[ellaaagrace1998]

Hey... sorry this is quite awkward and I'm kind of cringing while I'm writing this BUT its been really bothering me.
So I'm generally quite confident, I'm average weight, average height... maybe one of the few teenagers actually proud and happy with their body? no offence guys.... But anyway "down there" I'm not, well at least I don't think i am, but I guess that's why I'm here

Massive labia? i mean i think that's what it is called.. sorry for not doing my homework...
"lips"? - anyway.. they're not something that actually gets in the way and stops me from doing any activities or anything.. its more about confidence, I've read on loads of places that men should accept you however they are or something but the fact is that i think it looks ugly... so why wouldn't someone else?

As a teenager i cannot wait to enter to magic doorway of sex and all it's glory, but i'm too self conscious at the moment. So will someone be completely, down right , no bull **** truthful to me..... will a teenage boy (immature i know) think its weird... because i'm more scared or humiliation than anything...

sorry to bother you with yet another "i'm so insecure tell me i'm perfect" story but honestly, at this rate i think ill still be a virgin at 40

sorry if this was boring but any replies, advice TRUTHFUL ADVICE, will be so greatly appreciated (nearly 16 by the way)

[atskitty2]

Well, what do you mean by massive? No pix, pls.
If it isn't bothersome in clothing and not preventing any normal activity, my hunch is that its totally normal.
Generally the outer labia are a little fatter than the inner labia, but the reverse is possible and also normal. If you have concerns, see a gynecologist. They can also assure you that it's within the realm of normal. A professional medical practitioner won't lie or bs you in any way.

There's a beautiful sculpture demonstrating how different we all are made. It's called the great wall of vagina. Look it up online.

Continue to be confident and add your genitalia to the ways you believe you're a beautiful young lady...oh, and don't show all your beauty just yet!

[DreamP346]

Ellaaa, you are not the first girl to "think" you have an issue with this. I put think in quotations because that is really what it is, a perception. Woman come in all sizes, shapes and colors and boys (even teen boys) like women of different sizes, shapes and color. If a guys is really into a specific type of vulva, then that's his prerogative. But that doesn't mean you are not the right size in any way. It's his preference. Labia size are like breasts, fingers, hair, skin color. So many different types. Unless they are so big that they drag on the flour while you walk, you are not too large down there.

Another thing to remember is that the labia actually increases in size during arousal. It gets engorged with blood and makes for great sex.

I am guessing you are getting your idea about "normal" labia size from porn. This is an area that has recently emerged with girls and sometimes boys too, thinking that a normal labia are supposed to be tiny based on what they have seen in porn. Remember, porn is not real. Besides the fact that those women are selected based on their body, there is also a lot of photoshopping. It's like a size 4 woman thinking she is fat after looking at the Victoria Secret models.

Another thing, most teenage boys will just be soooooo excited to be having sex, your labia size will be the last thing on this mind. Research has actually shown that our perception of beauty changes when aroused. During that time when you decide to engage in sexual activities with a boy, he will be so aroused that to him, you will be the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on and just seeing you naked will only make him more aroused.

[Stillness]

Men don't care.

You may find a small minority that have a preference of small or large - and believe me there are some men that like large labia, but it just doesn't matter much.

[jen1447]

I agree with all the above. A good way to think of your labia specifically and your vagina in general is like it's abstract art. The 'virtue' in it is largely up to the perception of the viewer, and it's not down to more conventional things like smooth lines or conventionally pleasing angles or things like that. It's just way deeper than anything so superficial. The true beauty in your genitalia lies in what it really is and what it represents more than what it looks like on the outside. Like sp346 said, to anyone who really loves you in that way, it'll basically be the most beautiful thing on earth, and mainly because it's yours.

[rcoreyus]

Many men see a wide range of women's body types as beautiful and recognize that beauty is not measured by how close you are to some particular "ideal". There are some boys who's only experience of women is thorough porn who have very specific expectations on body type. If you have the misfortune to run into someone like that, the sooner you find out, the better so you don't waste any more time with them.

The same of course applies to women, some of whom have a very specific idea of masculinity, and who focus on superficial details rather than a man's real worth. While fine for fantasy, the "ideal" male images in Twilight are not more real than the female ones in porn.

There is a huge evil industry out there that profits from making beautiful women believe that there is something wrong with their bodies. Don't fall for it.

[Stillness]

There are some boys who's only experience of women is thorough porn who have very specific expectations on body type.

I don't want to put you on the spot, rcoreyus, but have you ever in all your years heard or read of a man who had a particular preference as far as labia or do you have one yourself?

We’ve had quite a few exchanges about male and female preferences for body types and genitalia on these boards. I’ve seen a few men refer to preferences in tightness one way or the other. But I’ve never seen or heard of any preference in terms of the vulva. Personally, I don’t remember how any of the women I’ve ever been with looked or felt on the outside, except my wife. I really like her privates, but I couldn’t care less what size they are.

I do know that some cultures have a preference for large labia and the women take pride in them – even lengthening them. So I imagine that there are people who care. I just haven’t ever heard from one – and pretty much every part of a woman’s body has come up in conversation over the years, including the labia. Just nothing about any preference or concern over the size.

[rcoreyus]

There was a discussion of this on another board that I briefly followed. I don't remember if it was only women who were concerned, but I think some (in my opinion immature) men may have as well.

Not the sort of think I discuss with real people outside of the internet.

I don't want to put you on the spot, rcoreyus, but have you ever in all your years heard or read of a man who had a particular preference as far as labia or do you have one yourself?
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[DreamP346]

Stillness, my friends who work in the field (sex educators and therapists, including my professor) have told me about this. It seems to be an issue with younger men and women and it is a product of the influence of porn industry. They develop unrealistic expectations of body size and get disappointed in what the real thing looks like/works. Often it's among people with limited sexual experience, often their first sexual partner. This has also lead to an increase in labial plastic surgery.

[atskitty2]

*Ellaaagrace: do you watch porn?