[caterpillar79]

You should both discuss its implications. He might be so keen at wanting to please you all the time but that doesn't mean you are at fault. You may enlist a doctor in your talk if he insists of experimenting with viagra.

[Hopeless Dork]

I'm not saying its your fault... I'm just saying that if what you want is a LASTING happy sex life AND relationship, you might want to tread lightly on doing things that could prove damaging down the road. I am a very sexual chick myself and I could and would want to do it NUMEROUS times a day. I lubricate the second my boyfriend touches me and I'm ready to go lol.. but Ive learned, like you to pick up on his drive and how often he naturally ready and so I don't try to force a situation that I know could prove physically taxing. Instead I've learned to use the art of build up, anticipation, teasing (for both me and him) so that our sessions are more intense and less of a chore.

Everyone likes a fancy dinner, but if you have that fancy dinner 4 times a day every day, its not going to be fancy any more, just dinner... and when you are forced to eat that dinner it becomes even less appealing... even if it tastes good and makes you feel full afterward.

I'm not saying its your fault or that you need to blame yourself, I'm saying if what you want is good sex now and down the road along with a happy relationship... it might be a good idea to try to approach your intimacy a bit differently, with more spontaneity in mind, less quantity driven, more quality driven.

[Guest]

I'm not saying its your fault... I'm just saying that if what you want is a LASTING happy sex life AND relationship, you might want to tread lightly on doing things that could prove damaging down the road. I am a very sexual chick myself and I could and would want to do it NUMEROUS times a day. I lubricate the second my boyfriend touches me and I'm ready to go lol.. but Ive learned, like you to pick up on his drive and how often he naturally ready and so I don't try to force a situation that I know could prove physically taxing. Instead I've learned to use the art of build up, anticipation, teasing (for both me and him) so that our sessions are more intense and less of a chore.

Everyone likes a fancy dinner, but if you have that fancy dinner 4 times a day every day, its not going to be fancy any more, just dinner... and when you are forced to eat that dinner it becomes even less appealing... even if it tastes good and makes you feel full afterward.

I'm not saying its your fault or that you need to blame yourself, I'm saying if what you want is good sex now and down the road along with a happy relationship... it might be a good idea to try to approach your intimacy a bit differently, with more spontaneity in mind, less quantity driven, more quality driven.

Well the only way to do that is to push him away when he cuddles cos as soon as he rubs me etc i spontaneously go aroused and he sees my state and its too late...he wants to please my arousal :'(

[Hopeless Dork]

Even though you prefer his penis, trust I prefer my boyfriends as well.. perhaps you could compromise on that and ask for the oral/manual when you know its not condusive to him being 'ready' yet.

[Guest]

Even though you prefer his penis, trust I prefer my boyfriends as well.. perhaps you could compromise on that and ask for the oral/manual when you know its not condusive to him being 'ready' yet.

I don't even ask for sex of anykind, he just does it when I am aroused during cuddles. But for sure I will try to convince him that i prefer fingering like just say it in conversation, so when he sees my arousal he will not feel pressure to use his pen3s
Thats what my exboyfriend did, he just fingered me everytime we cuddled, but that was because i told him i wanted to keep virginity.

You should both discuss its implications. He might be so keen at wanting to please you all the time but that doesn't mean you are at fault. You may enlist a doctor in your talk if he insists of experimenting with viagra.

I feel like i'm a sex addict so might be my fault in that way... Most people can cuddle without losing control of their breathing etc.
My girlfriend purchased mee vibrating panties so I'm trying that on monday so at least when my hubby comes home i might not be so excitable./

[Hopeless Dork]

Personally, I think the vibrating panties wont be the answer. If you are trying to get your sexual interests down to a level that is more livable, doable, controllable... the answer isn't adding another coponant of sexuality. If anything I think you would just be aggrivating the situation by keeping yourself in a hyper sexual state. My suggestion, honestly - would be hobbies. Taking more classes, getting a job, getting out of the house more and hanging with friends/family... taking up more time at the gym.. channel the energy. I am a sexual girl as I said before... but there has to be a life outside of it, or it can become an addiction that controls your life.

Having a healthy appetite for sex is normal. Wanting satisfaction when aroused is normal, WANTING it multiple times a day is normal, not being able to cope without is, however, not healthy.

[DreamP346]

There is more to sex than intercourse. There are many other things you guys can do - oral, masturbate, toys, sexual massage, role playing, bondage, porn, and the list goes on. Try to do other things. Talk to your partner and explain that penetration is not the only enjoyment of sex. He needs to understand that. Find ways to being sexually intimate with each other without jumping into intercourse right away. Its just a biological reality that woman can multi orgasm without a rest period, while men need time in between.

The other thing is look into ways to make him last longer so he doesn't orgasms too soon.

There is some information about multi orgasmic men (orgasming without cumming) but is something that requires a lot of effort to learn to master. You can look into that as well.

[Guest]

Personally, I think the vibrating panties wont be the answer. If you are trying to get your sexual interests down to a level that is more livable, doable, controllable... the answer isn't adding another coponant of sexuality. If anything I think you would just be aggrivating the situation by keeping yourself in a hyper sexual state. My suggestion, honestly - would be hobbies. Taking more classes, getting a job, getting out of the house more and hanging with friends/family... taking up more time at the gym.. channel the energy. I am a sexual girl as I said before... but there has to be a life outside of it, or it can become an addiction that controls your life.

Having a healthy appetite for sex is normal. Wanting satisfaction when aroused is normal, WANTING it multiple times a day is normal, not being able to cope without is, however, not healthy.

After my course I hope I can be a secretary. Tennis is fun hit with my friend twice per week and a lesson on another day
For sure it is not healthy I agree

There is more to sex than intercourse. There are many other things you guys can do - oral, masturbate, toys, sexual massage, role playing, bondage, porn, and the list goes on. Try to do other things. Talk to your partner and explain that penetration is not the only enjoyment of sex. He needs to understand that. Find ways to being sexually intimate with each other without jumping into intercourse right away. Its just a biological reality that woman can multi orgasm without a rest period, while men need time in between.

The other thing is look into ways to make him last longer so he doesn't orgasms too soon.

There is some information about multi orgasmic men (orgasming without cumming) but is something that requires a lot of effort to learn to master. You can look into that as well.

Oh ok cool that would be awesome, but hope he doesn't just take viagra to stay hard, that was his plan
I like it when he comes anyway it's incredible

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Sara, can I ask how long have you been married? And, then together?

And, I am looking at this new photo.... Does he take photos of you? If so are you happy with that? Off topic maybe, maybe not.

Don't you have a shot where you are you, smiling, at 19 girly things?

What else do you do other than tennis?

[Guest]

Sara, can I ask how long have you been married? And, then together?

And, I am looking at this new photo.... Does he take photos of you? If so are you happy with that? Off topic maybe, maybe not.

Don't you have a shot where you are you, smiling, at 19 girly things?

What else do you do other than tennis?

Hi Chandler I'm married since my birthday last year on July third actually. Yep that photo is from me sleeping because I'd never seen myself sleep before actually. Yeah but I can't show my face fully or someone might recognize me and tell everyone my posts lol! My husbands friends are snoopers they probably would do that actually I saw one in our bedroom during a party looking through drawers. My best friend designs lingerie/dresses/skirt and that's how I got into tennis because she did a tennis dress/skirt range and I tried them and tried tennis during that. So I go to her house everyday. And we play twice each week and then another day I get a lesson from a guy that coaches and I go to this computer course but its part-time and very difficult. Do you like computers too? My friend said to get a webcamera and do a youtube show so maybe I can do that!