[Greydog72]

sorry for post jumping, stressed

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[Greydog72]

I'm at a point where I can't care much more about his needs only, I've been doing this for 2 years now. No matter what erectile problem he's had, or low sex drive, or watching porn and having sex once a month, I supported him. Now I feel like "whatever, I'll masturbate too, we'll see how it goes, I really don't have any more energy to be bothered with your penis" and it's not because I don't care about him, but I do feel mentally tired.

Interesting,
I did tell my SO that I was know going to have to take care of myself...She doesn't like porn...so I stopped that years ago...I was looking at it just to get a reminder of what women looked like naked.. never masterbated with it...only memory pictures of usually my SO.
-Probably a toy or two for myself...just don't know yet. I would only masterbate for my health or when I need too...She never like it when I did when we where first married, so I stopped...so when I started to feel really naglected, I started up again...
only in the past 3 yrs. have I been doing my aerobic masterbation for health and stamina. Like kegels for women. Porn and masterbation, she said, is disrespectful toward her. So, I told her that I needed to do it to take care of 1 part of my frustration...

I know I hurt her feelings, but what I'm I suppose to do...Will it hurt our situations...again, time will tell

It just doesn't feel fair at all. Even if we both masturbate and have sex only once every weekend, he's still going to be asking for sexual favours during the weekdays without giving any back, "because he's tired from work". What on earth am I gonna get then? Half-sex and myself? and for how long?

No, it's not fair and it's frustrating...I'm not asking anymore, just taking care of myself. I'm the only one who stimulates...play with her clit forplay..I stopped giving oral about a year ago, she was not giving back. And she will not ask for it because it would, I think, make her look selfish. I don't get to decide the position or what we have on or off. SUCKS
I can go thru looks of my senerios, but I think you can answer your own questions...until tomorrow.

I feel for you...sry.

[rcoreyus]

This seems very selfish on his part - is this a problem for things other than sex?

It just doesn't feel fair at all. Even if we both masturbate and have sex only once every weekend, he's still going to be asking for sexual favours during the weekdays without giving any back, "because he's tired from work". What on earth am I gonna get then? Half-sex and myself? and for how long? Bah... better not think about it too much, it will make me depressed.

[MissMeSha810]

Hhhmmmmm?

Hey sweets. It seems like his problem is one of a mental issue. Bottom line, he knows he's bad at it, so he's avoiding having sex. He feels bad that he can't please you the way that he would actually like to. He may be feeling just as bad as you are. Don't get me wrong, I do think he is being selfish, but it may be easier for him to have sex with Palmetta (his hand or palm) that won't complain about his 'bad sex'. It just seems that he doesn't want to go on disappointing you because he loves you. Please correct me if I'm wrong, it is something to think on though. The question now is, What do you do about the lack of sex? I really don't know what to say except to work on it with him, but if you're not satisfied with doing that, seeing as though you feel tired mentally, then you'll have no choice but to seek other options. If you love him, and think it's worth working for, then go for it sister. I'm sorry, I always try to fix the relationship when it is broken, that goes for mine and all of my friends.....even you!

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[WildChild]

Thinking back over your posts here, it's hard to see why you are sticking around. Of course we all have our reasons but as an onlooker, this relationship sounds very unbalanced.

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