[Millania]

HopelessDork-agreed, I hate it when my man says that, OH get over it..all men do it
its a dam computer screen, not real life, and blah blah blah
So why cant they just refrain from wacking off all the dam time?
Oh and hear this, how funny and what BS is this: my H says he only "watches it"
he likes the rush he gets from "watching" that he doesnt "finish himself off"
what a crock of bull
thats what bugs me the most, he is secretive AND then denys he wacks it
I swear he is like a little kid as SOON as no one is home, he is probably locking doors, closing blinds...geez

[Hopeless Dork]

Millania my guy has told me the exact same thing. Its not real life... you are mad at something fake. I am like those girls are not furniture. You are not looking at an ikea catelog. Those are real girls. Girls we see at the store and in the bar.

He also says the exact same thing that he isn't masturbating to it, that he just watches it to excite himself and its like ugh... so you need to excite yourself in order to have sex with me? of course his answer is no. I just don't get it either, dear. At least we're not alone.

[Millania]

hopeless dork-ur so right, these girls are not furniture, they are not looking at an ikea catalog (OMGSH u cracked me up with that one)! so true! they are watching these "real" girls get pounded.. they are girls our men sometimes fantasize about when they are driving with us in the car, fantasizing when they r making love to us!
what the heck r men thinking of when they are getting a nice bj from us and they close their eyes tilt their head back? us? all the time? BULL..
yet they wont admit the truth, I even told my H, I know what u are thinking of when u see half naked women on TV, bc he was oogling at this video one day and I was talking to him and he wasnt even paying attention, I was like UM hello? men think us women dont know, but we know, u little dirty pervs lol, we r trying SO hard to co-exist with you wonderful men, we cant live with ya, cant live without ya!

[newhere808]

And is a woman who oogles a buff guy on a movie/tv screen automatically guilty of thinking of him during sex? I won't say that all guys are innocent of this, but not all guys are vehement perverts, just as not all women are innocent in their thought process when it comes to sex as well.

I know a lot of guys who, like myself, find things like strip clubs and porn to be a waste of time. I know some women that need to think about Vin Diesel to enjoy sex with their husband. Judge the individual please, not the sex.

[funstar30]

mmmm porn...

hi there u lot this is my first time iv ever put something on here as u can see....i just wanted to say after reading most of what u have put.....im a 30 year young( lol) woman and love watching porn....yes i love it ...and to be honest my bf doesnt mind me watching it ...ok he tells me not everyday but hay i carnt help it lol.he is however slightly shy when it somes to watching sex on t.v or or the internet.he says he doesnt watch it but i know he does lol........ its not bad watching porn i suppose its coz i have a high sex drive and bf carnt keep up lol......xxx

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I know a lot of guys who, like myself, find things like strip clubs and porn to be a waste of time. I know some women that need to think about Vin Diesel to enjoy sex with their husband. Judge the individual please, not the sex.

Very true newhere808.

I appreciate it's a Women's Forum, but open to both sexes and Porn seems to be more male orientated. However, you are correct, alot of women fantasize whilst having sex. Most women receive a picture via email of some fireman, half nakkked and have a look

I shudder at the thought of any person having sex with their partner, closing their eyes and visualising a different male/female in front of them...

To me, that's worse, as to me that's a clear indication that they are not happy with their partner.

CW

[Millania]

newhere-yes, sorry, yesterday I got a bit carried away saying that just cuz a man oogles a woman on a porn or video thats immediatley what he is thinking of during sex with their wife/girlfriend(I am working on my insecurities), I can see if the tables are turned, thats not always the case although some women/men DO fantasize about other men sometimes and I understand its normal
It all depends on the person I guess(whether or not they fantasize about being with other people)
Chandlers Wish-ugh, me too! I shudder at the fact that someone can be having sex with their significant other, closing their eyes and thinking of someone else-thats just wrong, and yes ur are so right, its obvious they are not happy with that specific person and need to work on their relationship

[vishva8kumara]

Well, yesterday we had so much heartache because of few trivial arguments of two reasons. Both of us were frustrated anyway; for me it was a video I received from a colleague at work, it was a porn. Somehow it has annoyed me.

The final result was that it caused a conflict over few trivial matters.

[Marie36]

Hello everyone, just catching up on this topic as I haven't been on the computer in a few days. Anyway, judging by the different posts, you can see everyone is different. And what works in one relationship may not work in another. That's why I feel it's very important to tell each other what you're comfortable with. Whether it's your own insecurity or not, you should be able to communicate that to your partner. One thing I completely agree with (sorry, I forget who said it) is that if porn is "no big deal", then they should have no problem giving it up or cutting back on it. If that's an issue, then the porn is a bigger deal than they want to admit. I also agree that we should look at this on an individual basis. It wouldn't be fair of us to assume a man fantasizes while he is with his wife just because he looks at porn. Millania, my only advice to you would be to continue to communicate how you feel about this. Because it's possible that his constant viewing of porn and refusal to stop or cut back is adding to your insecurities

[rcoreyus]

Someone at work absolutely should not be sending you porn. It could get them fired, the company sued big time. Most companies record all internal emails. Even an email sent from on employee to another through private accounts could be illegal (I don't make the rules). Maybe you should let him know that he needs to be a lot more careful. This is not threatening -this really is for his sake.

Well, yesterday we had so much heartache because of few trivial arguments of two reasons. Both of us were frustrated anyway; for me it was a video I received from a colleague at work, it was a porn. Somehow it has annoyed me.

The final result was that it caused a conflict over few trivial matters.