"I don't have a lot of experience wearing condoms since Hannah [i.e. Shoshannah] was already on the pill when we began dating. I've only used them a handful of times when her pill cycle got messed up due to her being sick, and frankly I hated them. They interrupted things, they smelled very medicinal, and it was awkward having to stop everything and put them on just when I (and she) wanted to forge ahead. Then there was the lack of sensation and the lack of a sense of connection and intimacy, and the worrying about whether the condom was staying on--I was always reaching town to check, which was a nuisance. Yes, it made sex less messy, but the mess has never really bothered either of us after we got used to it the first several times I came inside her. About the only thing good I can say of condoms, at least in our relationship, is that they made me appreciate how nice things are without them. :-)
"So what is it like? Well, during intercourse without condoms, I'm always aware of Hannah's vagina giving my penis one long, warm (almost hot), slippery, tight hug that just gets more and more exciting as sex goes on. The intimacy of being connected to her skin-to-skin is sometimes almost literally overwhelming, especially when we haven't made love for a while. It did take me some time to learn to control myself long enough for her to be satisfied, and sometimes I still have to work at it, but control will come in time. During my orgasm I'm always very aware of ejaculating inside her. It's exciting and hot; it's a little scary, since even though she's on the pill there's always that chance; it's the most emotionally (as well as physically) intimate thing that I've ever experienced; and it's very, very sexy (especially if I climax when Hannah's building up to her own orgasm or else is all giggly and breathless coming down from one). I wouldn't trade it for anything!"
Shoshannah speaking: Condomless sex physically feels a lot better to me as well--condoms chafe me. Plus, like some of the other women above, I can often (but not always) feel my boyfriend's penis pulsing as he ejaculates, which i find extremely sexy and satisfying emotionally (doesn't do much for me physically though). And I agree with him about 1000% about how intimate and romantic it is. And the mess never bothered me after about the second time, once I learned what to expect and how to handle it. I'm usually a little drippy the following morning for a while (or longer if we made love in the morning), but liners handle it, and it reminds me of us being together. We often make love on a towel, and we keep wash cloths on the nightstand.
HTH.
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