[mm1991]

I dont like porn. I dont mind erotica, but porn can be ugly. My bf wants some stupid stuff like back door entry, you know what I mean, yuk. Why would anyone want to do that, he must have seen in it in the videos. The men who want go there rather than have a clean, nice, pink, healthy vagina must be sick. Or watching too much porn. Anyway my bf is history as from tonight, only he doesn't know it yet. Nothing to do with porn, but because he is shallow and selfish.

[newhere808]

I dont like porn. I dont mind erotica, but porn can be ugly. My bf wants some stupid stuff like back door entry, you know what I mean, yuk. Why would anyone want to do that, he must have seen in it in the videos. The men who want go there rather than have a clean, nice, pink, healthy vagina must be sick. Or watching too much porn. Anyway my bf is history as from tonight, only he doesn't know it yet. Nothing to do with porn, but because he is shallow and selfish.

Well here's the catch 22, your basically bashing a form of sex that several (both men and women) enjoy mutually. I am fine with porn as a medium of inspiration (some couples watch it together) but it shouldn't be your primary sexual entertainment in my opinion. Unfortunately some people are just porn people and don't realize how much it can hurt their partner.

[mm1991]

I am not bashing anything, but it seems that porn needs to be more and more deprived in order to sell, otherwise it's been there done that, not interesting.

I don't care for it, but that's just me, everyone is free to like and do what they want.

[Millania]

Marie36-I have tried and tried and tried to talk to him about -that he should stop viewing porn because it hurts me but he sees porn as a learning tool and doesnt see it as a big deal at all, all of his friends watch it since they were teenagers. He always says-its just a guy thing, that women will never understand, he also keeps telling me not to worry that its just a tv screen, that he is not wacking it(I know total lie lol) that he truly just enjoys watching 2 people make love and he learns new things all the time(which is true-sometimes he tries new things on me I am like WHOA! hooray!)and it turns him on and sometimes gets him ready for me when I come home(blah, blah-I know he likes to whack it -but he would take a bullet before he admits he wacks it to porn lol)
trust me I have tried everything in my power to try and tell him to stop but he wont so I am learning each and everyday on how to cope with it-thats why these boards help me a lot!
#1 thing I need to do is stop snooping/looking at his history bc its only hurting me in the end, thankfully he pleases me wonderfully
now if he stops pleasing me thats when I will have to speak up and put my foot down, give him an ultimatum, but I am trying to learn/cope with it-at least I am still getting lovin about 3-4 times a week which I think is pretty darn good

[Millania]

Newhere-so true! many people do not understand how much watching porn can hurt their partners when they find out
I feel wierd because I get so hurt when my H watches alone but I LOVE to watch it WITH him, we can barely keep our hands off each other 5minutes in..
sometimes I dont understand myself, porn can be a great tool for couples to enjoy
but when one of the partners starts enjoying themselves a bit too much it can be hurtful -because we would rather you come to US for enjoyment, and if watching a prn is so important lets watch together!
mm1991-I understand what you mean, some of the stuff out there is so disgusting and degrading. I enjoy anl sex but only in a nice slow and sensual way, maybe someday you can try it with your husband-in a nice loving way, not like the prn movies, in some of those movies they treat women like pieces of furniture throwing them around. I prefer nice romantic softcore stuff when my H and I watch together

[Texinator]

Most of the boys I know are sex "educated" on this sort of stuff.

Sadly, that's akin to wanting to become a chef and then learning your trade at.. McDonald's.

[mm1991]

Exactly!

May be when I am more comfortable with someone I willl want to spice the things up.

But most of the boys I know are into athletic sex and they need to tick all the boxes (for every perversion and every position). And most of my friends, including me like it slow and gentle. Sensual.

[Texinator]

Variety is nice, but even when things get wilder, done properly they're rarely ever like you see in porn. A woman is much more likely to yawn with boredom than to scream with pleasure if a man 'hammers' away at her like that for two minutes.

[newhere808]

Sadly, that's akin to wanting to become a chef and then learning your trade at.. McDonald's.

Lol'd, easily one of the funniest things i've read here

Another option would be to change up where you looking for guys. Chances are if most of the "boys" you know are into the same thing, you may wish to change up your target demographic a bit.

Personally i'm into trying new things, and if she's not cool with it it's not something worth pressing.

[Little]

I am closing this thread because it was started by a member who has since been banned and is quite a few years old. In fact, it was started when I was a new member. If you want to continue your discussion about the virtues and downfalls of porn, please begin a new thread.