[rcoreyus]

I'm just arguing for what you are willing to do to please your partner. If they like some particular thing (for whatever reason), I think its worth making a big effort to do that, IF they are willing to make a similar effort to do things you like.

[Justice]

I'm just arguing for what you are willing to do to please your partner. If they like some particular thing (for whatever reason), I think its worth making a big effort to do that, IF they are willing to make a similar effort to do things you like.

I understand. And agree on the reciprocity. But I keep thinking about a post about giving oral and deep throat - i am kind of sensitive on the subject since I have a ridiculously small mouth (my dentist has trouble getting at my back teeth and has to use a kids tray when tacking impressions - and I have to taken tranquilizer to get impressions) and a phobia about getting sick...... I hope that this would not be a deal breaker. And that the guy could see the difference between selfish and just not wanting to or REALLY not liking something or being "able" to accomodate.

One of my fantasies, though, is having a guy I am with cum all over my breasts - and hope that it would also satisfy him.

[Stillness]

Guys (rcoreyus and stillness) I have to wonder though whether this is really just commitment or what you are willing to do to please your partner.

I was talking about the level of commitment in the relationship, like dude you just met v. boyfriend v. spouse.

If two people have sworn lifelong monogamy to each other, it's not a situation where you want the other person to ever feel stuck. I don't really have anything exactly like muffin70 in my relationship, because my wife and I like the same stuff and we're generally accommodating for the small differences. If she did want to do something really weird, I'd probably be talked into it, because how else would she be able to express that desire if not with me?

[muffin70]

thanks for your replies - first of all I do not want to force my wife to do something she doesn't want to do and I would not expect her in a million years to swallow my load or take it in the face. I just thought if I am wearing a chocolate flavoured condom (as I do 90% of the time during blow jobs) then there would be no harm if I came while she was sucking me because the condom would catch the cum and none would get in her mouth / face
But as I said if she doesn't like it then I won't force it on her.
I've told my wife I would do anything sexually for her, but the things that turn her on the most are the most mundaine... she loves it if I dig the garden over and pull out weeds, or if I fix something that's broken or not working.... that makes her feel happy and puts her in the mood later...
I've told her I will put a hand towel or a couple of clean handkerchiefs by my side of the bed, so if anything does happen she can clean herself up afterwards quickly!

[Stillness]

I just thought if I am wearing a chocolate flavoured condom (as I do 90% of the time during blow jobs) then there would be no harm if I came while she was sucking me because the condom would catch the cum and none would get in her mouth / face

I didn't catch this from your initial post. I'm thinking that a lot of us didn't. It sounds purely mental.

Can I ask you if you have seen the chores lead directly into sex? The claim is out there that it does. It always sounds dubious to me, but I have seen my wife become more affectionate since I started doing more around the house. I don't get it, since in my mind there is no connection to chores and sex.

[muffin70]

I didn't catch this from your initial post. I'm thinking that a lot of us didn't. It sounds purely mental.

Can I ask you if you have seen the chores lead directly into sex? The claim is out there that it does. It always sounds dubious to me, but I have seen my wife become more affectionate since I started doing more around the house. I don't get it, since in my mind there is no connection to chores and sex.

I guess she doesn't like the feeling of cum and is worried the condom may break?

The chores don't lead directly into sex... I know if I sit on my backside on the computer or watching TV all day then she would not be in a good mood - especially if there are things around the house that need doing.
But if I got up and did things like digging the garden, mowing the lawns, doing the washing... without her having to remind me that those things needed to be done, she would be very happy that I did those things and would be more inclined to want to have sex later that evening.
Last night for example I went outside and raked over the garden a bit and she was happy and said she'd give me a 'massage' (like a reward for being good?) but she fell asleep before she could administer the massage... LOL!

funnily enough a few years ago when we were painting the inside of a house we used to own, we were waiting for the paint to dry between coats and we were dressed in old clothes covered in paint and she just asked for sex there and then so we had a quickie on the lounge floor..... I wish sex would be more spontaneous like that now!