[jns]

As a guy I have to disagree...some maybe..as there is the same with women giving oral..I myself absolutely love giving. I love the control I get bringing her so close to orgasim then backing off..then doing it again, and again until she can't take it anymore. I love the squirming, the noises she makes..I love it all! The only time I'm bored with it is if I don't get reciprocation....what I mean is when I'm not having sex or other things often enough(which is a current problem) I really don't want to do it. But when my wife is showing me the love I need, I love nothing more than pleasing her!

As for the OPs question...When I'm not getting, I'm not giving! How about no more BJs until he learns how to please his women!

I also am not like the guys I was describing as I like giving oral. Personally, I don't really understand them. But just because I don't understand them doesn't mean that they aren't out there.

[drnyc2]

i had that problem for a short while with my man and it really frustrated me. i never enjoyed performing it on my former partners but with my current bf i love to make him feel good. i actually said that to him recently, that i love to make him feel good, and ever since then he's been doing it to me too. sometimes the littlest thing helps but in this case i could stop pleasuring him COLD TURKEY until he realizes how serious you are about it.

[goose]

I love oral with my wife! I could give up love making with my wife but not oral. I have had guys tell me that it is dirty. I don' understand what is so dirty about it. There is something about oral that drives me nuts. The smell the taste and the pleasure she gets from it. Talk to him. Maybe some porn with alot of oral in it. Men need that visual drive sometimes. Good luck and don't give up.

[WildChild]

With the vast majority of men hints don't work. Sometimes even being totally blunt (you think) they still don't get it. You have to make sure he is listening and hearing, your actions have to match your words, you have to stick to it and be very, very clear. At some point, if you are lucky, a light will shine through the fog and he will say,,,,,,"did you say something?" THEN you can very bluntly tell him what you need and chances are (unless you made a really poor choice of who to let into your life) he will try to find away to work it out.

Not all men are going to like going down, if that truly the case and it isn't just selfishness or unconsciousness, you will have to experiment and find what works to help you get going or feel more connected and he needs to be a partner in that.

[Adaac41]

Maybe some porn with alot of oral in it. Men need that visual drive sometimes.

Good advice!!! Maybe he's not sure what to do down there! Plus while your watching make sure your show him how excited you get when that part comes up. Tell him, I love it like that! Oooo just like that! In that sexy voice while touching yourself and him! Drive him nuts sexually hopefully with him realizing what he should be doing next! Good Luck!

[herbie]

i have two suggestions for you i would try in this order 1st if your kind of shy about saying things write a letter tell him how you feel and end it by asking him to write you back this way shyness will not be a factor.If that doesn,t help you then offer him no ORAL whatsoever when he askes you for it kindly mention you really don,t like giving it you wanted to please him but were hoping for a little pleasure back.He should get the picture right see were that gets you ...Good Luck

[bernardcat]

my fiance wouldn't go down on me because he thought i didn't like it (he isn't really good at it, so I always prefer sex).

I dont communicate well about sex with him. So, I don't remember exactly how I told him but he LOVES head and I dont like doing it, so I kept saying "I dont get anything in return" and it finally came up. I told him I wouldn't mind him doing it, it never happens so I am still a little uncomfortable with it.

So, we did it a LOT more. But, it has slowed down now. Still not great, he needs some practice and I need to coach him. I know me, so that wont happen.

[rcoreyus]

Bernardcat - you need to try to tell him what you want, otherwise its really hard for him to figure it out himself. I know its a difficult subject, but its worth the effort.

[Guest]

WC is right, hints don't work with men. We prefer to hear it straight. Tell him that you would like it more and ask him if he has a problem with that. Simple really isn't it?

[kristalyn_04]

I don't understand how someone could be so close to another person, share intimacy with them, and not be able to TALK with them about sex. I don't mean any offense to anyone, but seriously.