[jen1447]

IAATG, assuming for the moment you're not gay or bisexual, I'm curious what the appeal is for you to have another man working on your girlfriend. I know this is a fairly common fantasy, just wondering if you care to elaborate.

Also, all the above comments notwithstanding, don't give up on your desires so easily! It could be that what made her hot about it was that it was making you hot.

Life is short. Live it without regrets.

[ItsAllAboutTheGirl]

That's a really good question that I have been trying to answer since this fantasy started. Part of it is coming from how much I truly enjoying watching her while she is being pleasured. Just hearing the sounds she makes and seeing her body movements and facial expressions really turns me on.

I'm not sure if this gives you any insight but for me I would want to find a guy that is fairly well hung too. I don't feel like I'm gay or bi-sexual as I have no desire to have any guy on guy contact but it would really get me off to watch her taking on a hung guy. For whatever reason I feel most woman given the choice and all other things being equal would prefer a guy that is well endowed. This kind of leads me to my next point.

I wonder if some of this desire is a carry over from a nasty porn habit I developed while in my previous marriage (my sex life then was nonexistent). I battle every day to kick my addiction and keep porn out of my life and am having fairly good success. It definitely helps to have a woman in my life that truly enjoys me and that I truly enjoy her (both emotionally and physically). I don't know if that's the root cause but can see where that would lead to the desires.

[ItsAllAboutTheGirl]

Also, all the above comments notwithstanding, don't give up on your desires so easily! It could be that what made her hot about it was that it was making you hot.

Life is short. Live it without regrets.

I wanted to respond to this too. I was thinking of talking to her about bringing another toy into the bedroom with us as a kind of way to build up to my MFM threesome desire. I started using a **** ring a little while ago and sprung it on her by surprise. She really enjoys our new toy and given her enjoyment of this and how much she enjoys my hands while she's giving me oral I was thinking of talking to her about bringing a vibrator or dildo into the mix. I thought it best that I should talk to her first about a toy of this nature though. I'm definitely open to thoughts, comments on this.

[a_dub]

That's a really good question that I have been trying to answer since this fantasy started. Part of it is coming from how much I truly enjoying watching her while she is being pleasured. Just hearing the sounds she makes and seeing her body movements and facial expressions really turns me on.

I'm not sure if this gives you any insight but for me I would want to find a guy that is fairly well hung too. I don't feel like I'm gay or bi-sexual as I have no desire to have any guy on guy contact but it would really get me off to watch her taking on a hung guy. For whatever reason I feel most woman given the choice and all other things being equal would prefer a guy that is well endowed. This kind of leads me to my next point.

I wonder if some of this desire is a carry over from a nasty porn habit I developed while in my previous marriage (my sex life then was nonexistent). I battle every day to kick my addiction and keep porn out of my life and am having fairly good success. It definitely helps to have a woman in my life that truly enjoys me and that I truly enjoy her (both emotionally and physically). I don't know if that's the root cause but can see where that would lead to the desires.

This reminds me a lot of myself. I have a very high sex drive and masturbate 1-2 times per day. Almost all of my fantasies involve MFM threesomes where I am also the guy with a smaller penis. I am very heterosexual but this is a recurring theme in all my fantasies. I have also been addicted to porn for the past 5 years although I can quit as soon as I find an actual woman to have sex with.

Now that i mention it, I think I'm obsessed with MFM because subconsciously I realize that at my age (30) its **** near impossible to find single women who are worth sleeping with. The best bet is to just join an existing couple whos looking to swing or looking for a threesome.

[ItsAllAboutTheGirl]

This reminds me a lot of myself. I have a very high sex drive and masturbate 1-2 times per day. Almost all of my fantasies involve MFM threesomes where I am also the guy with a smaller penis. I am very heterosexual but this is a recurring theme in all my fantasies. I have also been addicted to porn for the past 5 years although I can quit as soon as I find an actual woman to have sex with.

In my experience when I put porn down my desires to pursue a real woman increased dramatically. This in turn lead me to the wonderful woman I am with now. You should try putting porn down for a solid month at least and see if your desires for a relationship with a woman increase as mine did.

Now that i mention it, I think I'm obsessed with MFM because subconsciously I realize that at my age (30) its ******** near impossible to find single women who are worth sleeping with. The best bet is to just join an existing couple whos looking to swing or looking for a threesome.

I just turned 48 and don't feel this way at all. I absolutely adore the woman I am with (she's 51 but out of my league gorgeous) and would not even consider cheating on her (ironic I know as I want to share her with another man, go figure) but I do see so many beautiful women out there looking for someone to share their lives with. I'm not sure how many of them are looking for someone to just sleep with but sex is a large part of a healthy relationship in my opinion.

Seriously consider putting down the porn for a minimum of a month and see if your outlook towards women changes.

[jen1447]

For whatever reason I feel most woman given the choice and all other things being equal would prefer a guy that is well endowed.

This whole penis inadequacy theme seems really popular here lol. Sexual games are all well and good, but if your fantasy is based on some sort of fundamental lack of self esteem that promotes more of the same, I can't see that as being too healthy.

[ItsAllAboutTheGirl]

This whole penis inadequacy theme seems really popular here lol. Sexual games are all well and good, but if your fantasy is based on some sort of fundamental lack of self esteem that promotes more of the same, I can't see that as being too healthy.

Penis inadequecy does seem to be a common concern for men. It also seems much less of a concern for women. I'm sure there is some self esteem issues creeping in but I also feel there is more to it than that. I'm actually very confident in my physical self and in my ability to keep her happy sexually.

Honestly I can't put a finger on exactly what drives this desire. I never put a lot of thought into the why until you asked. I do feel it's a combination of things that led me down this path and can't really pinpoint any one thing.

[ItsAllAboutTheGirl]

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If we do continue talks and she does feel this is something she would enjoy it will really be a joint decision between us with her leading the way.

[a_dub]

but I do see so many beautiful women out there looking for someone to share their lives with.

Well where I live there aren't any beautiful women who aren't already taken. Maybe I should move to whereeer you live, lol.

Seriously consider putting down the porn for a minimum of a month and see if your outlook towards women changes.

I have no intention of quitting porn to be honest. A few of my friends have quit and are trying to get me to quit too but I have no reason to.

The nature of human sexuality inherently places all the power with women. They are pursued, and have the power to reject men. I wish more men were addicted to porn because that would take away some of the advantage women have over men and make more women available.

As an example, you were looking for a threesome, I expressed interest, and it still didnt work out. It cant get easier than that which means finding a woman even just for sex is quite nearly impossible.

Porn is the only window I have into the world of sex and I'm not about to shut it. At least not yet.

[Stillness]

If you think another human being has power over you then that's on you. But it's mental.

And there is no way that watching other people have sex and masturbating gives you any advantage over another person in my experience. It made me weaker.

Just the act of looking for power over another person puts you in a bad position for finding a good woman. Why not just work on being a good man and appreciating the strength of a good woman? Two powerful people together make each other stronger and no one is worried about who has an advantage. That's how a real team works.