[chaya]

I think "karma' means what's predestined in our lives ? I think Kismer is another name for it,

What karma means to me is hard to explain. Wikipedia has a good explanation, google Karma in Buddhism.

[jns]

A very interesting turn of events.

[jen1447]

Got any updates chaya? You mentioned or implied in another thread that the festivities are continuing with you and Kiyomi. I think we'd all be curious to know more about how it's shaking out.

(Not the festivities specifically lol, whatever arrangement is happening.)

[chaya]

We'r still struggling to adjust, at least I am struggling. For hubby and Kiyomi there isn't much adjustment necessary. I am in the "middle" in that I have sex with both of them, but never at the same time. Hubby and Kiyomi seems to have bonded, not sexually but as friends. When I'm at work she gets up at 5:30 and fixes his breakfast. When I get home at 7:30 she fixes my breakfast.

Sex happens with both of them; but of course, not at the same time, that will never happen. I'm so afraid that my inlaws or my parents will find out, they would not understand. My sister knows but she will not tell them. When I told her, she said "your screwed" which meant I'm in over my head and there's no way out. She plans to come visit in a week but I don't know where she'll sleep, I have the same problem sometimes, where should I sleep, so I don't get much sleep at all.

[jen1447]

Pretty interesting. Can I ask a couple related questions? This would be more for my own curiosity than to help you find answers this time lol.

[chaya]

Pretty interesting. Can I ask a couple related questions? This would be more for my own curiosity than to help you find answers this time lol.

Ask anything...

[jen1447]

Ok thanks.

Did your hubs sign off completely on your continued sexual relationship with Kiyomi, or is it still somewhat illicit?
How does Kiyomi feel about your current situation? It sounds like her emotions have evened out a bit.
Is the sex with your hubs still rejuvenated - do you orgasm regularly with him?
Is your hubs aware of the romantic love you share with Kiyomi yet, or does he still think it's only physical?
Are you more sexually satisfied at this point by your hubs or Kiyomi?
What kind of adjustment struggles are you experiencing - just maintaining two relationships at the same time or is it more than that?

Part of the reason I ask this is that I'm seriously thinking about having a real girlfriend again, in addition to my BF. I'm finding I can love more than one person - real romantic love - and maybe even more than two lol. I guess I have a big appetite.

[chaya]

Did your hubs sign off completely on your continued sexual relationship with Kiyomi, or is it still somewhat illicit?

He's ok with it, he don't consider intimacy between two women as sex.

How does Kiyomi feel about your current situation? It sounds like her emotions have evened out a bit.

She is happy to be staying here, she's become good friends with my husband and she loves my daughter. She feels she has to do her share so she does most of the housework. She starts the summer session at school next month.

Is the sex with your hubs still rejuvenated - do you orgasm regularly with him?

Sex with him is much better than before but I only orgasm about half the time. It hasn't been long enough to really tell.

Is your hubs aware of the romantic love you share with Kiyomi yet, or does he still think it's only physical?

I've told him but I don't think he fully understands how I feel about her.

Are you more sexually satisfied at this point by your hubs or Kiyomi?

It's every time with Kiyomi but with my hubby it is more intense, I try not to compare.

What kind of adjustment struggles are you experiencing - just maintaining two relationships at the same time or is it more than that?

I take it one day at a time, I always worry our families will find out. Sometimes I feel a little jealous when hubby and Kiyomi get too friendly but I don't know who I'm jealous about. I wonder how I would feel if they got intimate, even I know it will never happen. When I'm not working I wonder who I should sleep with, so I usually end up staying up until I almost drop. I worry about getting intimate with Kiyomi too soon after being with my husband. It takes at least a day for all that semen leave my body. Even though it's too early, I wonder how this arrangement will affect my daughter. I can't really say I'm happy with things right now, I hope it improves later. Things would be a lot easier if we all didn't live in the same house.

[jen1447]

Thanks.