[sallywi2003]

I have been with my BF for the last 3 years we have discussed getting married in the next year. Our sex life has been great we have tried different things like anal sex and toys and all different positions it has been fantastic. My
issue is in the last couple weeks he has been wanting to have breast sex. I find this request very degrading
I am not a porn star I am a young lady that enjoy a variety in my sex life but not this. My question am I
being stubborn or a prude on this idea. I am so upset about this if he does not stop pushing it I am willing
to end our relationship. I have talked with him and told him my feelings and he thinks I am being silly about
it. Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated.

[pretzel]

My thoughts,

if you haven't told him what you've just told us then you need to.

Quite simply, you're uncomfortable with this, sorry if it bothers you. I may change my mind later, but right now, drop the subject. End of conversation......................................

[LilahX]

Most of the activities indulged in in Porn are also indulged in by normal, everyday couples. If you can stop seeing breast sex (or anyting else in porn) as degrading then you'll open yourself up to a lot of new horizons.

Yes, you should never feel obliged to do something you're totally against, BUT I'd suggest looking at your objection more deeply. What you may do with your man has nothing to do with what goes on in porn. If you believe he loves and respects you then anytihng you choose to do together is not degrading. It's just a part of who you both are.

If, after thinking more about this, you still find it objectionable your boyfriend needs to respect your decision.

[kira]

I wouldn't agree to breast sex and I don't really have a reason. It sounds more annoying than anything. Maybe even weird despite the fact I've done some weird stuff. In the end you don't need a good reason to say no. You do have to keep your partner in mind since they do have needs but it sounds like you are meeting plenty of needs. I think he could live without that one if you don't like the sound of it.

[stressed]

It's only a porn fantasy he'd like to try because he's seen it.

I know my SO has tried it with his ex but he said it wasn't anything special and he just wanted to try it (he cannot try it with me anyway, as I don't have that breast size).

You could either try it once, so he'd see that it's not as good as it seems to be in porn (and hopefully never ask for it again), or you can explain that you find it degrading and don't ever want to try it.

Is there anything else that you don't want to try because of the same reason? And may I ask why you find it degrading? Just because it's shown in porn doesn't mean that it's only porn people who do this, there's practically no limit as to what you can do with your SO, as long as you care about each other and don't do anything the other doesn't want to do.

I'm just of the opinion that when you are in such a long term serious relationship there can't be any harm into trying something once for your partner. I'm not saying you have to force yourself to do it, but more like find the reasons as to why you don't want to do it and tell him what you feel in the right way.

[sallywi2003]

I am usually open to just about everthing he has asked but the aspect of smashing my breast together and him having sex with my breast and then having a orgasm all over me just does not sound appealing. I think it sounds uncomfortable and I find it not sexy at all. I don't mind the aspect of the orgasm piece it is the smashing of the breast and I just feel it is to porn like. There are other things in porn I find very exciting to try. It is a mental block with me I just cannot do this. I am usually very open to thing this I cannot do and he needs to quit forcing me to try this.

[StillLearnin]

smashing my breast together and him having sex with my breast

This is exactly what my wife, girlfriend at the time, did for me for four years because she didn't want to have intercourse. Vagina sex is much better than breast sex. What you call degrading and disgusting she called it "I'm still a virgin sex." To each her own.

If you plan on being in a long term relationship with your BF you need to be more open minded about things. As you said, prudish. Or he will start looking for other opportunities.

[stressed]

I don't think he will look for other opportunities if he won't get this kind of sex, the worse he can do is experience this through porn and becoming an obsession, just because she doesn't want to do it. Some times the more one says "no" the more the other thinks about it.

sally, are you totally against the idea of him ejaculating on you? Maybe if you would start with him ejaculating on your breasts would make you more comfortable with the idea, unless you are against this as well. Maybe you won't know how it feels unless you try it once?

Porn is just images of people having sex, there is no strict "porn position" (this would make a good title for a porn movie actually). The best about porn is getting ideas at to what to try with your partner, it's not about doing it just like it's done in porn.

Again, I'm not saying you have to do something you don't want to for him, I'm just trying to figure out if you could compromise a little about it, as I do know that the more one is against something the more chances are that the other will think about it every day. If he forces you about it then of course you're going to feel even more against trying it, so maybe if you tell him that you might do it one day but you're not ready for it yet might cool things down a bit for both of you.

[Darling]

Sex should be enjoyed by both. Even with pleasuring each other, you should enjoy making him feel good. But if it is something you simply dont feel any excitement for, then there is no purpose in doing it. You shouldnt feel bad for not wanting to entertain him with it, you have already said that you enjoy many different styles and experimenting, he should be happy to have you. He is most likely a little spoiled you need to put the voice back into the relationship and put that foot down. Just because you are experimental doesn't mean you dont draw a line! My husband and i are creative and have fun with sex, there are things i've done that i realize wasnt a fav. some things that he has an odd liking for that i just dont understand but he understands that im not going to do it again! and then we move on to a new and more enjoyable way.

I would try some fore play with the "breast sex", just to get started then move on to other needs and have fun! sort of compromise and the surprise should arouse him enough!
Good luck!

[ItsASecret]

I am thinking if you do not want to do then don't. Yes there are other couples that do this, but there are also ones that do not. Trying to emulate other couples instead of being your own couple is not going to make you feel anymore comfortable. Sure you can try it but if it just builds resentment afterwards then it was not worth it.