[torn2pieces]

It's been awhile...sorry I have been moved out since the beginning of May. I have not had to use resources for some stuff. There has been no issues pertaining to the kids. But I of course am sad and confused. He desires to "earn" me back as he says. I've tried to let him but I hurt too bad to not be upset with him. We have had to work together with moving into our own places and separating stuff and we don't fight and we can have good times and we have enjoyed those and it makes everything hard. I'm going out of town in a few weeks to see my cousin and I'm really looking forward to that cause my baby boy is staying here with dad. Thanks for all the support.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hey sweet, it's harder when you move into different places but try to have a relationship it does confuse you as you think maybe it may work? I've been there too.

Take this time to reflect on everything, time out is exactly what you need

But why are you looking forward to it because you have time to yourself without your baby? Or time to your self to think..

CW

[JadedQueen]

I just sat here and read all the posts and I feel for you torn. Time heals all wounds, I know it's easy to say but reflecting back on past relationships I can honestly say even though you don't feel like it will.... your wounds will heal.
I am happy to hear that you and he are getting along and not fighting/arguing because that's not good for the children, even if they don't hear or see it, they can feel the tension.

If you are ever having a weak moment healing from these wounds, or if in future relationship (which is probably beyond the realm of consideration at the current time) Read my signature tag... write it down, and read it aloud to yourself. I hope those words provide you with strength, I know those words have caused me to evaluate situations and decide how to proceed. Take care of yourself and know that we are all here for you when and if you need us. This forum is extremely supportive and IMO better than therapy (then again, I've never been able to afford therapy)... but it's always available 24/7. Stay strong.

[wendilee]

torn2pieces, coming out of a marriage, that i was cheated on, i am going to tell you that if he had anything to hide, he would not leave his private stuff open for you to see. He does this so you will know that he is being faithful to you, that he is an open book, wants you to know that you dont ever have to snoop. I too would want to know what the conversation he had with this other girl was all about, and it would probly eat me up inside, but ask yourself this, is it worth the arguement that you may endure for snooping? do you REALLY, DEEP DOWN, feel as if he is seeing someone else?
you had incredible sex and he is telling you that he is all yours. I understand that you are cautious because you have been hurt before, u can not however, bring that baggage into your relationship now.
he is not the man who hurt you. I know how hard this is. it will be worth it in the end. Your lover sounds like a wonderful man. embrace all of the good in this relationship and ride it out.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I just sat here and read all the posts and I feel for you torn. Time heals all wounds, I know it's easy to say but reflecting back on past relationships I can honestly say even though you don't feel like it will.... your wounds will heal.

Please member's read the origional post to the end before replying, otherwise you are only answering the beginning which has long passed

Hopeless Dork, please go ahead..

[torn2pieces]

But why are you looking forward to it because you have time to yourself without your baby? Or time to your self to think..

CW

Yes cause I won't have my son and he is a handful. I have mentioned my cousin on here before, she is the only person I talked to this about in the very beginning, it was always hard to appreciate our friendship and depend on her because she moved to another State. But I am going to see her in few days and the break plus being with my best friend that I miss so much AND not having my son...I love him...got him potty trained...need a break

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I can hear the tiredness in your voice If you know what I mean.

It seems you just need some me time, un-conditionally all way around and we all need that sweet...At some stage...

It sounds also that alot of bonding needs to be had when you see her....

[wendilee]

i apologize for not reading all the way thru, i was interupted and forgot i hadnt finished reading.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

torn2pieces, coming out of a marriage, that i was cheated on, i am going to tell you that if he had anything to hide, he would not leave his private stuff open for you to see. He does this so you will know that he is being faithful to you, that he is an open book, wants you to know that you dont ever have to snoop. I too would want to know what the conversation he had with this other girl was all about, and it would probly eat me up inside, but ask yourself this, is it worth the arguement that

wendilee It was for "all" posters they do it all the time, you have a reason this was close to your heart and so you spoke it's okay....We all do it, it's natural you see something that touches you? And you type no need to apologise.....

What you wrote irrespective was good advise.............

CW

[torn2pieces]

Hello all, my great supporters.

This whole summer was fights of words and why why why between him and I. This whole summer he begged and begged me to take him back, to let him earn me back, and I did. I have let him back. It's been okay, nothing spetacular. He has shared a lot with me, he even told me that the one time they had sex he couldn't finish, didn't finish and was very upset afterwards and that she knew what was up. So alot of conversations have taken place. But my problem is that I have ANGER, lots of anger for this girl and I will probably post a new thread for advice cause I am doing things I shouldn't (such has trying to befriend her new man, and yes that includes snooping through her social pages to find out what is going on in her life). I am not trying to cheat, or sleep with her man, but ruin any and everything that she has. HELP me, I'm out of my character. Maybe if would not of taken him back I could move on but I have tried and I can't, I have anger and I want revenge.