[Guest]

Hi Naughty Ninja,

Because I am not a bust man. If I like a girl, I don't care about the size of her breasts, and I have dated girls who were large and small. As for women, my impression is that women like men whom they can feel inside of them. One woman told me that her old boyfriend was so small she couldn't feel him inside of her.

Do I have this all wrong?

Thanks,

Taos

[Texinator]

Well, considering a vagina can hold something as small as a tampon, and the fact that women can do kegel exercises to increase the control they have over their pelvic muscles... nope, still not buying it. If a woman has a difficult time feeling her partner, I suspect it is more of a psychological issue (lack of arousal in that moment, perhaps lack of attraction in general) than a physical one.

Another thing is that this is a women's forum made up mostly of women, and if penis size were so very important, then lots of women would be talking about it and admitting their preference for larger penises. Yet you can probably count on one hand the number of women here that have said penis size is very important to them, and it's actually usually the men that try to make the argument. I wonder why that is?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I can see that the "debate" may soon become an arguement...I hope not.....

I do think that it is nice, to be penetrated deeply, touching the cervix... I am not superficial however, as I said, I dated a guy who was small and he was my best by far, in the oral department and all I felt was drive, and action and well completion...

I think that is what people are trying to say in the defence side... How many men, really and be honest know how to make her muscles contract and hold him no matter what size he is and feel like they are in heaven, in-other-words pleasing her so much, turning her on so much that all she feels is orgasms over and over from various methods..

I think in all fairness, that those whom say the woman judge? Are those whom maybe, just maybe, get excited and tend to do little, or nothing and purely go for penetration or do "some" but don't know how to view each woman differently and find their weak spots and work on those before even attempting penetration.

Let's not argue guys... discuss please.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Some women receive enjoyment from stimulation of the fornices, while other women say that their fornices cannot be stimulated without stimulation of the cervix, which may be painful

Another reason why women suffer... And, I pose the question to women and men on this Forum if they have experienced that, does it conclude that the male went to deep, too fast, and if he was gentle she wouldn't be in pain? Or is it full stop, as soon as it hits the cervix.

I'm not asking for a debate on large hurts women smaller doesn't just anyones thought on the exact above question, given it was used totally out of context and rudely so, "edited" in a post.

[kristalyn_04]

Another reason why women suffer... And, I pose the question to women and men on this Forum if they have experienced that, does it conclude that the male went to deep, too fast, and if he was gentle she wouldn't be in pain? Or is it full stop, as soon as it hits the cervix.

Just touching the cervix, or even a little pressure, isn't painful. It's when he tries to force it to go in all the way (like if he hits it but still keeps pushing), it's uncomfortable. Even more so if he's ramming it in there like a jackhammer... that can actually cause damage. It also can be uncomfortable if he enters when I'm not aroused enough, even if he isn't particularly large.

On the issue of "feeling" with a smaller penis, it could also be an issue of angle of penetration, position, and level of arousal. The more aroused she is, the more sensitive she will be and she will also be more able to "mold" to his size. Lubrication can also be an issue... if there is too much, it reduces friction and therefore feeling. And of course, as has been mentioned, kegals can also help.

[waya]

Another reason why women suffer... And, I pose the question to women and men on this Forum if they have experienced that, does it conclude that the male went to deep, too fast, and if he was gentle she wouldn't be in pain? Or is it full stop, as soon as it hits the cervix.

Some touching of the cervix is fine to me and I really like my fornices stimulated. Even an occasional bump to the cervix is fine because it can give a sudden intense sensation. But for me anything more than a bump is very uncomfortable. Though I believe there are ways to touch the cervix gently and without pain.

[demotivator]

IDK but maybe if you hold off on sex and build and build the chemistry, turning the lust into feelings first, and naturally spend along time being intimate before hand, things may work out better.

In my opinion, holding off on sex is a mistake. After a few dates it should happen because I think sex is an important milestone of building a romantic relationship. Everybody has do's and don'ts (actually a lot more don'ts than do's), a certain sexdrive, preferences and attitude towards sex. Not to mention kinks and fetishes but those come up later on. Anyway, it's good to figure out if the basics are going to work or not before things get emotional. Besides, emotions make the sex better which means good sex becomes great. Bad certainly improves too but won't be great. At least this is what I've experienced. Moreover, sex is fun. Why not do it when you could?

[Guest]

I can see my previous response was deleted, so I will try again.

The anterior/posterior fornix is an erogenous zone in females, that is past the cervix.


Tenting effect:
With continued arousal, the inner two thirds of the vagina increase in both length and width, creating a tenting or ballooning effect. (In its unexcited state, the vagina is a collapsed tube, i.e., its walls are touching). At the same time, there is a vaginal color change from the usual red to a deep purple that becomes even darker during the following phases.- *Removed outbound links* Also nice image on this source.

Magnetic resonance imaging
was used to study the anatomy of the male and female genitals
during coitus. Three experiments were performed with one couple
in two positions and after male ejaculation. The images obtained
confirmed that during intercourse in the missionary position, the
penis reaches the anterior fornix with preferential contact of the
anterior vaginal wall. The posterior bladder wall was pushed forward
and upward and the uterus was pushed upward and backward.
The images obtained from the rear-entry position showed for
the first time that the penis seems to reach the posterior fornix with
preferential contact of the posterior vaginal wall. In this position,
the bladder and uterus were pushed forward. A different preferential
contact of the penis with the female genitals was observed with
each position. These images could contribute to a better understanding
of the anatomy of sexual intercourse.- *Removed outbound link*

I put this together in 15 minutes of google searching. If you can change your perception of the vagina as a strait tube that ends at the cervix, you can understand how a greater penis length can be beneficial to some

[Guest]

Okay, so my sources were:

Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) of Sexual Intercourse: Second Experience in Missionary Position and Initial Experience in Posterior Position, Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 28(s):63–76, 2002


Magnus Hirschfeld Archive for sexology: The Four Phases of the Response

[LanaBear]

Why why why... Are you so heck bent on trying to prove that a long penis is beneficial for women?

Have you not read ANYTHING on this WOMEN's forum? Most of the women who have posted, do not care! What are you gaining by trying to force your belief that a longer penis is beneficial?

It is you men that are making this into a huge issue and debate. Knock it off!

I've had my cervix "punched" during sex, it doesn't feel good! So the comment of "not creating a boxing match effect" is hogwash.