[Guest]

I am a single mom and lonely so I went on a cheating website to find someone to sleep with. Last week I met a married guy and we kept messaging each other back and forth. I felt consumed by it, giddy, happy. actually was smiling and never smile, am always depressed.

WE exchanged pictures and we want to meet. He also gave me his phone number and I did a search on his phone number. I now know EVERYTHING about him!! even saw pictures of his wife, relatives, have all his phone numbers, etc. I am nervous about meeting him since he is a little older. I am 42, he is 49.

The past few days I have not messaged him and he has not messaged me. I assume it's because he is with his family on the long weekend but I am getting nervous that now he does not want to meet.

I know this is bad but the way this changes me is unbelievable. I have been trying to lose weight for years. Last week I had no appetite, could not sleep because of being excited. today I ate junk food because I have not talked to him. I'll try to meet someone else then. I like excitement and sexual risk taking. I am so much happier at work too and feel so happy. but it is a rollercoaster ride!!

[jns]

All of those chemicals that are running around in your brain are causing this behavior. Are you sure that his wife is OK with his seeing another woman? Otherwise it will damage his marriage. What are your thoughts on that? How will this seem to your children? Why not find someone that won't be cheating?

[BabyGirl]

I'm sure you are Lonely, many of us that are Widowed, like me, Divorced, as Many have been, or just been Single a very long time from ending " Bad " Relationships.

But , WHY would you want to Risk

1) Destroying a Mans life with his Family ? Remember, Kids, Parents , Friends, work , are all part of a " Family ". And Yours also ?


2) Even if he is Trash and isn't in Tune or " man enough " to work on his Marriage or Leave . Do you disrespect yourself that much, that you can Lower yourself to the level of One Night Booty Call ?

3) There are Sites for Lonely People, probably some in your area , there are Sites for " Hook Up's "

4) If you want Sexual Excitement. Try a Site that is a Bit " Kinky " but leave the Married Men Alone. There are enough Abandoned Children , because " Daddy Got Caught with a " lady " that was just a sexual Tryout, not a Relationship.

I was a " Mistress " Emotionally, The Sex, never Came about . I sometimes wish it Did . But now I'm glad I did Not Destroy or even Help to Destroy a Marriage .

Girlfriend, Get a Grip.. Buy a Toy or go find a One Night Stank, be a Bar Fly, just make sure they aren't Married.

[KatyVee]

I was a " Mistress " Emotionally, The Sex, never Came about . I sometimes wish it Did . But now I'm glad I did Not Destroy or even Help to Destroy a Marriage .

I'm dealing with that now. I'm lonely but I don't have much of a sex drive, I'm on anti anxiety medication which causes that. I have insisted that he be single if he ever wants to have sex with me and I will stick to that. Yet *I* feel skeevy. I ask him to leave me alone, he doesn't and if I go on a date *I* feel like *I* am cheating on HIM. WTF.

I'm not really interested in the men I can get right now. I'm too old (45) and I've gained a ton of weight due to busting my knee at 43. I'm starting to exercise to see if I can get better. The thing is when you have very little sex drive - being able to talk to someone is even more important as is a STRONG attraction. Of course I have that with HIM. ARGH!

Just thought I would throw in my 2 cents. I would not sleep with a married man - my father was a serial cheater. If I had a sex drive I would just go hang out at a bar. Someone will bite. The problem is would you want that someone.

[KatyVee]

I wanted to add that no children would be hurt by my pseudo relationship, as neither of us has any.

He seems to have started the process to become single. I can't imagine EVER being the cause of that. I am not that hot. I'm 45, he's 51.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

From which website did u get him please share the website to me i also want to get someone

No links please.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

sparklecupcake.

I want you to know that you are beautiful.. It's about finding the "right" person.

See when you actually felt "something" you sparkled... Then when you felt depressed again due to the non communication you ate junk food.

It's fantastic to get sexually enticed geez it's more than fantastic Go and enjoy.

But, please, stay away from married men, unless you can ensure you have NO emotions you will get hurt and that's the last thing I think you can cope with at the moment..

What this tells me, from all your doom and gloom you are ready for the world. Go get it, but be careful there are alot of snakes out there if you know what I mean Go in it for the reasons you want to for you, SEX, Feeling good about yourself and finding some happiness even for a day..

And, off course make sure he wears a condom and with the risk of not sounding like your Mother Forget the married ones.

[Darling]

Please stay away from married men, you don't need the hurt that will come from it. I agree with everyone else go out there get back into the social scene, feel sexy and find yourself a one night stand, a boy toy dress up in something that gets you excited, go out and have a good time. Make sure the.men you seek are nor married. You don't want to be the reason for another woman's depression.

[Ashlee T.]

Low self esteem doesn't give you the right to knowingly ruin someone elses life. I realize that misery loves company...but it is your job, as an adult, as a mother, as a woman, to find yourself.....to find your own happiness without having to steal someone elses in order to do it.

Unless that wife has agreed to an open relationship (which I highly doubt), she is married to a jerk and probably has no idea. She's probably beating her head against a wall daily trying to figure out what is wrong with her marriage. She probably feels unattractive, unloved, undesireable, etc. She probably wishes he would show her some romance and affection. And what is he doing instead of giving the woman he commited his life to a fair shot? Seeking women online to have affairs with. Why would you want that for yourself?

Karma will get you. It would be bad enough if you fell into this situation by chance......but you went looking for it. Just know that karma will get you. And it might feel exciting right now....but after he gets what's he's after you will feel dirty, used, guilty, etc. You're a mother. You owe more to yourself and to your children than to put yourself in that situation. Find your own happiness. True happiness will never be found at the expense of another.

[DreamP346]

Personally, I am not as opposed to cheating as most people, but since it is frowned upon by society, there will be consequences that you should be prepared to face. He has not messeged you in the last few days and you are already going crazy. With a married man who is hiding his relationship, that will always be the case. You will always have periods you are not allowed to contact him, or your calls/visits will be interupted, etc. Can you live in a relationship like that?

Try a swingers club or dating site. You will be able to meet consenting married/coupled people. And places like that will be filled with what many many consider "risky" but what I would label risque sexual behavior.