[myhealth]

Hi,
Thanks alot for the reply. I agree i am already sharing him with a hope that i will not share him for lifetime. Some day he will become completely mine. hmmm lets see what is in stores for me. Thanks to all you sweetheats. I really appreciate your time and patience to read and understand my story.

[myhealth]

THE DISCUSSION IS CLOSED PLEASE.
Thank you

[Maximus]

What happened in the past between you two no longer belongs to you, there is nothing you can do change that. The fact that you did this or that, said this or that is gone.

Yet, we must learn from our mistakes.
There are a couple I can see:

(1) Moving into a relationship with strong emotional ties without clearing the previous relationships

(2) Giving yourself away: Establishing that the more you "surrender" yourself, that being somehow the "measure" of your love

(3) Not being clear about what draws you into him: Although you didn't specifically say this, all your actions show that you are drawn towards him, no matter what he does, or doesn't do.

Once you clearly establish the answers to these for you, your goals and purposes for you, then you would take ownership of your actions in a conscious way, and no longer as a victim.

Another simple measure, someone that loves you would never want you to be attached, in a needy way, but rather see you outgrow him/her.

[Maximus]

Apparently I missed the deadline by 2 min....arghhhhhh

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Why is it closed?

You wanted opinions....

I say let people provide them...

You are in a hard place still hurting from 1, 2, 3. and you NEED to read people's thoughts, even if you are not ready for them yet, for later when you need to read...


Defence usually means that something has struck a cord.

That's okay ...It's okay......

Read what I wrote and what the last poster wrote,, if all that is happening? Then it's okay, if it's not? then you are wasting your life.

CW

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Apparently I missed the deadline by 2 min....arghhhhhh

Nup I encourage people to answer patience is a key, called time

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What happened in the past between you two no longer belongs to you, there is nothing you can do change that. The fact that you did this or that, said this or that is gone.

Yet, we must learn from our mistakes.
There are a couple I can see:

(1) Moving into a relationship with strong emotional ties without clearing the previous relationships

(2) Giving yourself away: Establishing that the more you "surrender" yourself, that being somehow the "measure" of your love

(3) Not being clear about what draws you into him: Although you didn't specifically say this, all your actions show that you are drawn towards him, no matter what he does, or doesn't do.

Once you clearly establish the answers to these for you, your goals and purposes for you, then you would take ownership of your actions in a conscious way, and no longer as a victim.

Another simple measure, someone that loves you would never want you to be attached, in a needy way, but rather see you outgrow him/her.

AMEN...

Think clearly on this.

[spurzzz]

Ok, here is my intake on all of this:

Love can blind us all, especially our first major experience of it and I can safely assume this is your first love, as he claimed your virginity. Now for a cultural woman like yourself this is a big deal. You are emotionally involved with this man in which you claim Sex to be the combination of 2 souls.

It is because you are emotionally involved with this man you cannot think straight. I am basing this judgement on many contradictions you have made within your posts on this topic. You do not want to except the truth, and that is you need to be as far away from this man as possible.

Question: If sex is the combination of 2 souls and so sacred for you and him, then why did he leave you and have sex with other women? This man has proved that this is not true for him! And you hun are only feeling like this because he is your first experience! Believe me, find yourself another man and see what true love is....................................true love does not involve checking up and worrying about each other!!

No man/women is worth loosing your friends over, love does not do that.....I have experienced this and have regreted it sincerely. You will learn one day as we have all, no one said Love was easy!

This is a common scenario more then you think and no matter how much you think he is different and has changed and will leave eventually for you - NO he will NOT! Simple. People may disagree with me here, But you need to be harsh and make tough decisions when it comes to life changing moments like this!

This man has never put you first. Has he? He has always made excuses. You are just conveneient for him and as CW has pointed out, why don't you leave him and tell him you will never come back until he divorces? There is no excuses here, tell him to sort it or your gone. No excuses!

This is your first experience of Love. You do not know what true Love is. Go live your life and find out what it really is about.

I wish you the very best in life

[myhealth]

I got enough opinions. All you women mean to say her is
He is taking me for granted
Its better to let this here without proceeding further with a jumbled knots(our relationship)
What draws me towards him??? I have no language or words to put this across
All of you here are offending what i am doing and what i have done. I was in this opinion that happened is happened and let me move on in life. If i am happy this way, let me be. But i also understand that i shouldn't regret in future wanting to keep myself happy at present. I dont want to accept this that he is wrong choice for me as i love him and he loves me so much,(If i think emotionally) but logically i am an emotional fool is what you all mean. Anyways i am still confused. Now i know until the time comes to solve my problem,it wont be. The more i try to find a solution, the more i am The more I am getting hurt. How should I explain this that he is not fooling me or taking me for granted. He is protecting me and now that he is deeply in love with me. He is not able to do anything and just taking time. But again I know in this while I may lose out my age. Hmmm time heals all.. Let me see what happens.

[myhealth]

Hi spurzzz.
Thank you for your opinion. When he got married and had s*x with his wife, i was not there in his life as he was not serious about me at that time and i was like a passing cloud. I agree he is wrong here. But the 3rd time when we met after his wife was pregnent, we got close and fell deeply in love with each other and this time i mean to say is he and i are very serious about each other.