[Natalie1962]

The old cliche "bigger is better" is certainly false. You just have to learn to use what you have. Because of my open marriage status I can say without fear that I've had more than a penis or two inside me. Some men with big male members think that all they have to do is show me their penis and stuff it inside me and that will give me an orgasm. Untrue. I also like to get it "good and hard" now and then but you certainly don't need a huge pen is to do that. If a man knows what he's doing then I will normally be able to have an orgasm with his penis inside me. If he's huge and just sticks it inside me and that's it then I leave disappointed.

My husband has been having health issues lately that makes maintaining an erection hard for him. We both like to cuddle and he enjoys giving me oral but I do miss being penetrated by him (Viagra doesn't work) We solved this buying a strap on fake penis. He puts it over his own and goes at it. Sure it's not the same as a real one but he enjoys being able to penetrate me and I can easily forget that it's a fake penis when he brings me to an orgasm.

[Motorguy]

Well Natalie it's not the size that matters but the motion of the ocean that does matter. I am glad you was able to work with your husband with his not able to achieve a erection using a strap on to enjoy that feeling from husband. The fake one nothing is like the real thing but it helps him have that closeness with you still and you still have orgasm with him then that's good. Plus oral sex i hope he still does on you as well for that orgasm as well. Does husband watch you with the other guys or is it your night out time with other guys for sex in your open marriage then. Well it seem you still love your husband and making the best out of it with what you doing sexually in your marriage that's wonderful in my eyes.

[Natalie1962]

Motorguy: you're right. The real thing is always better but I have no complaints about him. He still is a very intimate man, likes to cuddle and will do everything with me. He can still have intercourse with his own penis. It's just that he sometimes can't keep the erection for long periods of time and is very worried about not being able to please him. No matter what I say he still has that fear which is why I think the solution with the fake penis over his real one during those times he can't keep hard is a good way to relax him and give him confidence. Though he isn't threatened by the sex he allows me to have outside of our marriage, I do have a preference for younger men in their 20s and 30s (believe it or not this old 50ish something girl has no problems finding these young men) and my husband probably feels very inadequate knowing that I'm being filled by men so young and strong. I know he understands that though I'm intimate with these young men they don't hold any attraction for me except for sex. I wouldn't dream of marrying a man so young. For sex they are great but in marriage I want a man and not a boy.

[Motorguy]

Motorguy: you're right. The real thing is always better but I have no complaints about him. He still is a very intimate man, likes to cuddle and will do everything with me. He can still have intercourse with his own penis. It's just that he sometimes can't keep the erection for long periods of time and is very worried about not being able to please him. No matter what I say he still has that fear which is why I think the solution with the fake penis over his real one during those times he can't keep hard is a good way to relax him and give him confidence. Though he isn't threatened by the sex he allows me to have outside of our marriage, I do have a preference for younger men in their 20s and 30s (believe it or not this old 50ish something girl has no problems finding these young men) and my husband probably feels very inadequate knowing that I'm being filled by men so young and strong. I know he understands that though I'm intimate with these young men they don't hold any attraction for me except for sex. I wouldn't dream of marrying a man so young. For sex they are great but in marriage I want a man and not a boy.

Well you like my wife she is 50 like me and she gets many looks and droolers from younger men. But she doesn't want sex from a boy but a man same idea as you. She more into enjoying other women while I watch it's something I enjoy watching her enjoy her bi side while I watch or not.You sound like you have a wonderful marriage it good you working with your husband on her erection problem that's good. I been bless no problem with that at all knock on wood no pun intended lol.

[barberchk]

Stigggger...I think that there are other options to your problem other than getting a penis pump enlarger, strap on, finding another lover for your wife or her leaving you. Those suggestions are not something that you are up to obviously. But I do have other avenues for you. I dont know if your wife is open to "enhancers". FYI there are such things that exsists like girth sleeves for your penis and vaginal tightening lotions. The girth sleeves go on your penis. The head is exposed for you to still have sensation while she feels a much thicker penis. The vaginal tightening cream tightens her up so both of you have sensation. I dont know if this helps. My opinion is that size doesnt matter. Its how you use it. I can have a big huge fat penis and hurt me or I can have a small one and be able to do everthing without pain.

[Lady Syrinx]

You may have hit on part of the problem. Having children does change women both physically and psychologically. You said that you have two children. Could it be that she has some psychological block that might be affecting her ability to be satisfied. There's what psychologists refer as the Madonna/***** Complex. This refers o the idea that often a woman will often have trouble reconciling the seemingly diametrically opposed roles of mother to he children and lover to her husband. Just a thought.

[Motorguy]

You may have hit on part of the problem. Having children does change women both physically and psychologically. You said that you have two children. Could it be that she has some psychological block that might be affecting her ability to be satisfied. There's what psychologists refer as the Madonna/********** Complex. This refers o the idea that often a woman will often have trouble reconciling the seemingly diametrically opposed roles of mother to he children and lover to her husband. Just a thought.

I think what happen most women bodies are different after child birth not like it was before child birth. Most women have grain a few pounds so that can turn the husband off. I say this very shallow on there part of course a women bodies going to change during child birth duh it's just excuse for some men to put the blame on the wife for not turning them on because they have a few extra pounds on them self. My wife look beautiful before before she had kids and after and still do 27 years later. It's the whole package, I married and love not just what she looks like but who she is inside and out.

[jilljames8184]

Even though bigger is better, especially if the guy knows what he is doing; the woman can take on the task of tightening herself. It is not quick and sometimes not easy, but it will work. I was very loose before I met my husband from extensive sex with very large guys. It took several months of exercise and faking before I could feel my husband inside me. But remember it is a muscle that can tighten!

[Motorguy]

Even though bigger is better, especially if the guy knows what he is doing; the woman can take on the task of tightening herself. It is not quick and sometimes not easy, but it will work. I was very loose before I met my husband from extensive sex with very large guys. It took several months of exercise and faking before I could feel my husband inside me. But remember it is a muscle that can tighten!

Well that's the problem with some guys who are big they think they just show the women his member.They think the women knees are going to be weak and fall over. But you have to know how to use it like I said the motion of the ocean. You women could just go out get a huge toy and achieve just as well with it then guy bad in bed. But your right my wife at work does these exercise in her office chair to keep her vagina in real good shape. Not bad after 4 daughters it's does not feel like she had 4 kids lol.

[nasta75]

I think life is made of cycles ...
If you do not find your happiness together, it may be the end of your cycle.
The libido of your wife wakes up now..she can be and must be frustrated. this is normal.
You are also frustrated at your side because you can not to satisfy her.
In China, you would probably in normality! Do not be afraid of change, it can also guide you to happiness.