[kma415]

once every 3 months for a while, lately we've stepped it up to once a month. We've been married for 6 months...

[Guest]

3-4 times a week

[teenie]

3 times ever in a year! But that was because i was a virgin "saving myself" and then changed my mind, because i was going CRAZY with horniness!
Now, i had a time where i wanted to "have sex" with him. And those 3 times were explorative/curious, not loving.
Lately i've been craving to make love for the first time. I'm not into physical pleasures. I want to hold him close to me.
This is, the top reason, why I'm moving out. My mother is very religious and a hawk over us, we never have the chance. So basically. I'm moving out to have sex, though, lately i don't really crave it anymore- which is making me realllllly sad considering i wanted it 7 times a day (so took care of things myself that many times a day).
Now it's more like, 3 times a week. I feel like a fraud. Ah well, i'm sure it will perk up. Maybe. We'll find out when the move is final then ill post back with my findings. I'll assume it will be twice a day, because i don't think i have the spirit to turn the poor man down.

[Educate me]

As was stated earlier, it really depends on the couple and what is going on in your lives. My wife and I have been married nearly 29 years and we probably have sex 3-4 times a week, honestly! But that came after our kids moved out of the house. At the beginning we were like most couples, we would have sex very often. As life entered our picture with children, work, outside activities our sex life went down to a couple times a week. As life has slowed for us, it has given us an opportunity to learn about each other all over again. This has been the best time of my life with my wife and best friend. Not to diminish what we have accomplished earlier in our marriage.

Right now I work over seas and have not seen my wife in 4 months, but we have used this opportunity to continue to learn about each other and decide on what we would like to try in our sex life. So communicate with your S/O often.

One other thing, we decided early on in our marriage to do what ever we could to ensure that our desires for sex would only be for each other. It hasn't been easy, but it has definitely been worth it. That takes a lot of communication, respect, and love of one another. Paul Newman (actor) was once asked why the hollywood starlets never tempted him, his reply "why have hamburger when I have steak at home" A lot of meaning in this statement.

[JRod]

My gf doesn't want intercourse as often as me but she enjoys pleasuring me with Bjs, so 3-6 Bjs a week and 2-4 sex a week. Been together almost 2 years. We are happy with this frequency. Certain variables are always going to come into play and skew the numbers of course, ie. "time of the month", in a fight (lol), but this is a good average. I think our best month ever was about 20 sex/25Bjs;-)

[Bellalla]

5-7 times a week during the very, very heavy school semester, but 2-5 times a day over the summer. We've been together for a year and a half.

With my ex is was more like 1-2 times a week, and 3-5 times a week at most in the summer.

It's easier to keep up the pace with my current man because he gives oral every single time. So even if I'm tired and stressed and not in the mood, I'm always up for a bit of oral sex, and then that puts me in the mood for sex 99.9% of the time. He knows this, so he goes into it knowing that I might not be up for continuing after oral is complete.

I find that taking the pressure of expectation off me has really amped up my sex drive because I feel more inclined to be physically affectionate and contemplate *maybe* having sex when I know that I won't have any kind of protest, pouting, or difficulty if I say "sorry honey, I'm done"

At first I felt weird having this kind of veto, but he had established this technique with his ex who had major arousal issues and it resulted in them having much more sex, so he learned that it was beneficial in the long run, even if occasionally frustrating in the moment.

If I do call it quits at any point, then he'll masturbate while I kiss his ear or neck and talk erotically to him.

It works for us. I never expected our rampant sex life to be sustained after more than the 'honeymoon' period, but it has.

[Colorado]

As was stated earlier, it really depends on the couple and what is going on in your lives.

Agree! I've gone through periods in my life when it was daily, sometimes more than once a day, other times when once a week was fine, others yet when once or twice a month was ok, and as much as I hate to admit that I ever put my wife through it one period of my life it was about once or twice a year! (being honest here), but that was a medical thing that has been fixed... Now? maybe once a day or at least 4-5 times a week, some days twice a day.
I guess what it comes down to is where you are in your life - as I got older (mid 40s now) it became less important because male hormones like female hormones decrease, and that means the hormones that regulate desire also decrease.
Hormone therapy can move you back to an earlier state however, as has happened with me.

[sallywi2003]

It varies from week to week for sure we have sex 4 to 5 times each week except the week of my period I cannot get enough we have sex at least 7 to 8 times this week sometimes twice in one day.

[Travis_C]

i have been with my current girl for 6 years now. sex is a monthly thing do to our kids. or a bi-weekly thing. at most 4 times a month

[Colorado]

Travis ... bro....

You're not being creative enough, MAKE time, FIND Time, PLAN time if you must... have grandma take the kiddies once a week for a few hours; whatever it takes, but don't let this become the norm bro, or you will fight like heck to get it back, because your body will just get used to being statified with it once a month. Also, you're not doing your wife any favors by allowing this to happen.

Don't fall into this trap. Not only is your happiness at stake, but your long term relationship with her is at stake. Read some of the posts here and see what happens when guys let it go and accept that they are happy with once a month; it's not pretty, and again, not easy to dig yourself out of it either.

Some women here have said they hate it when their guy masterbates... I disagree to a point - If they masterbate to where it has taken the place of their relationship - then YES - there is a problem; but on the other hand (no pun intended ), I've heard many professionals state that the more a man cums (materbation or intercourse) the more he will want to cum, and the more his body will not only desire it, but be ready for it. So in some cases, and again as long as it's not taking the place of intimacy, it's a good thing.

So, the moral of the story is "don't let your sex drive fall into reverse, keep it reving at full throttle". Only you can make the time for yourselves, it wont just come to be on its own.