[Guest]

The key to giving any man good oral sex is one simple factor....watch a porno. They love porno head. You can start off all slow and romantic and gentle but every man likes to get the porno style head where you get a little fast and dirty and make noises and let him have some control of your head and don't worry about anything but making sure you are enjoying it as well. If you are having trouble with the gag reflex there are products out there to help that. And there are products that will speed up the process for men as well during oral sex to stimulate them more.

As for the swallowing here is what I suggest. Some day when he is not around put some towels near the place that you two normally get intimate. Have him scoot to the bottom of the bed so you can get on your knees and perform oral. Then when he is finished hold it in your mouth and discreetly grab the towel you placed there and open your mouth and let it all come back out. He'll never know, and you won't have to gulp it down. Men feel as if you are rejecting a part of them when you don't "swallow" it hits the ego.

[nymphetamine]

Porno head huh? I guess I'm going to be watching lots of porn in the next few days.. hahah just kidding.

I don't really see much of a problem with swallowing. At least you get most of your protein for the day! hahaha.

[Guest]

The key to giving any man good oral sex is one simple factor....watch a porno. They love porno head. You can start off all slow and romantic and gentle but every man likes to get the porno style head where you get a little fast and dirty and make noises and let him have some control of your head and don't worry about anything but making sure you are enjoying it as well. If you are having trouble with the gag reflex there are products out there to help that. And there are products that will speed up the process for men as well during oral sex to stimulate them more.

As for the swallowing here is what I suggest. Some day when he is not around put some towels near the place that you two normally get intimate. Have him scoot to the bottom of the bed so you can get on your knees and perform oral. Then when he is finished hold it in your mouth and discreetly grab the towel you placed there and open your mouth and let it all come back out. He'll never know, and you won't have to gulp it down. Men feel as if you are rejecting a part of them when you don't "swallow" it hits the ego.

You are my hero.. haha

[babyblob]

Wow, I feel bad reading these posts because I do swallow and do not consider myself manipulted or submissive. It is what I choose to do and my husband really appreciates it. Get a clue ladies, men LOVE it and as long as its not a one way street, why not satisfy him in every way. I've only done this with two boyfreinds and my husband and there is a difference in sex overall if you keep it hot. Obviously, if there is conversation about it, he wants it. Why would anyone want to deny their husband who desires something so simple. make him forget his old girdfriend! Please don't anyone judge me, I only say to do this in a commited, respectful relationship/marriage. Not CASUAL.

i dont no realy how to start this of, but my partner likes me to swallow, so i just do it for him i swallow it and have a drink streight after, but my aunt once told me if the bloke drink a pint of (whatever you like to drink) and you swallow the cum, the cum will taste of the drink

it all depends on what your partner eats or drinks before

[babyblob]

You are my hero.. haha

haha, i like to swallow, but i just feel so un comfortable watching porno and i get extremily shy been durty like the porno films !

[rcoreyus]

Just a quick comment:

Oral sex is very important to some men. To some of those being allowed to finish in your mouth is very important. To some of those, swallowing is important.

Sadly, the percieved importance grows if this is denied. A man who might only be mildly interested in oral sex, starts to see it as critical because it is the one thing he wants, but can't get. For some reason the forbidden becomes very desirable.

I know of one case where there was something I wanted in bed, that my wife didn't want to do. Somehow this seemed more and more important to me. Eventually she tried it - and found she very much liked it. Now that it was no longer forbidden, I soon lost interest and was doing it for her rather than the other way around? (how did the species ever survive). - but that all was long ago and far away......

I don't think you can get an answer to "why". After all, any sex that is not intended to produce children is irrational. Why does anyone enjoy anything other than simple, quick vaginal sex?

So, I think women certainly have the right to refuse to do things in bed that they don't like, but don't underestimate the importance of the denial.

