[commonsense]

3some sex

forgive Me If I Sound Crazy But I Never Liked The Idea Of It. Who Ever Did It, Or Is About To Do It Opens The Door To Cheating. It Might Seem Well First But After A While You Can Never Accuse Each Other Of Cheating Because If You Agreed To It In The First Place...who Are You To Argue The Second Time Around. Some Women Can Be So Gullible For The Sake Of Love. In The End The Only Person Who Benefits Is The Person Who Wasnt Part Of Your Relationship. The Got To Lay Both Of You. What A Pity.

I understand what you are saying about opening the door to cheating. But, if you agree to it, it's not really cheating. Cheating by the way means the other person doesn' t know. I am by no means "gullible". I fully understand what's happening. If I decided to do it, it would be because "I" decided to do it. Just like you have a right to decide "not" to do it.

[commonsense]

3some sex

i'm bisexual also and have had three-somes etc but never in a relationship, just when my friends and i are all single we mess around, i don't believe anyone in a solid relationship should ever ask or want to sleep with someone else even if you are there and if there do there is something very wrong in the relationship, the "more excitement" speech is ****, it's just like when people "take a break" for there partner, which is basically asking for a way to sleep with other people but still have you in the backgroundfficeffice" />>>

That's a fair assessment.

[Still Nobody]

I have guy friends who have tried to get their girlfriends in on a threesome, but they both had different reasons, and none of them were very good for the girlfriend.

One guy just saw this girl at work, started flirting with her, and realized he could nail her, no problem. Well, "no problem" except the fact that he was already involved with a girl he "loved" for about 3 years, now. He complained once, weeks ago, that he was getting a little bored, and I guess this new girl at work looked pretty good, but he didn't want to cheat on his girlfriend. So, he came up with the threesome idea.
She didn't go for it, he cheated anyway, and now they're over.

The other guy decided a threesome would be a good way to "audition" a new girlfriend, since he said his current girlfriend of a few years was "gettin' old." Classy guy.

Needless to say I don't hang out with either of these assh#$#s, anymore.

[seashoremaine]

"Still Nobody's" story is a perfect example of when NOT to do a threesome. I'm somewhat interested in a threesome, but not to try and bang another hot girl. I would only do it if I thought my wife was going to get turned on doing it. Thats the turn on for me. It would be very exciting to see my wife getting pleasure from another woman (or man, maybe). If I thought either one of us was emotionally attracted to the 3rd person, I would not do it.

-J

[commonsense]

3some sex

I agree with seashoremaine. Both parties should be in agreement. That way if it's not a good thing for either one of them, they are in agreement to pull out. Each person should respect their partners feelings on the matter.

[bellababe]

In response to "his watching while I touch the other woman" as part of the deal. I know that part wouldn't work for me because I'm not attracted to women.

If that is the case than you should probably not have a 3some with a girl but a guy. If you add a girl that you are not going to have sex with at some point you or she will just be by youself watching. Or that could be okay if you are willing to just watch her with your SO, LOL!! You should both really REALLY discuss all the different situations that could and would happen b4 you embark on this journey. The discussions will be fun anyway,

[Natasha123]

If you really love someone how can you tolerate watching them with someone else?? if the love is strong then what is the other person there for?are some of these couples just not in love with one another and want to use a threesome as a way to revive their loveless relatinships/marriages

[commonsense]

If that is the case than you should probably not have a 3some with a girl but a guy. If you add a girl that you are not going to have sex with at some point you or she will just be by youself watching. Or that could be okay if you are willing to just watch her with your SO, LOL!! You should both really REALLY discuss all the different situations that could and would happen b4 you embark on this journey. The discussions will be fun anyway,

Now that's an interesting thought.

[commonsense]

3some sex

If you really love someone how can you tolerate watching them with someone else?? if the love is strong then what is the other person there for?are some of these couples just not in love with one another and want to use a threesome as a way to revive their loveless relatinships/marriages

I understand what you're saying. It has nothing to do with love. Just fantasy and lust.

[rcoreyus]

If you really love someone how can you tolerate watching them with someone else?? if the love is strong then what is the other person there for?are some of these couples just not in love with one another and want to use a threesome as a way to revive their loveless relatinships/marriages

Ok, I'm expecting to be flamed for this but: If you love someone, wouldn't seeing them enjoy themselves make you happy? Even if their enjoyment came from doing things with someome else (assuming they are not neglecting you).

I've very aware that this is an unusual way of thinking, but it is the way I think. Perhaps I'm not really human.