[DreamP346]

She did not mention me or our marriage until later.

This just says where her priorities are and where you stand. Let me tell you, I am a total dog person. Love my dogs like they were my kids. Would take out a second mortgage to pay for their medical bills. I am that crazy dog person. But if my husband told me our marriage was over, the dogs would be the last thing on my mind. I would first think about my kids, and about how the love of my life didn't want me any more. I would give up my house and even my dogs to be with my husband.

I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think your wife really loves you. She is working on the relationship, not because she wants to be with YOU, but so she can maintain the life style that she loves.

[JonDoe]

This just says where her priorities are and where you stand.

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I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think your wife really loves you. She is working on the relationship, not because she wants to be with YOU, but so she can maintain the life style that she loves.

Yeah, I'm struggling with the idea of this a bit too. She tells me almost everyday before she leaves for work and before hanging up when we talk on the phone, which is usually once or twice a day. But I think this can simply become routine for some people.

Strangely on Sunday night when we had sex she didn't want to kiss me, she was agitated and just wanted me to give her oral. It was an agitated response, not an enthusiastic "Oh my God I'm so horny, lick me now!" response. Maybe I'm ready to much into, but I know for sure if the tables were turned and I told her "Just give me a BJ", that would be the last thing I would get.

Oh well, we are gradually spending more quality time together and having more sex, both of which are a big plus and a step in the right direction. The arguing has started to subside in the past few days. Our future is still tentative.

[T&M_2]

Hi Jon we see we have missed a lot, I disagree that your wife is just trying to maintain her life style, but give it some time, I truely hope she is in i for the long hual, you guys have been married for a long time. It sounds like you guys are getting more alone time, and that is truely a good thing, take small steps, and see how it goes. How is the intimacy while you not having sex? that is a good indication of where your relationship is.

Oh we havent given you an update yet, how rude of us LOL.

Well to tell you the truth we feel like we are teenagers again, frikken well trying to have sex were ever and when ever we can. We into day 34 now and it seems that this was such a good idea we will just keep going with it. Our intimacy has gone from strength to strength. we have even start erotic chating during the day, it allows us to spell out clarely what we would like in our fantasies.

[jns]

T&M, glad to see your rebuilding effort is continuing to have good results.

[T&M_2]

We are truely grateful to Jondoe for starting us on this journey, and I would suggest it to everyone that has been in a relationship for a long time, it is amasing just how much we take for granted. This has been such an eye opener for both of us. Once again a very big thank you

[JonDoe]

T&M, genuinely glad to hear the "30 Days" idea worked well for you and your wife! Hopefully your related posts are also inspiring other readers too.

We had sex once in the first twelve days after our "30 Days", but we went away for a 3-day weekend and had a great time. Quite, stress-free, fun and good sex every day too. Hopefully we continue the increased intimacy after we are back to the daily grind.

[Stillness]

I would suggest it to everyone that has been in a relationship for a long time

I tried to discreetly send you a PM but mistakenly put this message on your public wall. So I'll just recopy here as I don't intend on checking your wall and you can't receive PM's:

You posts have inspired me to try again with my wife to have sex everyday. We tried it once before, but without a definite endpoint. It lasted all of three days. One the problems I foresee is my wife's cycle. For 4-6 days sex is pretty much out of the question. If I press it she will. She will sometimes begrudgingly do other things with me, but most of the time I just try to stay away from her because it's so unpleasant for her.

If you don't mind me asking, does your wife still get her cycle? Has this been a barrier to sex in the past? If so, how did you overcome it for your 30 days?