[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

hey guys. I have never felt the need to masterbate because I was told that it is a sin. so now I am a bit confused. however it works for you guys then it could work for me rihgt?

Orgasm is a gift from god, because he loves us.

It works both ways because we both started out the same, thats why men have nipples.

[WildChild]

Your clitorus has 8000 nerve endings and only one function - pleasure. Orgasm releases feel good chemicals in our bodies, deepens feelings of intimacy (when a shared experience), both calms and lifts our mood.
Why would you have it if you weren't meant to use it?

[Tod121]

Two aspects at play here... one the turn on factor of watching/hearing her masturbating and two the turn on factor of being sneeky, kind of peeping in on it

I masturbate in front of my boyfriend when I am turned on and in the mood to do it. I'll sit right on his lap and do it or lay next to him and do it etc. I've touched myself while he slept but I don't think he's ever woken up to it... but thinking about him watching/hearing me while I am thinking he's sleeping is a thought that turns me on

Maybe she knows she is not being slick, maybe she's aware you are peeping in/listening in and maybe that is adding to her pleasure. Or maybe she's oblivious -- either way - fun little game you guys have to spice up bed time for sure!

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I have seen many old forums talking about this but this has only relatively recently effected me. Not sure where to begin but here goes... (Comments on all areas covered are very much welcome)....My wife has started to send me naughty texts while I am at work, from simply saying "Im alone, bored and wish you were home" to full-on graphic descriptions on what she is doing to relieve her boredom! Whilst this is extreamly sexy and arousing it is also very confussing and frustrating because sex at home is infrequent (once\twice every 6 weeks on average), often turning me down when I feel we have an opportunity to have some fun (our 3 kids, all out at school or over their friends house or simply in bed asleep, etc) but I feel that when she is at home alone, "bored" and I am stuck at work, then I get all this interest which I cant do much about! Can anyone else understand my frustration? How this also ties in with masturbation (and go on tell me I only have myself to blame) for years during foreplay I used to encourage her to touch herself and she used to look at me and ask if it was ok and if I liked watching her touch herself, she used to hesitently use 1 finger for a very short time before reinvolving me to carry on but one night when I went to gently encourage her to touch and to rub herself through her sexy knickers, in no time at all she very quickly pulled them to one side and thrusted 2 fingers deeply inside and didnt involve me at all and did not stop until she climaxed about 5-10 minutes later and then went for it again until she came. She has now masturbated a few times in front of me. Very sexy to watch but still left feeling uninvolved and shocked at the difference between this and previous foreplay sessions. I have waffled on enough Im sure, any comments?....

[WildChild]

Text her back with what you want to do with her.
At home if she starts herself get your tongue in there! Or your fingers and ask her, what feels better? Here or here? This or that? Once she gotten off once, then switch to intercourse.

[Tod121]

I texted her back last week when she texted me, I asked her if she was doing all this front of a mirror and I didnt hear back from her for 30 mins, have no idea why she didnt reply straight back or what she could have been doing during that time ;-)

[jns]

It sounds like you should take a break from work to surprise her some time.

[Tod121]

It sounds like you should take a break from work to surprise her some time.

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This of course does occur to me, the 1st time she texted me I could not have been busier at work and I got really stressed because I could not concentrate on work for wanting to leave to go to her but it was impossible (if I wanted to keep my job). Last week, If I am honest, I was so turned on when she texted me that I could imagine driving home and getting more and more mentally turned on the closer I got to home and cumming the instant we were naked and it would have been an embarresment and spoiled the fantasy, if you know what I mean.
The next time she texts me I plan to get my home pronto and tell work the dog escaped or something. But dont forget though she has turned me down rather than have sexy day-time sex, once after we had a romantic lunchtime meal and I thought everything was set (she was wearing great underwear, we had a steamy snog before the kids went to school in the morning and I said we would have to carry that on when they were out and I asked her if she wanted to "go back for coffee" with a sly wink when we headed home so she knew what was on my mind but she laughed it off and changed the subject! and also she has gone out with her sister on numerous occasions when she could have stayed home to play when I've worked from home ;-( ) Should I be here just for when she needs me with no give n take?

[waya]

Man, talk about your mixed signals. I can understand how you feel and it's very confusing. Just my opinion, teasing you in such a way is a huge turn-on for her but maybe there's some anxiety on her part about actually doing it with you. Maybe she has performance anxiety? If she likes dominance play, maybe you could 'order' her not to come until you get home or 'punish' her if she does.

[Hopeless Dork]

Tod it sounds like your wife is a sexual woman... but that she really only gets to delve into those feelings when she is stress free... which sounds like when she is home alone... unfortunately you are not there also in those moments and for good reason... ya gotta work. Perhaps you can help create more of those moments when you are home... like getting a sitter and taking her out more often. You guys have kids and responsibilities and so much that can get in the way of making her feel like the sexual woman she is I think the more alone time you can squeeze in the better... even just to go for a walk in the evening a couple days a week.

A time to connect... where you both promise to talk about anything and everything EXCEPT for your jobs or your kids... so it will be like dating again. Most couples lose that intimate connection when their every waking moment together revolves around susies grades or bobs undeserved promotion etc... They say if you go on dates and don't talk about your kids or money... it will leave you guys to talking about the things you use to... your thoughts on a variety of things from art to cinema to hobbies and so on...

Flirt, compliment, be naughty, send HER a dirty text throughout the day... start that slow burn in her mind that will come to a boil by the time the two of you are alone together... reconnect.

[Tod121]

Tod it sounds like your wife is a sexual woman... but that she really only gets to delve into those feelings when she is stress free... which sounds like when she is home alone... unfortunately you are not there also in those moments and for good reason... ya gotta work. Perhaps you can help create more of those moments when you are home... like getting a sitter and taking her out more often. You guys have kids and responsibilities and so much that can get in the way of making her feel like the sexual woman she is I think the more alone time you can squeeze in the better... even just to go for a walk in the evening a couple days a week.

A time to connect... where you both promise to talk about anything and everything EXCEPT for your jobs or your kids... so it will be like dating again. Most couples lose that intimate connection when their every waking moment together revolves around susies grades or bobs undeserved promotion etc... They say if you go on dates and don't talk about your kids or money... it will leave you guys to talking about the things you use to... your thoughts on a variety of things from art to cinema to hobbies and so on...

Flirt, compliment, be naughty, send HER a dirty text throughout the day... start that slow burn in her mind that will come to a boil by the time the two of you are alone together... reconnect.

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