[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm hoping stressed won't see that we hijacked her thread, na, she'll laugh...

I guess we have to wait and see how he reacts to her suggestion and I'm hoping he says, "good idea"....

And, um, well, I love your posts, but the fact I had to check means, I had second thoughts, or remembered you saying in a post once, "I'm a guy", one of the two, checked your page lol's... and edited.

Hey at least I'm honest.

SORRY STRESSED, SERIOUSLY, PROMISE NO MORE HI-JACKING...! Hope it's all good news when you return.

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[LanaBear]

Don't let it fester... Have the discussion with him, even with her last e-mail. But, I think you will have to judge his reaction and so forth based on the conversation you have. See how it meshes with the e-mails she has sent you. I think it is going to have to be a spur of the moment decision on whether you bring up the 'last' call or not.

[rcoreyus]

From what you have seen, I don't see any reason to think that something is still going on. I don't think there is much reason to press your SO on this - it would just be a distraction from other problems in your relationship. If he is innocent (he probably is, but of course you can't know) then complaining will make him feel righteous and think he is the injured party.

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[Mes T]

My goodness wouldn't it have been fantastic if this woman had never written him in the first place. JEEZ, some people, I swear. Well... I hope you're right and that she's truly moved on.

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[Hopeless Dork]

Yeah, I wouldnt grace that garbage with a reply, hun. Just who the bleep does she think she is that she needs to screen his happiness before he marries... uh... last i heard the groom doesn't need to ask some online "friend" 's permission to get married. Does she honestly think she knows whats best for him, that she needed to "make sure" he was happy, blah blah... he is a grown man, and she hasn't been in the picture in 2 years, she knows not the man she speaks of. She mentioned before "people change" she should remember she's not the only one that is capable of change, and whatever silly hold she had on him is no longer there.

If you respond to her, my gut feeling is she is going to give back handed jabs to make you feel insecure in your relationship... tossing in a he told me this, he told me that... and every opportunity. Close the chapter on her, don't reply to her emails and get back to the life she is unable to interrupt without you or your fiance's permission