[kaylar]

You've Come Nowhere, Baby


When I read posts focusing on 'pleasing' one's man, it is
clear we have come not one step from the advice given to
girls marrying in the 1800s; "You can't refuse your husband!"

Despite the 'emancipation' of women, we still see ourselves
of having to 'please' our men.

I want all of you to take a deep breath, and look at that
concept.

The worker has to 'please' his boss, or he is fired.

The boss doesn't have to 'please' his workers. Starting
time is 8. You're late three times, you're fired. YOu
refuse to do overtime, you're fired.

If you refuse to wear the uniform, you are fired.
If your work does not match the quality or quantity
that your boss expects, you are fired.

This is a relationship between unequals. A dominant/submissive
relationship.

To import this idea into a marriage proves beyond doubt that
the calendar is wrong. It is 1807; and a wife can not
refuse her husband.

Nor can she decide what sex acts she will perform or not
perform. She must perform every single act that her
master, sorry, husband imagines.

To refuse to 'please' him can result in her being 'fired'
sorry, replaced, by a female willing to 'please' him.

To read some of these posts, one gets the opinion that
men must be 'pleased' at all times, while women must
do the 'pleasing', and to avoid feeling that they are no
more than 'pleasure units' they will, as inmates in
prisons or concentration camps, or in hostage situations,
identify with the oppressor, in this way, mentally
being able to 'accept' they're position in the relationship
as 'choice.'

Relationships between equals has a much wider span than
a bedroom. And in relationships between equals, one
does not 'require' performances from the other.

A sister doesn't have to 'please' her brother by cleaning
up his room. A co-worker doesn't have to please another
by doing his work.

One does not, in eglatarian relationships, even think of
'pleasing' the other.

My best friend, for example, might not like my hairstyle
or my mode of dress, but I do not change them to 'please'
her. Despite the fact I do not 'please' her, she remained
my best friend. Further, she refused to stop eating pork,
despite my blandishments, and I did not 'punish' her, but
accepted that.

I don't think it is a leap of faith to imagine an independent
woman becoming involved with a man who expects her to
please him, and finding herself very uncomfortable in the
relationship, and wanting out of it.

A very young woman who found her husband demanded
oral sex every night. She didn't like it. After one month
she went home to her mother and promptly filed for divorce.

She had never seen her relationship as one of 'service
provider', she had thought they were equal and that they
would share their lives, not that she was now his 'property'
and had to 'obey' his every whim.

The above posts, not discussing 'mutuality' but 'pleasing'
are proof we have not come very far from the days where
a wife can't refuse her husband.

[rcoreyus]

We we discussing women performing oral sex on men - this is mostly to please the man. I think women should try to do this if that is what their man wants. But - don't think this is one sided. If there is something the woman wants, I think the man should do his best to do that as well (whether is is in bed our out). If both partners put a lot of effort into pleasing the other, both will be happy.

Also, I find that if I am doing something in bed that pleases my wife, I enjoy it and find it very exciting - even if it is something I might not particularly like otherwise. Is it the same for women?

[krystal507]

me and my boyfriend discussed oral sex before we even tried it i had never tried it before (recieving or giving) and was nervous about it but i did know that i didnt want to swallow his cum so i told him straight out that i didnt want that and i wasnt gonna do it. Since i was nervous about it i really didnt even want to do it and i told him that and he didnt try to pressure me into it he just accepted it. Now we do it all the time but i still dont let him cum in my mouth.

Like you im kind of afraid that i will vomit and its just something that i am not interested in doing. Ive been thinking about letting him cum in my mouth and just keep a towel near by to spit it out but im not sure yet

[renfroe1012001]

The whole swallowing thing most females out there don't do I done it once and that was just because my boyfriend at the time made me. I didn't like it to much. And my hubby now won't make me do that swallowing on him. I mean I love to give oral to him but I will never ever swallow in my life it isn't for me. k in relationships never ever do something just because the man wants you to they don't own us and the won't they may think they do but no.