[WildChild]

You need to have forwarded that email to at least one or two trusted people or he can get at it through your email and delete it. Don't think he can't.

Don't think that somehow he will change and become your dream man. It won't happen. You cannot build a relationship on cohersion. He is trying to control you but by having all this and holding over his head instead of giving it to the proper authorities, you are trying to control him and get him to do what you want. Neither of you can win with with this strategy.
Face the facts. This man is toxic and he is dangerous. Playing games with him puts you at high risk, very high risk.
Cut ties with him, get the pictures and information to the appropriate authorities and go find a job, start supporting yourself and own your life. Until you do you will simply find yourself in the same situation over and over.

[Ashlee T.]

No threat made against your well being should ever be taken as "idle". We all want to hope they're idle..... Christina (the murder victim I wrote about on my blog on Courage Network) told a friend at work the day before she was brutally murdered about his threats and all the anger and all the things he said he was going to do to her...... she wrote them off as idle threats....saying "he's said it all before...he's just made right now". Yeah...he was mad...mad enough to kill, and he did. There is nothing idle about a threat to your physical well being.

Everything you say "he says I can't do this" or "says I can't do that" or etc.....that's all very irrelevant. Not to you I know.....but irrelevant just the same. Why? Because he is an ABUSER, he is a man that does not love you (PERIOD), he is a man that hurts you, and he is a man that you historically continue to carry on with no matter what he does. Does it matter that he tells you not to eat bacon? No...because he hits you with a belt. Does that make sense? Not eating bacon won't kill you. Being beaten to death will. It's ALL part of the abuse, and until you realize this is not love, he does not love you, he is NEVER going to bring you anything but hurt and heartache......until you realize it, you'll continue on and subject yourself to the abuse............until it's too late.


What's more likely with Brian: him to beat you to death or him to love you and treat you like a queen? I think if you're being honest with yourself, him beating you to death is WAAAAY more likely. You know this man doesn't love you.

So what's it going to take? A beating? A swollen brain from head trauma from beating? Cat feces shoved in your mouth? To be hogtied and stomped? Blood? ...............thats what it took for Christina. She's dead. What's it going to take for you to be done with this man?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey karen,

Any progress? Hoping your not thinking backwards and still realising your worth and where your headng, in a better life eventually....

CW

[karenshiver]

Hey karen,

Any progress? Hoping your not thinking backwards and still realising your worth and where your headng, in a better life eventually....

CW

not doing so well... i just sold my soul to the devil (meaning the devil is brian)

[Ashlee T.]

not doing so well... i just sold my soul to the devil (meaning the devil is brian)

Why..........?

[karenshiver]

I played the only card I had... I trumped him. I got my food, he got Maria... sounds like he got the short end of the stick.

[karenshiver]

For all I care, he can have sex with her 24/7... to care, I would have to love him, and, I stopped loving him today.

[karenshiver]

and when he takes me out to dinner, i will drink and order steak and lobster and he will get mad and never take me out to dinner again and i will laugh because i will get what i want and i will never have to have dinner with him again

[Ashlee T.]

Don't fool yourself my friend. Going to dinner with him is not for a free meal. It's not....be honest with yourself. He may pay....but I promise you that meal will be ANYTHING but free. Seeing him in anyway, communicating with him in any way is a mistake. And if you truly do not love him anymore, you wouldn't even consider it. .......so again I ask.........Why?

[karenshiver]

Brian... brain... hmmm

Brian = scrambled brain!