Hi everyone. I started a post on this topic in another forum and then realized that I started it in the wrong place (and, given the subject matter, I was really embarassed!). So this is kind of a repeat post but hopefully this is a more appropriate place to put it.
The question I asked is whether anyone has tried using a chastity devise to help control their husband’s masturbation? Yes - I know it's a wierd question. Please believe me that I don't want to dominate or control my husband, and this isn't a case where I have a porn-crazed husband and think that locking up his penis is going to solve it.
As I mentioned in my original post, our relationship is basically good, and he is a good husband and a great dad. I'm pretty sure that he isn't a porn addict and he doesn't neglect or ignore me. The only "problem" is that we are not as intimate anymore as either of us want to be.
There are a lot of reasons why we aren't as initimate as we used to be, and him masturbating is only one of several factors. We have two kids and life is really hectic so there are a lot of things that keep us from being initimate. I don't think he masturbates all the time and it certainly isn't the sole cause of us not being as intimate as we want. But I do know that he does do it, and even if it isn't causing us to be less intimate, it certainly isn't helping.
In my original post there were a couple of really good replies about talking with him about the issue, and about making time to be intimate with each other. These are all really great thoughts and my husband and I do know that we need to work on these things. In fact, we have been talking about what we can do to improve our marriage and we both agree that we need to do things like go on date nights and re-connect with one another each day.
His masturbation is not the sole problem, and I know that its not realistic to think that simpy using a chastity devise is going to fix everything all by itself. But I read an article that said sales of chastity devises has been increasing significantly in the past several years, so I started to wonder if maybe using them is more common than I think, and if so, can they be helpful to use?
The question I asked is whether anyone has tried using a chastity devise to help control their husband’s masturbation? Yes - I know it's a wierd question. Please believe me that I don't want to dominate or control my husband, and this isn't a case where I have a porn-crazed husband and think that locking up his penis is going to solve it.
As I mentioned in my original post, our relationship is basically good, and he is a good husband and a great dad. I'm pretty sure that he isn't a porn addict and he doesn't neglect or ignore me. The only "problem" is that we are not as intimate anymore as either of us want to be.
There are a lot of reasons why we aren't as initimate as we used to be, and him masturbating is only one of several factors. We have two kids and life is really hectic so there are a lot of things that keep us from being initimate. I don't think he masturbates all the time and it certainly isn't the sole cause of us not being as intimate as we want. But I do know that he does do it, and even if it isn't causing us to be less intimate, it certainly isn't helping.
In my original post there were a couple of really good replies about talking with him about the issue, and about making time to be intimate with each other. These are all really great thoughts and my husband and I do know that we need to work on these things. In fact, we have been talking about what we can do to improve our marriage and we both agree that we need to do things like go on date nights and re-connect with one another each day.
His masturbation is not the sole problem, and I know that its not realistic to think that simpy using a chastity devise is going to fix everything all by itself. But I read an article that said sales of chastity devises has been increasing significantly in the past several years, so I started to wonder if maybe using them is more common than I think, and if so, can they be helpful to use?
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