaking her mind, wishing you well as well as his wife so I see nothing wrong with how she wrote, what she wrote.

CW

[jen1447]

How are you gonna continue with the friendship, Mill?

[jns]

hmm so no one has ever been friends with their exes?

It can be done, but it does not work out in the vast majority of cases.

As for an affair becoming a relationship with a person who is already married, the only way I know for such a situation to last is for all three to be in an agreed upon framework.

[Millner]

How are you gonna continue with the friendship, Mill?

without getting too specific there is a group extended from our work that we are both involved in. I am new to this group so he has helped me a lot with understanding and we have supported each other on various issues within this group. we chat every once in awhile via text or online but it hasn't been daily. I think that's what his concern was was not that I would be a sounding board for him but more so of casual conversation and being a working team. just guessing though. I know we like each other but, we keep our distance fairly well. we haven't snuck around locally in our hometowns just those 2 incidences out of town and then the casual conversations like I've stated.

[Justice]

Millner - I think it sounds possible in your situation; and with your attitude. Best of luck.