[darcdante]

This just happened to me and I want to die. My boyfriend was so rude and accused me of having anal sex with other men. He said he read that is why this happens. I have been with no one but him. I am so upset and sick to my stomach.

Maybe show him this thread so he knows it's not that abnormal? Though I'd hope that your boyfriend would be more trusting of you. No one should accuse the other of cheating without some solid evidence.

[sungirl]

You are not crazy.. my ex came over this morning and we decided to have one last day of passion.. to make a long story short i pooped while sitting on him facing him and it wasnt just a little.. he told me not too feel bad and kinda ran out of my apt after showering-wasnt that upset about the running out part cuz he always did that(thats why we broke up). but was expecting a fone call to see if i was ok because honestly after he left i tried to think of situation that was more embaressing and i could not come up with one.. i tried calling him and he hasnt returned my fone call.. I'm also very upset.. i just experienced the most humiliating experience of my life and he could care less... I am i crazy????

This just happened to me. It was absolutely horrible. My boyfriend accused me of having anal sex with other men. (He says he read that is why that would happen) I am so upset. I have never had anal sex. He will not talk to me and is calling me a liar. I want to just die. I am so sad and embarrassed.

[Jex]

This to has happened to me, after a good few drinks with my boyfriend things started to get heated ... when it happened luckily it was dark and he just thought it was a little bit of blood (usually get that, been to the doctors, told it's nothing :S), after i realised what it was i went to the bathroom baffled and had a wash, i trust my boyfriend of nine months so i told him what it was and all he did was ask if i was ok and if he could do anything, after all, there isn't a part of me that that bloke hasn't seen so i thought what the lol ... by the look of this thread it happens to the majority of us

[caroblox]

Shoot, that sounds terribly embarrassing. And to think that just today I told my boyfriend about a fantasy of mine, which includes anal... We're planning on doing it next week, but now I'm scared. Should I tell him about my concerns? He knows it's possible but I think he thinks you have to want to do it for it to happen. I don't want to freak him out, but I don't want to have even the slightest bowel movement during sex either...

[Texinator]

Shoot, that sounds terribly embarrassing. And to think that just today I told my boyfriend about a fantasy of mine, which includes anal... We're planning on doing it next week, but now I'm scared. Should I tell him about my concerns? He knows it's possible but I think he thinks you have to want to do it for it to happen. I don't want to freak him out, but I don't want to have even the slightest bowel movement during sex either...

You should maybe say something just so that you get it off your chest and are less nervous when you try anal.

As the saying goes, '**** happens.' ..and if it does happen, just clean up and then get back to having fun. You're swapping all kinds of bodily fluids anyway and it's not like a little bit o poop is going to kill anyone.

[sourpuss]

This just happened to me. It was absolutely horrible. My boyfriend accused me of having anal sex with other men. (He says he read that is why that would happen) I am so upset. I have never had anal sex. He will not talk to me and is calling me a liar. I want to just die. I am so sad and embarrassed.

That's ridiculous! He sounds jealous and unable to deal with anything out of the ordinary that he doesn't have control over. Accidents happen, doesn't mean you're sleeping around. If he can't wrap his head around that, then it's time to move on to someone more mature.

[bubbles]

has any girl gone in that area with a guy? during oral sex? It happens to them too, let me tell ya! So i didnt run out screaming.... that sort of thing goes with the territory. But also, sex is being relaxed and enjoying bodies. Its really not too big a deal.

[Lunar_Lilith]

I was shocked when I found this thread...and yup, its happened to me too about a year ago. I tried anal and guess what was on his penis when he pulled out...a little bit of the poo :/. I was so embarrassed, and like many of you ladies here I cried and wanted to die. I even told him i was gonna kill myself. But, we never talked about it after that. All this happened with my ex boyfriend, I'm not with that guy anymore. But now, I'm with someone that I truly love and want to be with, and I want to please him in anyway that i can. He feels the same way. And well, he wants to have anal sex with me..he doesn't know about what happened to me the first/last time I tried anal. Now, I'm afraid to have anal sex with my boyfriend because I'm afraid, well scared to DEATH that I'm going to have the same accident and i'm going to go through with it all over again. I can't bear to feel the same embarrassment and pain I did before. However, I'm thinking of taking the risk again because i love my boyfriend that much. I looked online and found that a woman has to make sure her bowels are empty and stuff at least an hour before anal sex, so umm, if i do it again, I might not eat the entire DAY lol. I don't know what to do though, honestly. I don't want to have another accident...wow this was long.

[Faerunner]

Lilith, just relax, and remember that anal is great fun! If you are really nervous there are products to clean you out, so to speak. Fiber supplements, enemas... take your pick and prepare accordingly. I rarely worry about it; we've only once made a complete mess of things and that was very early in our relationship. We cleaned up and moved on, and I can pretty accurately judge now whether we can do anal on the fly or whether I need to go use the bathroom first. If poop happens, it's natural and that's what we have soap and hot water for.

You can and should eat something that day! It can take over 24 hours for food to move all the way through your digestive system anyway, so if you're eating healthy and have regular BMs you shouldn't disrupt your diet.

Oh, and if he wants to try it, he should know what's going to go on back there! It might be embarrassing but you can also ask if he wants you to clean yourself out beforehand. If you know what he expects you will be less worried about what he doesn't expect

[Jacks-UP]

So it was only on the condom and you didn’t even know it happened? Did you actually see it or did you just assume because he told you? I have to ask because sometimes guys can be really immature and think something might sound funny in their heads that’s not in real life. Especially since if something ever happened like that to me I’d probably just throw it out and not even mention it or tell you.