ya really... :-/ i dont know what to do if i do talk to him i think it will have to be when he gets home.. I dont want him to mess up in school by fighting with me..its also hard b/c i am not good at holding things in haha but ill try
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Yeah na, what's good for the goose is good for the gander you are going to be asssertive right?
What? He's not doing anything he's engaged, you trust him same for you...Your besty has a party do it
This is the biggest test of all time and a way in which you can say er herm, sorry? You are partying with a whole lot of girls and I trust you? I'm going... You trust me right?
PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!Comment
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my friends like an hour away so i was going to go drive down to see her and spend the night..but i havent got the chance to have this convo with him..b/c last night after his movie night and bar time he never left me a message...and this morning there are no messages either..So i'm thinking about going tomorrow so i can have this convo with him tonight..if he calls or messages me..if he does'nt then i dont know i guess i just leave??...leave him a message " ok gone to sam's for 2 days luv ya hun"..will this work?Comment
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well now this is interesting...my hun called me tonight said he missed me and loved me..and i just happend to metion
that im not going to be home tomorrow and ill be at my friends..well he got very concerned and told me to call him alot when I was there...I know he wasnt so happy b/c he does not like my friend sam...I told him everything will be fine and he told me again to make sure I call. so after that we just talked about his class and the things im doing and thats about it....by the way in the past i just never went to sams to avoid him being upset..and tonight i did not back down when i noticed his feeling were alittle tense i just kept talking in a positve tone about other things
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I agree with WC, see you are starting to be "assertive" and there was nothing he could say about it, because that would be like calling the kettle black.
See how "now" you are allowed to get in touch with him? I wouldn't be calling personally, I'd just send a text night sweet all is well and that's it...PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!Comment
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I think that WC and CW have been giving you good advice. As a husband for a of a long time I would always call in the evening for a chat if I was working away from home. Even just to assure myself that everything was OK.
Even though I know you will follow your heart you need to start acting more from logical process.
He is treating you as if he you were is mother- not calling for days and then making a catchup call.
To me this indicates he is no longer thinking of you as his partner.
He will be back sooner than you think and you need to confront him about his actions. He is not looking like a good bet to be a solid long term partner.Comment
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All your advice is so good thank you so much! :-D... Well he called me at my friends..and sure enouph got upset b/c i was there and could " be doing other things more productive" and that it was wrong for me to spend the night at my friends b/c she has a bf and i stayed at there apartment on the couch..he did make a good point..he said " you were sleeping in a house with sams BF..so you were sleeping with another guy in the next room, and worstly im not there"..i explained i was on the couch downstairs..but he is all ****ed off that i went...1st b/c he dont like sam 2nd her bf was there....by the way its not like i have a choice they do live together...so ya he is up set but still talked to me last night..Comment
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its not even worth going anymore..or even telling him i go if i have to deal with feeling bad b/c his feelings are hurt.Comment
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No No No
You have done the right thing. You are no longer being a doormat.
Doormats are ignored until some dirt needs to be removed from his shoes.
You need to show your independence from his control.
I know in a perfect world that you should not have to do this and that he would respect you because you put an effort in and are compliant- however if you carry on as you are he will just wipe his feet on you,
The old saying comes to mind- Treat them mean and keep them keen.Comment
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