[Texinator]

I worry about what it teaches people who watch it. Porn is all about arousing males, both the men who participate and the ones that watch. It may make it seem like the women in the pictures/videos are thoroughly enjoying themselves, but I guarantee you, pounding away at her for two minutes like you're trying to tenderize meat is NOT going to make her squirt all over the place in real life. She may scream... but more out of anger or pain than out of pleasure. Porn also makes good sex look like it consists of lots of penile stimulation with hand and mouth followed by quick intercourse, but in reality a man who cares only about his own pleasure is not going to get much demand for sex.

Porn doesn't show the actions and words that make a woman happy and more interested in sex. It doesn't show extended foreplay. It rarely ever shows anything where her pleasure is the focus. Because then it would cease to be "quick and easy" for the viewer.

[funlovingmale]

WildChild, wow! What an in-depth analysis.grounded in personal experience. I would not have thought that it could get to that stage - your man preferring the vicarious, virtual realm on his computer screen to orgasmic you in the flesh! For me, porn has not been able to eclipse the real thing, though it could have resulted in me having less sex with a partner that wanted sex often! I have yet to experience being with a women that has a higher sex drive than me, so this scenario remains hypothetical!

My feeling is that men are getting programmed into treating women as sex objects and expecting them to do all sorts of acts that do not originate in love. They see anal sex all the time, for instance, and think that the women they are with should automatically consent to it. I agree with your and Tex's analogy to fast food. Consumed regularly it just isn't good for us. Thanks all.

[WildChild]

My feeling is that men are getting programmed into treating women as sex objects and expecting them to do all sorts of acts that do not originate in love. They see anal sex all the time, for instance, and think that the women they are with should automatically consent to it.

This may also mean that they expect it without lube or any preparation. Some of us can do that but not many I would guess. If you ever watch some of the vid on the prep that goes into some stuff you see in porn, you would be surprised; fasting, multiple enemas, lube preinserted. Real people in real life don't do all that just so a man can just shove it in like they do in porn. Other stuff like going back and forth from vaginal to anal to vaginal to anal to oral is flat out stupid. The woman could end up with a nasty vaginal infection and with anything from E coli (potentially fatal or lifetime debiltation) to Hep A. I got HepA from a salad at a pot luck years ago. You do get over it without any long terms problems but I seriously thought I was going to die when I was sick - I felt that bad. My children had to live elsewhere for over a week because I couldn't care for them, everyone who had been in contact with me had to have a gamma globulin injection. It was a miserable experience. But their are men, every day, wanting women they supposedly care about, to to risk all this for their fleeting pleasure, to fullfil a porn inspired fantasy. And there are women because they saw in done in porn, willing to do it. Stupid.

[oxy-moron]

Wildchild is correct in her analysis.
What she experienced with her lover is represents a desensitising of the mind through porn.
The human brain adjusts to stimulus in an adaptive manner. An individual activity in porn will soon become seen as normal if viewed enough times. Milder activities will loose interest in comparison.
After a while harder and harder images/activities are needed to get a kick- then the previous porn will seem tame to the user. Like drugs or alcohol it can become an addiction. The ability to get excited with real women will become weakened or compromised. It can take 3 to 6 months of abstinence to restore normal function.
Beware!

[funlovingmale]

There is a wonderful website that talks about what porn does to your brain neurochemically

I am sure they would not mind you posting it here! It is non-profit and altruistic in intent. Thanks

[WildChild]

At this time you cannot post outbound links. But you could give us the name of the site if it is non commercial. Understand that if the mods think someone is trying to promote something like a religious or political agenda, we may still edit.

[Rediscovered]

I promise it does not have an agenda other than trying to help those addicted to porn understand how it affects their brain~~the owners of the website are really great people.

your brain on porn . com is the website. Lots and lots of great articles to read and dig through.

[jns]

I think porn is a curse to relationships (to answer the original question).

[Aqemini1977]

Porn has been positive and negative to my relationship. I have been married to the same beautiful woman for 12 years and we are both 33. We were pretty young and mostly inexperienced at satisfying a mate. I am much more sexually adventorous than her but she will try some things she feels comfortable with. The positives of porn from relationship aspect is the multitude of sexual information on display.

There are many different genres of porn and some are truly eye-opening about the female anatomy. I gained countless knowledge from "good" porn. We sometimes (once a month) watch erotic movies for entertainment which usually leads to some passionate love-making. We both learned some of the initial tactics for oral pleasure from watching good porn. We both learned about vibrators/dildos from watching good porn. We both learned about role-playing and its excitement from watching porn. We both learned about how talking dirty could actually enhance our love-making from watching porn. All of these example have enhanced our sexual relationship. I personally learned about anal stimulation during intercourse from porn. I have no desire to ever actually practice full blown anal but she does orgasm harder with a little anal stimulation during intercourse. All of these are examples we learned through watching porn. We could have gotten these ideas from books or instructional videos but they seem to be a bit.....well instructional!

There are some negatives though. She is not thrilled about my personal masterbation/porn use. She doesn't understand why/how masterbation/porn is pleasing to me physically. We had a few discussions earlier in our marriage but we don't see the pleasure in this the same way. She has never masterbated (at least she won't admit it). It is nothing we argue over she just doesn't quite get the reason why I would masterbate to porn ever. I keep it discrete and she has never asked me to stop and she doesn't have any self-esteem issues. Another negative for me personally is that I enjoy watching porn from many different genres (Fat girls, Blacks, Latinas, orgies, hairy). I say this is a negative b/c she feels like I want all of these types of images in my real life. She only enjoys mutual porn watching with females that are similar to her in race/build. She doesn't like the fact that I could get sexually excited from seeing the manuerism and the body types of woman I have never been with. So all in all, in my opinion, porn has had negative and positive effects on my relationship.