[WildChild]

Without more detail, he's either head tripping you or is seriously confused. He drops the bombshells long distance and then "forgives" you for being less than thrilled? Sounds like the old ploy that a good offense precludes the need for a defense. You know, make the other person wrong and keep them off guard so I don't have to own up.

[Texinator]

Sorry to hear that, happy. What kind of bombshells did he drop on you? Is this related to his fear of commitment?

[WildChild]

Opps didn't realize this was the guys answer thread.

[danceintx]

Ok, something I have been wondering about my bf for awhile. I love having sex with my bf....but, I have started noticing that when we have sex, especially the first time we do in an evening, he ends up finishing himself off. Most of the time the times we do it after that he orgasm's the regular ways. But him masterbating to finally orgasm when he is with me is starting to make me feel weird, like I'm not enough or something. What is going on?? I don't want to bring it up just yet cause he will be upset thinking I'm bothered by it.

[happy ending]

yes, it was the house thing, plus he told me he was planning to fence off part of my backyard, so he could store stuff in my shed. i was ticked off, because this is MY house, i dont think he should really be telling me what to do. the worse thing i cant let it go, but if i bring it up again, i'm a batch, so i'm just advoiding his calls etc. i dont want to deal with it. that was a good suggestion wildchild, and i forgive you for not being a man LOL!!!

[Texinator]

Ok, something I have been wondering about my bf for awhile. I love having sex with my bf....but, I have started noticing that when we have sex, especially the first time we do in an evening, he ends up finishing himself off. Most of the time the times we do it after that he orgasm's the regular ways. But him masterbating to finally orgasm when he is with me is starting to make me feel weird, like I'm not enough or something. What is going on?? I don't want to bring it up just yet cause he will be upset thinking I'm bothered by it.

That's an odd one. It would make more sense if he needed to finish himself off after the first time. Then he might be less sensitive and require more manual stimulation to have another orgasm.

Maybe he is nervous or stressed in the beginning and is less sensitive because of that. Does he have difficulties staying hard during the sessions in which he ends up finishing himself off?

[Texinator]

he told me he was planning to fence off part of my backyard, so he could store stuff in my shed. i was ticked off, because this is MY house, i dont think he should really be telling me what to do.

I wonder if that might be his way of trying to show some commitment. He wants to store some stuff at your place (even if it is only in a shed).

Either that or he was being inconsiderate. I'm not quite sure what to make of it.

[danceintx]

That's an odd one. It would make more sense if he needed to finish himself off after the first time. Then he might be less sensitive and require more manual stimulation to have another orgasm.

Maybe he is nervous or stressed in the beginning and is less sensitive because of that. Does he have difficulties staying hard during the sessions in which he ends up finishing himself off?

I was thinking the same thing, finish himself off the first time, then he's better and orgasms normal the second time, didn't make any sense to me either. I have been suspecting porn and masterbation behind the scenes, which could be it. Him being nervous is a definite possibility. We have only been together a couple of months and I am his first since he left his wife of 12 years a year ago.

[Texinator]

He would get even worse the second or third time if masturbation were the cause. Each orgasm in a set period of time then requires more effort and time to achieve the next one.

Nervousness can lead to premature ejaculation but I think it could also mean he needs extra 'help' to finish if his nerves don't allow him to concentrate. Then it would make sense that he can orgasm normally the second time, if the first one helps to calm him down.

But you won't know for sure unless you ask him. Depends on if it bothers you or if you're just curious.

[danceintx]

He would get even worse the second or third time if masturbation were the cause. Each orgasm in a set period of time then requires more effort and time to achieve the next one.

Nervousness can lead to premature ejaculation but I think it could also mean he needs extra 'help' to finish if his nerves don't allow him to concentrate. Then it would make sense that he can orgasm normally the second time, if the first one helps to calm him down.

But you won't know for sure unless you ask him. Depends on if it bothers you or if you're just curious.

That does make sense. Well before I was curious, now it's starting to bother me. But if it's just nervousness I could wait it out no biggie. I guess we'll see whether or not it stays that way. Cause if it did, I could really see that being a problem with me.