[tartar sauceee]

Hello, Im new to this site, but I'm in desperate need for help.

I've been married to my husband since october, and I did lose my virginity to him previously before we married, I know Ben wasnt a virgin when he took my virginity, but I just dont know, Im so confused.
I love him too pieces, he is just my everything, we get on so well, but when it comes to the bedroom I'm really not confident at all. Ben is very sweet and takes his time with me, I always try new things, and try my hardest, but I know Im not perfect, and I suppose this can be frustrating for a man.

Okay, so the other day, we were love making, and I had climaxed, but Ben hadnt yet, he reached his, and tensed up, kissed me, then with his eyes closed, started moaning quietly 'Josie...' Im not called Josie! Im Lotte! I was so appalled!!!He does usually call out my name, and I find that so adorable, thats one of my favourite parts, so for him to say somehting else was awful! I just started crying, he said it three or four times, before he climaxed, then realised I was crying and gave me a kiss and held me, and asked what was wrong, he was so worried about me. I was so stunned, I didnt say anything, I was angry, upset, confused, I didnt want to embarass him, he was very loving, but Im almost a hundred per cent sure he didnt realise he said that name. But it hurt so bad, he called another woman's name! Not mine.

I dont want to make love if he's going to say someone elses name, but then I'll be letting him down....but I dont know...Im pretty new to all this...is this normal? Do guys do this? Has anyone else had this problem before...?

Please help!

Wow. How can he do that to you?

My current fiance, and two of my exes were virgins when they met me. I could never have done that to them. Giving your viriginity to someone is very special, and that guy must absolutely treat you special for that...

appalling... indeed.

[vinnyt]

Hello, Im new to this site, but I'm in desperate need for help.

I've been married to my husband since october, and I did lose my virginity to him previously before we married, I know Ben wasnt a virgin when he took my virginity, but I just dont know, Im so confused.
I love him too pieces, he is just my everything, we get on so well, but when it comes to the bedroom I'm really not confident at all. Ben is very sweet and takes his time with me, I always try new things, and try my hardest, but I know Im not perfect, and I suppose this can be frustrating for a man.

Okay, so the other day, we were love making, and I had climaxed, but Ben hadnt yet, he reached his, and tensed up, kissed me, then with his eyes closed, started moaning quietly 'Josie...' Im not called Josie! Im Lotte! I was so appalled!!!He does usually call out my name, and I find that so adorable, thats one of my favourite parts, so for him to say somehting else was awful! I just started crying, he said it three or four times, before he climaxed, then realised I was crying and gave me a kiss and held me, and asked what was wrong, he was so worried about me. I was so stunned, I didnt say anything, I was angry, upset, confused, I didnt want to embarass him, he was very loving, but Im almost a hundred per cent sure he didnt realise he said that name. But it hurt so bad, he called another woman's name! Not mine.

I dont want to make love if he's going to say someone elses name, but then I'll be letting him down....but I dont know...Im pretty new to all this...is this normal? Do guys do this? Has anyone else had this problem before...?

Please help!

As a male representative I can tell you a man will not use wrong name during sex unless he is either having an affair or fantasizing about having one wit that person. Just think about it this way, what would it take for you to call your husband a wrong name?

[jns]

This may be a dumb question, but are you sure that this is what he was saying? I personally don't think this is normal. You ask is it normal for guys, but we're not that different. Is it normal for you or for women? I've called my girlfriend by an ex with a very similar name before (not while we were having sex). I even had two weird incidents after sex where I've called two different girlfriends "Ma," which I only call my mother. So I don't think that slipping and calling someone out of their name so crazy. But to do it over and over again and not realize doesn't really make sense.

I would ask him what he was saying. You say it was quiet moaning, so I'm hoping you misheard him. Maybe he was saying "Jesus" or some incoherent sounds of pleasure that you misunderstood.

As a male representative I can tell you a man will not use wrong name during sex unless he is either having an affair or fantasizing about having one wit that person. Just think about it this way, what would it take for you to call your husband a wrong name?

My experience is more in line with Stillness than with vinny. Once in a while a name comes out that surprises the heck out of me, like, where did that come from. It is like free association in psychoanalysis.