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I have mixed feelings about masturbating in front of my girl, on the one hand, she says she loves watching, and that she loves the idea of watching without me knowing she's there...
In reality though, it generally makes me feel uncomfortable, pressured, and less relaxed generally, and generally makes me force it to an end before the point of it being as pleasurable as it could be.
Example, if she's sleepy and wants to go to bed, and I want sex, she might tell me to masturbate. In that situation, she's lying there trying to get to sleep, making me even feel like an inconvenience. And then she'll say something about it making her feel unneeded afterwards, or something. I avoid it now.
If it's a fluid part of sex, though, it's great/fine.Comment
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I think he thinks of it as private. He doesn't want me to feel bad by seeing how much he enjoys it. I think he thinks I might take that personally....so he won't really do it in front of me. He only recently agreed to do it a minute here and there...but not anywhere near to finish with it. I see how much he enjoys it, but he is very private about it. I can't say that doesn't bother me, but that's the way it is. Perhaps in time, it will change...I have mixed feelings about masturbating in front of my girl, on the one hand, she says she loves watching, and that she loves the idea of watching without me knowing she's there...
In reality though, it generally makes me feel uncomfortable, pressured, and less relaxed generally, and generally makes me force it to an end before the point of it being as pleasurable as it could be.
Example, if she's sleepy and wants to go to bed, and I want sex, she might tell me to masturbate. In that situation, she's lying there trying to get to sleep, making me even feel like an inconvenience. And then she'll say something about it making her feel unneeded afterwards, or something. I avoid it now.
If it's a fluid part of sex, though, it's great/fine.Comment
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LMAO, sorry not laughing at you AT ALL. I just saw the user name and thought to myself for a moment thinking, "Did I type this?" almost the same name.... ok carry onmy wife and I have masterbated infront of each other, i enjoy watching my wife and she says she enjoys watching me. But I am not comfortable having her watching me masterbate myself, comfortable her masterbating me yes, but her watching me do myself i try to avoid I feel pressured like im taking a test, and it normally causes me to take 5 times longer to climax than by myself
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