[Stillness]

I think most men would view him as a tool. Get my woman all relaxed and even a bit "turned on"...now get out of here so I can attend to "business". Obviously such thinking is ...shall we say...mistaken?

Yeah, my thought would be the opposite. I'm with the ladies on this one. I don't understand this sentiment at all. I'm not generally jealous, but when it comes to my naked wife being touched and/or aroused I get angry picturing anyone other than myself doing the touching. When she has her annual ob-gyn appointment I secretly want to schedule her doctor's annual punch-in-the-face appointment.

I also don't want to be massaged by a woman or a man. I guess I'm just funny that way. If it was clinical and as a part of some necessary therapy or something I guess that would be an exception. Other than that I figure we can massage each other.

[lizzardb63]

Stillness- just to clarify. The yearly OBGYN appointment is less than pleasurable. You get probed and touched and it's in the least sexual way imaginable. Honestly- it's not something a woman "looks forward to" so do not get jealous of that! Besides... do you have a clue how many vaginas those doctors see daily? What makes you think your wives is anything special compared to anyone elses to them?

The massaging, I totally get that. I would never want a good looking woman to be rubbing down my mans almost naked body and him getting pleasure out of it. NO THANK YOU.

[Stillness]

What makes you think your wives is anything special compared to anyone elses to them?

It's the only one that's mine. And the punch wouldn't be pleasurable, just a very clinical and professional smashing of his face.

But seriously, my wife did have an odd experience with a gynecologist where he said, "Now, don't smack me," and proceeded to twist her nipples between the tips of his fingers. There was no nurse there. It happened before we were married. She was very uncomfortable and never went back. I've never heard of this as part of an exam. Maybe someone can help me with this. And even if it is a legitimate technique why would he say that unless something he was feeling was less than professional? I've had doctors' fingers and cameras up my rectum and no one ever said, "Now don't slap me." It didn't need to be said. I know they're "trained professionals," but they're still human. And there's a reason they have nurses there now - because stuff has happened. I also know my feelings are probably a little unreasonable that's why I said I keep them inside, but besides that I've had women in my family sexually assaulted by men they trusted. I'm not really going to punch anybody (not yet, anyway), but I am unneasy with my wife being naked and vulnerable with another man, doctor or not.

Interestingly, my brain doesn't seem to make much of a distinction between a male or a female masseuse. I have some friends that massage. I would feel a lot more comfortable with them massaging my wife, but still I'd prefer I do it.