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  • needanswer99
    Member
    • Jul 2009
    • 33

    be aware

    trust me !!!!!!!!! they like oral more .....but I know some girls regretting to give too much oral to their hubby in past ...now they are almost having NO vaginal sex.....
    u feel good u r new to sex and young , but then u become bored by giving blow job and your hubby by that time would have become addicted to this procedure....

    reason my husband told me ..as many mentioned in this thread
    he loves the
    different things i do when down there, which obviously you wouldnt be able to do in penetration
    ans second reason is to feel superior..somewhat sex slave like feeling.....

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    • maverick
      Senior Member
      • Dec 2009
      • 130

      Likely it depends on the person, but for this male, oral is just a great prelude to the real thing. Oral is highly enjoyable, but is very one-way, so it lacks the intimacy of penetrative sex. For me, that intimacy is important.

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      • Hopeless Dork
        Veteran Member
        • Dec 2008
        • 4255

        Originally posted by maverick
        Oral is highly enjoyable, but is very one-way, so it lacks the intimacy of penetrative sex. For me, that intimacy is important.
        For me, I find oral sex very very intimate, whether I am performing it on him or him on me. I guess its your mindset and how you go about it that makes the difference.

        I never feel like its one sided, I love making him feel good, and when I give him oral its extremely intimate. All of his attention is on me. I happen to love his penis, its shape its taste the feel of it. Its an increddible turn on for me to have it right in front of me to do with, whatever I want.

        To look up and watch his face, to see him looking back at me... to put on a show for him to stop and make him wait... etc.

        I can see how some people think the one providing the oral is being subservient... but I feel in total control of his pleasure in that act, I don't at all feel like a sex slave. I feel powerful and sexy, because he makes me feel that way.

        And when he is doing it to me I don't feel like I am using him for my pleasure, I feel like he is making love to me with his mouth, with his touches, selflessly pleasuring me...

        If thats not intimate enough... I'm not sure what would be.
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        • dude123
          Member
          • Feb 2010
          • 58

          Originally posted by danceintx
          Well, of course I know men like oral A LOT, and I like giving it. But when I hear they PREFER it, it just make me wonder, if many men would pick oral over penetration?
          Well I personally like em equally. I maybe like oral better slightly only cuz i dont get it as much so its rare and when things r rare it makes u want it more. I think oral feels great and u dont have to worry about cumming too quick and not satisfying her. You can just sit back and enjoy. It's also always a more intense orgasm to me i dont know why. But i cant say that its better than pentration cuz with penetration theres so much more visual stuff goin on. You get to see ur girls body more, things bouncing and all that stuff and u have more touching. I personally also get really turned on when girls make noise and orgasm. So to me they both r on the same level. it does seem like it feels better when it shoots in a girls mouth than inside her. When the vagina is contracting so much its hard to tell ur even cummign sometimes.

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          • cuff
            Member
            • Mar 2010
            • 57

            Oral sex doesn't do a whole lot for me. My girlfriend would happily do it, but I only want it on a rare occasion. It would usually be on the path to intercourse, not in lieu of it. It depends on the guy. I hear a lot of guys saying they enjoy it.

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            • tinycit
              Member
              • Feb 2010
              • 49

              Originally posted by danceintx
              My bf just told me he prefers oral sex to penetration sex. I did a search for it and found nothing on the forum. Do you men think the same and have you ladies ever heard a man tell you this before? Cause no one has ever told me this before.
              Yup, my husband. When I first met him he told me he got nothing from penetration sex. I was glad of that because I don't either! It takes intense manual and oral clit stimulation for me to reach orgasm. He's really good at that too. Fortunately he's a lot easier to please than I am. The only way he can orgasm is by stroking his penis, cumming into my mouth and watching me swallow his cum. I thought that was sort of unusual at first, but after looking around online I found it was pretty common. So neither one of us gets anything out of penetration sex and we never do that.

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              • Guest

                I find it a bit puzzling that there are males (and females) who prefer oral over intercourse. I already knew such guys exist because I'd heard some guys say it in the past. Everything revolves around survival of the species. So sure, oral is pleasurabe and is therefore a step in the right direction. But it is not meant to replace intercourse since intercourse is the main mechanism used for creating more of us. Even when we don't want or can't have kids the DNA 'programming' is still in place. Something may be interfering with the programming, causing a mental override. I wonder if penis size plays a role in some guys' preference. I noticed some posters saying the guys say they doesn't get anything out of the intercourse. Got to me to wondering if size (vaginal contact amount) is involved.

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                • LilahX
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jan 2010
                  • 291

                  As has been said, it's like comparing chalk and cheese. Two totally different experiences and sensations. Perhaps you both need to experiment more with penetration, try new positions, techniques so that both are equally enjoyable for him.

                  Guys are very visual, maybe that's an aspect that really works for him. Try 'reverse cowgirl' - girl on top but you face his feet. Gives men a real visual treat. Or maybe try teasing him before you even hit the bedroom so his arousal is high before you even start.

                  We probably all hve our preferences for what feels best, but as has also been said, sex/lovemaking in a r/ship is about both people and give and take and compromise. Sounds like he may be all 'take' at the moment.

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                  • newhere808
                    Veteran Member
                    • Dec 2009
                    • 541

                    Originally posted by Skywatch
                    I find it a bit puzzling that there are males (and females) who prefer oral over intercourse. I already knew such guys exist because I'd heard some guys say it in the past. Everything revolves around survival of the species. So sure, oral is pleasurabe and is therefore a step in the right direction. But it is not meant to replace intercourse since intercourse is the main mechanism used for creating more of us. Even when we don't want or can't have kids the DNA 'programming' is still in place. Something may be interfering with the programming, causing a mental override.
                    The only reason that I would disagree with this is because if we were subject to our core genetic programming, same sex relationships would not be on the rise like they are. Not that i'm saying there is anything wrong with that, to each their own afterall, but in line with your point it makes little sense.

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                    • ItsASecret
                      APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH
                      • Apr 2009
                      • 3721

                      I find it a bit puzzling that there are males (and females) who prefer oral over intercourse. I already knew such guys exist because I'd heard some guys say it in the past. Everything revolves around survival of the species. So sure, oral is pleasurabe and is therefore a step in the right direction. But it is not meant to replace intercourse since intercourse is the main mechanism used for creating more of us. Even when we don't want or can't have kids the DNA 'programming' is still in place. Something may be interfering with the programming, causing a mental override. I wonder if penis size plays a role in some guys' preference. I noticed some posters saying the guys say they doesn't get anything out of the intercourse. Got to me to wondering if size (vaginal contact amount) is involved.
                      What? No it is not meant to replace intercourse but it is a personal preference for many. I do not believe genetic programming in the sense of survival of the species has anything to do with it. Right now I think it is safe to say that it is just because individuals enjoy it more. But if you want to play the genetic card then I think the only thing that could be said is the possibility for a gene or allele variation that plays a role in whether or not males or females choose oral sex moreso (that may actually be an interesting study).
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