[StillLearnin]

Since my wife and I have been having a lot more sex, I've noticed my stamina is starting to last a lot longer. Used to be 5 mins of intercourse I was done. I actually was worried that I had a problem with premature ejaculation. But by that time I was so horny that I just exploded.
But now since we are having sex more frequently (2-3 times a week), I've been building up stamina to last a lot longer. Now I can last 10 to 20 minutes, with several different positions. It's awesome for me, because I just love the activity of making love.
But for her, it gets to a point where I know she no longer enjoys (or tolerates) it. And when I see those looks that say "end it now" it turns me off because having sex with somebody that isn't enjoying it like you are just isn't sexy. It's a major turn off.
So when she does that I don't know what to do. I could stop when I see those signs from her that she's had enough, then go to the bathroom and finish off by masterbating. Or I could gently tell her that I'm almost there, just a few more minutes, which is what I've been doing.
Bottom line is she just doesn't like sex. That's been the problem from day one. She's trying now though. I give her credit for that.

[dolphinlefty]

lol. That's funny about the languages. And my boyfriend takes forever to cum too. It used to not bug me but now I get sore so it just sucks. And he HAS to cum every session. Otherwise he'll get blue balls. I wish he'd masturbate less. And I don't mind blow jobs but my jaw freaking hurts after not too long. I feel bad cause it's hard for me to stay interested in sex. And my mind wonders onto topics that aren't something you should think about during sex. Siblings, parents, uncles, weird people I saw driving down the road. Yeah. It's odd. Even when I masturbate alone, all I need is 10 mins tops and I'm done, content, and ready to do whatever else I need to that day. I get the feeling something is wrong with me....

[HopelessRomantic]

Hi, all.
This has been a problem for me only with one woman... she was a friend of a friend, we were together for a shorter time than i am use to. it seemed every time i was with her having sex... i just..... didnt quite feel like it. I was kinda attracted to her, i dont think i really even loved her, I was younger, it was hard to tell.... anyways let's rewind a bit.

As one might expect, my first time was odd, we both werent really experienced at all but we were really happy together, first loves. I lasted 4-5 minutes when i lost my virginity. After practice i built my stamina to where i could last around 15-20 minutes depending on position.

After being single for 6 months i found i was unhappy just "choking the chicken" so i hooked up with the friend of a friend i mentioned earlier. So the first time we got intamate i knew she was really experienced, had a rough week at work, was tense, and we did the deed. I had no problem getting it up she finished, but i just..... didnt really feel like continuing... I did for another 15 minutes just to see if i would but then I could tell she was getting sore. We stopped and agreed to pick it up again another time. I went home feeling embarasses, asked a friend, he said "dont masturbate for a week or so." I didn't. Saw her again in a week. Did the deed. She finished. But this time i could feel i was close so i continued and finally finished around 50 minutes to an hour. Still too long. After repeating this a few more times we decided we were not sexually compatable, and broke it off. I never really did find much appeal in her, it was probably a mistake :_(. I think that was why it took forever.

Next (and current) girlfriend, 2 months after the last. We fell for each other right off the bat. And we fell hard. Hopped right into the saddle and went at it. It was a lot like my first time but the first time i went inside of my current gf... it was like WOW!!! It felt really really.......... right. Just right...... nothing more to it. I felt embarassed afterwords because i only lasted 3 minutes but HOLY COW!!! those were a flippin great 3 minutes. I finished her off orally which i love to do. And now i am working my way upwards of 10 minutes with a lot of self control. But in my opinion...
1. Yes its good to last a long time.
2. It's also an honor if a guy doesn't, but can improve.
3. Conmmunication is key...... maybe...... hes just not that into you.