[depresssed]

Chan said:

"Re-read my last post

I already realised that was not the case, having re-read your first post......"

Yes, thanks, Chan. Our posts were three minutes apart, so I didn't see it before I posted that. My bad.

[Texinator]

Depressed, regardless of why there hasn't been any sex in a long while, you need to work on your attitude if you want to have a happy, healthy sex life again. It's still your penis, no matter what your wife or anyone else may or may not think about it, and so it's still your opinion that matters most. But if you're feeling inadequate, how is someone else supposed to get excited about it?

A woman's largest and most sensitive erogenous zone isn't between her legs but between her ears. If you want to connect with her vagina, first you have to connect with her mind. A happy woman is a horny woman, and then it doesn't matter if you're so tiny that you need to tie a ribbon around it to find it or if you're so large that you had to get a missile silo for your pecker.

But that's not gonna happen if the subject of sex is synonymous with your penis size.

[Texinator]

Being GOOD orally doesn't mean she had prior experience... at all. And being BAD at it... doesn't mean a woman NEVER did it before either. When it comes to oral sex its more about the desire the woman has to please the man she is performing on than anything to do with how many penises she's had in her mouth. A woman might give AWESOME head to a guy she is totally into ... and give 'lick lick, put it in already , i'm bored' head to a man she isn't into or comfortable with.

There's the ol saying that practice makes perfect, but there's often little or no link between skill and experience. That goes for life in general, but especially for oral, because there it is the attitude that matters more than anything else. The same is true for men giving oral. For example, I've always had a bit of a talent for cunning linguistics, even when I had almost no experience, and I attribute that to the fact that I approach it like a passionate lovemaking session with her vulva rather than thinking, "Eew, nasty, I'm tonguing her pee hole." Meanwhile, there are men who have had lots and lots of experience, but their continued hesitance means that they'd probably do a better job if they just stuck out their tongue and then had their wife or girlfriend grab them by the hair and move their head around.

[WildChild]

they'd probably do a better job if they just stuck out their tongue and then had their wife or girlfriend grab them by the hair and move their head around.

Quite a few men do essentially this when getting a bj.(grabbing the woman's head and taking control) Word to the wise this really only works if the two of you are in tune and she knows how to work with it. Otherwise scrapes and tooth marks are likely and you'll be lucky if she ever agrees to do another BJ.

[depresssed]

Tex: What are her general views on sex? What about her religious views and upbringing?

Very conservative. Devout Catholic. Both of us.

If she's on the reserved side in that regard, you could just as easily assume that she said that about penis length because she feels guilty about enjoying sex and wants to have a reason to act uninterested. After all, a penis generally doesn't reach an owner's belly button, and she dismissed the overwhelming majority as inadequate with that statement.

EXACTLY! And I happen to be in that overwhelming majority of inadequates. Maybe she was just parroting something she heard a girlfriend say, maybe it's something she read in a magazine, and maybe she's had lovers who reach the mark and she actually believes this. I JUST DON'T KNOW! Which brings me to a question for our honest ladies on this board:

I have visited some other sites and a great many female posters there are into size, many saying that 8" is ideal, anything under 6" is a throwaway, and average is 7". Could this be because the really hung guys are getting most of the action because among the females in the community the word gets around that he is packing and therefor his services are much in demand, and vice versa for the smaller guys, the word gets around amongst the females in the community and he has a hard time, thus the females in the community are seeing and experiencing a disproportionate number of larger penises?

[Hopeless Dork]

Agreeeed with WC -- I LOVE the fact my boyfriend doesn't grab my head during oral -- fellas that is just STUPID and annoying (unless your chick tells you otherwise). The distinct difference between a woman grabbing a mans head during oral is that as hard as she grinds against him -- he isn't going to choke on anything :\ When a woman has a penis INSIDE of her mouth... shoving her head can create an anxiety of choking, not being able to breathe, etc... essentially... it will not be condusive to you getting frequent head lol. Taking a man in your throat requires being in control of how/when you do it .. in order for it to occur comfortably --

[depresssed]

WildChild, you asked several questions I would like to answer, but can't today. It's Sunday morning in Hawaii which means church (I will continue to pray for a larger penis LOL), then a day at the beach. My wife has no idea I am on this board. I just plod along like everything is great. Aloha for now.

And thanks, everyone!!!!!!!

[ItsASecret]

I have visited some other sites and a great many female posters there are into size, many saying that 8" is ideal, anything under 6" is a throwaway, and average is 7". Could this be because the really hung guys are getting most of the action because among the females in the community the word gets around that he is packing and therefor his services are much in demand, and vice versa for the smaller guys, the word gets around amongst the females in the community and he has a hard time, thus the females in the community are seeing and experiencing a disproportionate number of larger penises?

If you go to a size queen website you are going to get size queen responses. Taking one answer as a generalization is not a good idea because you cannot generalize one grouping as being a representative of the whole. The whole being the entire population of 3 billion other women, not 50 size queens on a devote wild sex website. A minority is a minority, a minority is not majority and should never be treated as such. Meeting a wild sex pot of a woman who loves everything about herself cannot be generalized to other another woman's actions just the same way that a hard core religious woman cannot be generalized to the rest of women. Sure there are size queens that expect a man's penis to be no less than 7,8,9 inches they are never going to go away but if you pluck a random woman off the street and ask her preference the majority response is going to be "I like average". Focusing in on one group, like size queens, will do no good. Preconceived notions are hardly beneficial, the majority response should be looked at and not shot down simply because the idea that some extreme is somehow better is locked into someone's mind.

[jns]

I have visited some other sites and a great many female posters there are into size, many saying that 8" is ideal, anything under 6" is a throwaway, and average is 7". Could this be because the really hung guys are getting most of the action because among the females in the community the word gets around that he is packing and therefor his services are much in demand, and vice versa for the smaller guys, the word gets around amongst the females in the community and he has a hard time, thus the females in the community are seeing and experiencing a disproportionate number of larger penises?

When you have a bunch of people bragging about something, do you think the consensus of such bragging is the real truth as it applies to everyone? For actual size, if only one out of 8 lies and the rest say 6 inches and that one says 14 inches, you have moved the average from 6 inches to 7 inches. I would rather believe what doctors and researchers say. As is said: "the first liar doesn't stand a chance." As for what people want, "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."

[Texinator]

Very conservative. Devout Catholic. Both of us.

That could be an issue. I don't want you to take this as a personal insult, but I live in an area in southern Texas where the majority of people are conservative Catholics, and it's difficult to find people with a healthy attitude toward sex. For many, it is such a taboo subject, that the children tend to grow up either rebelling against it and having sex with anything that moves, which means we have a great deal of teenage pregnancies, or they are scared of sex to the point where they find it difficult to have a fulfilling sexual relationship.

So her remark about penis length might be a result of her simply feeling guilty about the idea of enjoying sex, and if she dismisses all but the longest penises as not being enjoyable, then she also dismisses sex for the most part as not being enjoyable.

I have visited some other sites and a great many female posters there are into size, many saying that 8" is ideal, anything under 6" is a throwaway, and average is 7".

Did you stumble onto a support group for cavernous vaginas?

It sounds as though they are just a superficial bunch, the female equivalent of the idiots that also don't want anything to do with women who do not have at least C cup breasts.

Again, the vagina is EXTREMELY flexible. It can hold something as thing as a tampon and pass through as something as thick as a baby.

Though that's dealing with girth and not length, and in fact many women have to be careful having sex with someone who is above seven inches in length. It might be a boost to his ego, but women generally don't like getting smacked in the cervix.