[Guest]

I have a proposal for all men who demand their partner lets them come in their mouth. Next time you masturbate, ejaculate into a cup and then drink it down. I'm not kidding.

If you refuse to do it outright, why should she do it? If you try it but can't stand the texture or taste, why should she do it? If you try it and you don't mind, then remember that everyone has a different opinion, and it might make her uncomfortable after all, just like you might not be comfortable with absolutely everything she wants.

STRONGLY disagree with this. On so many levels.

So, Ill just keep this short. I LOVE going down on a woman, LOVE IT. Ill tell a woman she isnt allowed to have an orgasm until I want her to, because I dont want quit yet.

But if you handed me a cup of a woman's love juice, no F'ing way am I drinking it.

[rcoreyus]

My $.02. (I'm a guy).

This is not at all important to some men, and very important to others. Why doesn't matter, it just is or isn't.

I don't think anyone should be pressured into doing something sexual that they don't want to do. I also don't think that anyone should be pressured into staying in a relationship where their sexual needs aren't being met (assuming they are not married or in an equivalent long term relationship). I would not judge you at all negatively for saying no. I would not judge him at all negatively if he decides to leave the relationship if you don't do it.

If he is willing to do what you want in bed, then I would suggest that you give it a try for him.

[irischef]

Some people love it others don't. It's completely normal to not want ejaculate in your mouth. I personally -love- giving head, but I absolute hate the taste of cum. If it's not for you, it's not for you, and there is nothing wrong with that. He needs to grow up and respect what you want, and don't want to do with your body. A side note, you could give him head while he's wearing a condom, it feels the same, don't let him tell you it dosen't. And then you don't have to worry about him cumming in your mouth. Another way around it, when giving him head, you can concentrate on licking the frenulum, which is the little bunch of tissue on the seam of the penis directly under the head on the side that bumps his balls. It's an extremely sensitive area, and when he cums, it won't get in your mouth.

[Guest]

A side note, you could give him head while he's wearing a condom, it feels the same, don't let him tell you it dosen't.

That is an opinion, not fact. It is also an opinion not many guys would share, if any.

[rosekitten]

If he is willing to do what you want in bed, then I would suggest that you give it a try for him.

I have to disagree with this sentiment. My husband is very much the... prude in the relationship. I am game for significantly more than he is, but everything we do we do in stages. While I believe that sex is important in a relationship, I believe respect and mutual understanding are far more important. If he wants to walk away from the relationship because you won't do something you're truly uncomfortable with, then let him. Do not let anyone ever use the "but I'm okay with "x" so you should do "y" because it's just not how a loving relationship works.

[rosekitten]

A side note, you could give him head while he's wearing a condom, it feels the same, don't let him tell you it dosen't. And then you don't have to worry about him cumming in your mouth.

If you can tolerate the taste of a condom, more power to you. O.o I would much rather have a faint taste of semen in the back of my throat than latex (flavored or not, I still find it nauseating). As far as the feeling goes, I have my doubts on that. I know that for me the feeling of a condom v. without is vastly different, and I'd be willing to be it's the same for most men.

[Texinator]

A side note, you could give him head while he's wearing a condom, it feels the same, don't let him tell you it dosen't.

Put on a latex glove and then put a finger in your mouth. It's a very different sensation for your mouth and even moreso for your finger.

[Guest]

A long time ago, I talked a woman into trying to swallow for me. She threw up on my stomach, and I never asked her to try again. (you could always try that!) Not only did I not ask her to try again, I have never asked another woman to try since(if she didnt do it on her own). Sometimes, guys just need to trust women a little more with what they dont want to do.

But, its difficult not to ask for a couple reasons.

1- Im willing to bet the percentage of women who like the texture and taste of semen is pretty, pretty, pretty low, even if some say otherwise. The percentage of women who swallow is a lot higher, closer to or just over half in my experiences. Why then, do some choose not to swallow if almost all dislike the taste and then why do so many swallow anyway? Do the women who like you more make more effort to swallow? Are some women just more apt to buck up and make a guy happy if she has strong feelings for him? These are the questions a guy asks in his mind when a girl wont swallow. Doesnt she like me enough? Or, What else wont she do for me?

2- Most women are more wildly sexual that their men ever know because they are too shy to express it. The only way to find some women's boundaries is by asking. Case in point- A woman I am seeing works late, but wanted to come over for some frisky time. I told her I would leave the door unlocked, and she should sneak in like a dirty robber and take advantage of me. She LOVED the idea, especially when I told her I would punish her like the dirty home invader she was. Then, I offered to leave a plastic knife out so she could be more forceful about taking advantage of me. She did not like that idea. Boundary found, but she might not have ever offered to play out the first part had I not asked. And who knows, she might have said yes to the second part, too. If I made a list of all the things women have said yes to that I figured I had no chance at......

So ladies, dont be offended if we ask, maybe even twice. We are just trying to find out how wild you really are!

And guys, myself included, need to be more trusting of what a woman says she is not comfortable with.

[LanaBear]

Oh, the irony. I just came across this article and thought I would post an excerpt. I think what makes this even funnier, the author is a woman!

I've always been a swallower. As a child, I swallowed anything the vacuum cleaner failed to pick up. Crayons. Paper. Nose boogers. Nothing felt dirty or wrong, even if the look on my mother's face told me otherwise. It wasn't until I started giving blow jobs that I thought about what I swallowed. I had given up breast milk long before then, and the idea of swallowing something out of someone else's body felt odd. But anything feels strange until you get used to doing it.

There's a lot of chatter over the age old sex debate, to spit or swallow, but when it comes to decisions, this is an easy one. If you love your partner and can muster up enough strength to take one for the team, take one for the team. Not only do guys love it when women swallow -- something about the whole completion thing -- but there are actually measurable benefits to swallowing, too.

1. Semen can boost your mood. Sure, this study had to do with intercourse, but if the hormones in semen, mainly testosterone and estrogen, make women happy when they screw, why wouldn't they make women happy when they swallow? Going on that theory, swallowing can make you happier. So next time the kids are screaming for SpongeBob, think about the benefits of another type of bob. The head bob.

2. Semen does a body good, pass it on. That's right, semen may be a cure for sore throats and diabetes! The next time you eat too much sugar and worry about your insulin levels, balance it out with a little semen (and, of course, talk to your doctor). If you lose your voice shouting at the kids for fighting, protect your throat with semen. These are only some of the possible medical benefits for semen. I can only imagine what else science will uncover about swallowing. Perhaps it's the cure for world hunger?

3. Semen can taste good. Like French fries or fruit, it all depends on what he eats. When you're looking for a filling snack, why not a little love juice? It's high in protein and only 20 calories per teaspoon. And when he eats celery, cranberries, watermelon, and drinks pineapple juice, he'll taste even juicer.

4. And for those who can't get themselves to swallow, fear not. You should feel good knowing that a little semen on your face may do wonders for your skin. According to The Sexual Teachings of the White Tigress, semen facials are good for you. And in her memoir, I'm Wild Again, even Helen Gurley Brown recommends the semen facial: "Spread semen over your face, [it's] probably full of protein as sperm can eventually become babies. Makes a fine mask — and he'll be pleased."

[Texinator]

Haha, nice one, Banana