[amy40]

interesting wave rider, that you consider walking/ talking cheating

[amy40]

he has never gotten jealous over me talking with anyone

[atskitty2]

Amy, guess it's cheating in the sense that your mental and emotional self were gratified by someone other than your husband.

The act of walking the dog with a male neighbor, to me, isn't cheating. You seemed to have a sort of fantasy or vague attraction to him.
Does your husband know about your more personal feelings about these walks, and do you think he'd still find it funny if he did?

[amy40]

all I can say, is my husband knows me

[WaveRider]

Hi amy40,

Your friend being good looking isn't the issue. I'd go with your husband's jealousy.

If you're going to have a dog walking partner, it makes sense to want one who's good looking. Good for you. Enjoy his company. Just don't bang him.

Fantasizing about sex is not cheating. Talking sex is not cheating. The line is crossed with intimacy.

I'm friends with many women. I've talked sex with a of of them. One wanted my advice on number of dates before she had sex with a guy. Another asked me if it were appropriate to ask a new boyfriend to submit to STD testing and show her the results before sex. Another wanted to know how to cause her b/f to crave her. That was hard to answer because men are not clones. Oh yeah, I forgot about the woman who asked me about Viagra. She wanted to know whether she she might have to give oral sex to a man who takes Viagra for two hours. After she asked, I busted out laughing. It was an off-the-wall hilarious question. She was 100% serious. While I knew nothing about Viagra, I told her that no man would expect a woman to perform oral sex on him for two hours. I told her that she determined how long she might want to do it. Whether he came during oral sex would probably be beyond her control.

[Stillness]

I see anything erotic with someone else as cheating. That would include flirting.

There are different degrees. Flirting is not the same as sex, but they would both be a violation.

[Popcorn&Candy]

Some people are natural flirts and this seems like cheating, but to them it's just flirting. However, if a husband was chatting up a woman with his wife nearby, that wouldn't be right at all: even though it wasn't cheating. If the person starts to feel like a paranoid banshee, chances are he/she has picked up hints that all is not rosy in the relationship. To some women a husband [as an example] kissing a woman on the cheek would be thought of as cheating and downright disrespect. I suppose it's common sense with what defines cheating. It is also emotional: because if you're suddenly smelling a woman's perfume on your husbands shirt, you will feel he has violated your trust. It really depends on the individuals boundaries and what he/she classes as cheating.

[amy40]

wave rider.....thought that because of your post "that would be cheating" right after my walking dog/talking with neighbor post











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[WaveRider]

interesting wave rider, that you consider walking/ talking cheating

I have no clue where you came up with that. I hope the opposite view. Cheating involves physical contact.

[ClaireKay]

I ended a relationship a few months ago because she was cheating.
She started hooking up with a woman we had a threesome with.