[stressed]

I realized that one reason I'm afraid of trying these things with her isn't only that she'll possibly freak out, but also she'll be wondering where I learned about them: Porn.

I'd be admitting to her that I've watched porn. I still occasionally do. I'm sure that she knows, but has never wanted to know. Being with her for 25 years, and being sexually frustrated most of the time, it's obvious that I'd be using porn to keep my sexual drive under control.

I have some mpgs that I've downloaded. I just want to make a DVD some day of some of my favorite scenes to show her what I want to try with her. But then I'd be admitting that I have copies downloaded on my computer. She'd ask where did you get that, and I'll just wink and say "that doesn't matter, please watch this with me with an open mind."

I realize that real life sex isn't like porn sex. But there are some things that they do that I really want to experience with her.

Well you've been together for 25 years, you should be able to try different things in the bedroom. I think the best thing about porn is when couples watch it to get ideas, instead of only one of them watching it instead of sex. Maybe you could suggest it one day as something different, like ask if she'd like to try and watch with you and you can search together (while you will know beforehand where to look and what to show her).

If she would be upset about you watching porn you can explain that you do because you feel sexually frustrated and not because you prefer it over her. That you only watch because you don't have another option. It's very important to make her understand it properly as what she wants to hear from you is that she's enough for you and that you don't prefer porn to her. You don't want her to do everything they do in porn either and you are not asking for anything extreme. It's important to have a stable sex life as if you're constantly sexually frustrated it can have an effect on the whole relationship. And in your case I can tell that you only want things to get better and you are not only thinking about yourself.

[StillLearnin]

I'm wanting things to get better for US (which includes me, BTW. Does that sound selfish?).
Check out my other postings. Things have come a long ways for us since I forced the issues to be addressed and discussed. Before this past year she ignored my needs and had so many rules and constraints on the sexual part of the relationship it was driving me insane and to the breaking point I finally reached.
And, of course, I don't prefer porn over her. Never have. Never will.

[Hopeless Dork]

I do the spittling thing, but not like I am spitting on the ground with great force and what not lol...when I pull him out of my mouth I just gather up the saliva in my mouth and lightly push it out on to him while my lips are very close to him, its real subtle. It helps A LOT. I couldn't imagine NOT using that technique and keeping it wet enough.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

It's a visual thing. And it's just so hot...

But I've been wondering, and I'm not trying to hijack the thread (maybe I should start another on this?): is it disrespectful to do this (cum on body rather than inside) to your SO whom you love? is it disrespectful to ask her to swallow

Well, better to cum over their face than on their back...

It's not disrespectful, though inhibited women might believe that it is.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

I have some mpgs that I've downloaded. I just want to make a DVD some day of some of my favorite scenes to show her what I want to try with her

MPEGs are , it's an outdated codec

Google TNAflix

[Adrian15]

I do the spittling thing, but not like I am spitting on the ground with great force and what not lol...when I pull him out of my mouth I just gather up the saliva in my mouth and lightly push it out on to him while my lips are very close to him, its real subtle. It helps A LOT. I couldn't imagine NOT using that technique and keeping it wet enough.

I agree. If done this way or the like it can actually be sexy, rather than off-putting!

I do this very same thing, and make eye contact with him also..

[StillLearnin]

MPEGs are , it's an outdated codec

Google TNAflix

Thanks, I'll check into that!

[Fish]

I do the spittling thing, but not like I am spitting on the ground with great force and what not lol...when I pull him out of my mouth I just gather up the saliva in my mouth and lightly push it out on to him while my lips are very close to him, its real subtle. It helps A LOT. I couldn't imagine NOT using that technique and keeping it wet enough.

I do the same thing. It's not like you're hacking up a loogie lol...do it sensually and it's enjoyable for both of you.

[stressed]

I do the spittling thing, but not like I am spitting on the ground with great force and what not lol...when I pull him out of my mouth I just gather up the saliva in my mouth and lightly push it out on to him while my lips are very close to him, its real subtle. It helps A LOT. I couldn't imagine NOT using that technique and keeping it wet enough.

Well I do the same and it does help a lot, but I don't think he likes it very much for some reason. He doesn't want things to be too messy and he's not very fond of fluids on his penis... I thought men enjoyed fluids?

[Shayla]

I don't spit on anyone and I don't like it when my boyfriend spits directly onto me. I will collect saliva in my mouth and use it to lubricate him though, and he will suck on his fingers or have me suck on them in order to have lubrication for me.

Also my boyfriend loves to come all over me. On my chest, back, and his favorite place is all over my face. I know he likes it so I let him do it, but I never understand it or have any preference for where-ever he puts his stuff.