[MDM]

Hi Members,

1- I would like to know why my wife do not initiate sex?
2- How do I tell if she wants sex or not?
3- Do wives sometimes imagine having sex with another man, while she have sex with husband?

Please join to help.

Thanks all

[Palerider]

I'm probably not a good example to answer questions 1 and 2 since I have a pretty high sex drive (as does my husband). I'm just a hot-blooded redhead like that!

But for question 3, we just recently started engaging in a new fantasy (at his request) in which I would have sex with other men. Honestly, I've never imagined sex with other men during sex with my husband...until recently. He was talking dirty to me (along the lines of his fantasy), telling an erotic story of me getting banged by another man. It was so hott...I had one of the most intense orgasms I've had in awhile.

[Rhonda14]

We both initiate sex it could be at night or if one of us wakes up in the mood or it could be in the morning when we wake up or when I get back home from the gym. For us it is just depends on when the mood strikes. It could be in the middle of the day and we happen to be at home alone.

In over 21 years I have never turned my husband down. That is just me.

No, I have never imagined having sex with someone else while having sex with my husband.

[MDM]

Thank you Palerider , and I believe I am the same type your husband is. I am happy that my wife enjoys my fantasy this makes me very hot. The fantasy I have, my wife's turn on must be part of the Equation. If not then I do not feel the fantasy.

Thanks again,
MDM

[MDM]

Rhonda14 Thank you for sharing discussion.

[mrmusic]

idk...i find it difficult to inititate. idk if i wan or dont wan. I seems to wan but i seems to don wan. I am very confused. just becos i am in a dilemma, i didnt have one for a month.

[Guest]

i think Rhonda is right

[Stillness]

In over 21 years I have never turned my husband down. That is just me.

You're a credit to womankind. Your husband is blessed.

[__s4mmy]

Personally I think if you're in a committed relationship you should both be initiating sex. It's only fair.

Maybe talk to her about the fact that she isn't initiating sex and its hard for you to tell if she wants it. You can always start off slow when initiating too kissing, cuddling caressing.. If she doesn't want it she will say no.

Has she never once initiated? Maybe there was a point where she felt like she initiated all the time and now she feels like its your turn. I can't deny most women I know are secretly needy! She may not initiate because she wants to feel wanted!

I also have never turned down sex. Even when I've had a bad cold hangover etc.

Even when I'm not having sex with my husband I don't think about sex with other men. I married my husband because I want him and love him only. As tmi/creepy as this maybe even when I masturbate I think of him or look at a picture of him.. That's what turns me on period. I can't say that's true for all women but in my group of friends all feel the same about their SO.

[Rhonda14]

Personally I think if you're in a committed relationship you should both be initiating sex. It's only fair.

Maybe talk to her about the fact that she isn't initiating sex and its hard for you to tell if she wants it. You can always start off slow when initiating too kissing, cuddling caressing.. If she doesn't want it she will say no.

Has she never once initiated? Maybe there was a point where she felt like she initiated all the time and now she feels like its your turn. I can't deny most women I know are secretly needy! She may not initiate because she wants to feel wanted!

I also have never turned down sex. Even when I've had a bad cold hangover etc.

Even when I'm not having sex with my husband I don't think about sex with other men. I married my husband because I want him and love him only. As tmi/creepy as this maybe even when I masturbate I think of him or look at a picture of him.. That's what turns me on period. I can't say that's true for all women but in my group of friends all feel the same about their SO.

I agree with all of this.