[lostinlove123]

Thank you so much for posting everyone! Around the time I stopped posting was the time He finally called me. It was a fast conversation he did say he missed me and he loved me. Then he told me were he went not in detail just that he went out with some girls to a pool party. and today he will go to a movie again with the same group of girls and after that they will all go out to a bar. He then starting telling me about his school and what he is learning. Then he told me he is tierd and needs to get up early becasue he dont want to miss going out again. He said he is so happy and haveing fun ....I did not show any sings of what my post have showed on here. I was very supportive ( even thought to my self i burned up every time he talked about the girls he was hanging out with) Yet I did tell him that i'm worried about him when he does not leave messages becasue if makes me think somthing has happened to him..He said to me not to worry he is fine and that he will try leaving a message now and then to let me know he is alright...I know it was probably not a good idea to say i worry about him...b/c i seem desperate. Now should I let this change anything??? Or should I only leave messages unless he does? epp i never had to think about this before ( silly right) It was always just ok call leave a message he get back..i have never had to think to my self " ok should i not message or message now" haha.I guess this is a good slap in the face for me, it seems i have been to clingy, worryed , stressed for him...What do you all think? Thanks a bunch again everyone the support is amazing here

[lostinlove123]

oh i also forgot to add...I am going to take the class. I dont think he is going to be happy with me b/c he has told me time and time again that its a wast of time and money. I belive he tells me this only becasue he really thinks the class does not benifite me as far as our future goals together...I do admite it is not a big leap in the direction of being a horse farm manager but the class does involve animals ( the class is a first aid on all animals large and small ) and this class is somthing I have looked at over and over and have wanted to take now for years. It's somthing I have put off becasue I am also making my self belive its a wast of time and money..I will not get a fancy degree out of it, simply a certificate..But the heck with it I'm signing up today..I feel bad not going over this with him ( we go over all decishions together) but by reading your post I feel you are all right. I can be my own person and his life partner at the same time.

[MinnieGem]

glad to hear you heard from him hun, keep your chin up things will fall into place and doing this first aid class on animals is a great idea considering you want to open a horse farm someday, not to mention it can help you get into anything along the lines of working with animals if you chose to take a different career path...what if you had a house pet cat/dog/bird etc and something happened to them, the knowledge of first aid for animals is a great thing to have! good luck in whatever it is you choose!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You definately need to be independent, assertive and the only way you can do that is to do things for yourself, make management decisions, you've discussed it with him that's important but he didn't say "don't do it" so do it..The horse farm may take some time to save for, there is a wedding, there is a house, all in priorities.

Now, as far as texting? DON'T DO IT

So he's reverted to his youth, a sort of "single life" enjoying it and having fun...BUT, he's still ignoring you and called when "he" felt like it? And, now he'll "try" to text why? Because you didn't react, because he probably after the second day went oops now I am in the shirt, didn't have the guts and also because he was / is partying hard enjoying himself, that's still not fair to you and when he gets back, you need to tell him it was disrespectful and you are his fiance, partying with girls is disrespectful...and stand your ground...because otherwise he will do what he wants, when he wants all throughout your future.....and you will be the puppy dog, yes boss.

[lostinlove123]

should i not text even if he text me?..I know he is out and about..and I always have and did trust him as far as being around girls..but ever sence this little episode im haveing other feelings as you all know...Silly question i know ( considering i know him best) but how can i tell if he is cheating...i know its wierd to think about but i dont want to find out after he comes back and we have sex and maybe i catch somthing...( omg thats horrible of me )..is there way i could no..i know he hangs out with girls all day but is that really i sign of cheating? I really hope he is not...i trusted him and should not even think this..but its on my mind

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm not saying play a game with him Off course, if he texts you, text him back, did he ask you how you have been, what you have been up to? Did he say he missed you?

Do you think he has it in him to cheat? Did he hang out with girls before, when he was home? Does he have "girlfriends" at home? Does he flirt?

I think the only way you would know is to say something like " so what was it like hanging out with so many girls, which one did you get closest to?" Like a double meaning question, without accusation..And watch his body language look into his eyes, usually they tell a story if guilty

[lostinlove123]

he was not all conserned as of what im doing till I told him I fell of my horse and hurt my knee then he got conserned..lol..He did say he missed me and he told me that I would love it were he was its so fun. truthfully he is a natural flirt weather he knows it or not ( or maybe just alittle show-off). Before me and him got together he had all girls as friends and i had mostly guys as friends..so we both have always been like that..but once we got together and started dateing ( first couple yrs) he was not happy that i kept all my guy friends...so they kinda disappered and so did all his gal friends...so wehn we were living together we had couple friends and i had gal friends and he had guy friends..but neither of us would go out to hang with just guys or just girls unless we are together..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Remind him of that when he returns

He's having too much fun to ask you how you have been? I can tell that he's not worried you will stray, maybe you should say hey, my besty has a party coming up, she has loads of male friends going to it, but it's okay, I'll behave

[MinnieGem]

While you’re on your way to where you’re going, enjoy where you are. Don’t wait until everything is perfect before you decide to enjoy your life.
Got this perfect little saying sent to me on Facebook today thought id share it!

[lostinlove123]

oh gee lol he will get upset..all i have to say is my best gf is coming over and that will do it. He doent like her b/c when we were younger before i met my fiancee me and my bff went out alot drinking and partying..he thinks shes a bad example and when my finacee and my bff met they didnt like each other..now things are ok the only time he gets upset is if i go off with her alown b/c he worried about me.