[SFDad]

This reminds me of something a friend once said to me- "I can't imagine being married all my life to someone who didn't want to go down on me".

My point isn't that you should do something you don't want to do, but to think about what you are missing, and realize that even if your boyfriend thinks he is okay doing without, if you have a life time relationship, he will likely be obsessed with it the whole time.

So deal with it- for both of your sakes. If you really don't want to, and cannot envision it ever- and he thinks someday...maybe...well this will hurt both of you in the long run.

My wife tells me about her friends who tell her they have never done it- and now they are in the 30's or 40's and scared to try. My advice- the shower idea is a great idea- and then experiment with playing with it with your mouth- he does not need to come in your mouth! This is all great foreplay. If you learn to associate licking with foreplay, you might find yourself more inspired.

Just fyi wife loves giving oral sex because she feels completely in control.

[ItsASecret]

Since I am such a shy woman I was timid at first to give head. He is my first boyfriend, and I am his first girlfriend so I was thinking "I have no idea what to do even if I did it" and he wouldn't be able to teach me what to do. I knew that he wanted to and I said I needed time, and he let me have it. Eventually I gave in doing it out of guilt, which is horrible but it made me realize that it actually isn't that bad. Sure the first few times were awkward and not the greatest for me but I knew that he really enjoyed it so I kept it up. Even today I will do it when he asks, but not out of guilt. I enjoy going down on him and knowing that his moans are of pleasure are because of me. It is rare for me to initiate going down on him but I do sometimes get those urges to do it, and he absolutely loves it because I am such a shy woman. I suggest you just take your time, experiment with little licks up the shaft and maybe just put the tip in your mouth. Don't just jump right into trying to get the whole thing in, find what makes you comfortable and let him know that.

[amaranthine]

I would have to agree with SFDad. There is definitely a feeling of control in giving head. There's so much you can do - so much teasing! It really is great foreplay, not to say it isn't also an amazing solo act!
There's something very empowering about bringing a man to orgasm with little more than tongue movements and some suction - all very controlled by YOU.
I like to work my boyfriend up, then stop and look at him before starting again and finishing him. I can do anything, stop and start as I please, tease him, and make him cum. My boyfriend and I have a kind of "sign" for a blow job.

[amaranthine]

I would have to agree with SFDad. There is definitely a feeling of control in giving head. There's so much you can do - so much teasing! It really is great foreplay, not to say it isn't also an amazing solo act!
There's something very empowering about bringing a man to orgasm with little more than tongue movements and some suction - all very controlled by YOU.
I like to work my boyfriend up, then stop and look at him before starting again and finishing him. I can do anything, stop and start as I please, tease him, and make him cum. My boyfriend and I have a kind of "sign" for a blow job.

Dunno how I hit reply before I was done.... but okay...

The sign is when we're kissing, I lightly brush my tongue along his lower lip. It's to the point now where whenever I do it, with or without context, he gets turned on and wants head.
But I'm in control of that situation.

And so are you. Don't forget it.

[Awoman2]

I agree that people shouldn't be forced into anything they don't want to do, but people sometimes go elsewhere looking for what they want. So if you won't go down on him, someone else just might.

[Hayles]

What is it you don't like about giving head? I agree you should never do anything you are not comfortable with doing. Have you ever tried giving head? You might find that once you give it a go and see your partner loving it, you might get turned on and like it eventually!

Or could you not try a 69er then you are getting pleasured at the same time and it may take your mind off of what your doing!

I say just give it a go once and if you really can't stand it, at least you tried! x

[Awoman2]

I used to be slightly grossed out about giving head, but it was not that way fro all my partners. The guy who took my virginity at 19 had never been given head (based on his reaction) and even more so when I swallowed his cum. That was my first time, too, but I had read about it enough.

My ex-husband and I 69'ed a lot but I didn't always feel like doing him. My current lover, however, just has to whip it out and I'm ready to fall on my knees, because he just does that to me. Even if I just see his nipple, I'm ready to suck: I just can't resist it. When you care for someone a lot it can make a lot of difference. You just want to please him, and pleasing him gives you pleasure, too, just seeing the reaction you can evoke from him.

[darcy11]

[/QUOTE]I love giving BJs. I would probably cry if a lover wouldn't let me do it. Then break up with him. It's so gratifying to watch my boyfriend squirm and grab the sheets! Look for the enjoyable factors in any sexual act.[/QUOTE]

I am in your team......I love giving BJs, I would be devastated if my boyfriend didn't want them.....I love the reaction, and the fact that I have the control, it's quite empowering to know that he is enjoying himself sooo much and it's completely my making!

I think, it's something you should try, but of course don't be pressured! Do your research, find out why you don't want to do it, explain to him that you aren't comfortable but maybe you will be one day.

There is also the option of not swallowing....As we all know it's not the best tasting thing in the world, if that's what is grossing you out try that, and make him shower beforehand so that he is nice and clean, maybe trying some flavoured lube aswell, it will take away from the thought of what you are doing.
Good Luck!

[tadz]

i used to feel the same, i hated it at first, used to think cocks were disgusting, but after doing it for 3months with a guy i cant get enough of it, i hated the taste at first, but i like it now, give it a go, its nicer with some tasty lube

[DavidWithMalePerspective]

I've always loved going down on a girl. I love the taste inside and the clitoral arousal and powerful pushing on my mouth when she's about to cum. But I had a girlfriend who didn't like this at all for an unknown reason---maybe she was embarrassed that she couldn't reciprocate. But I could easily do without her giving me oral sex. She was really into f-ing and manual clitoral orgasms. We were just both drawn to what we both liked.