[Trixareforkids]

Ok, this ^ ^ is fair. Not responding is okay, but saying it's not worth responding to is a bit much when you ARE responding to it.

[jns]

Well I had a FWB before we both didn't want a boy friend or a girl friend relationship and if i dated her. I would have never meant my wife so it all work out for both of us. I meant my sole mate she mean her's. We are both still married and very happily with kids. We still friends to this day, all we want was more then going home and masturbating we gave each other release without strings attach.I hope this answer your question MsLorr.

We weren't in love, oh no, far from it
We weren't searchin' for some pie in the sky summit
We were just young and restless and bored
Livin' by the sword
And we'd steal away every chance we could
To the backroom, to the alley or the trusty woods
I used her, she used me
But neither one cared
We were gettin' our share
Workin' on our night moves
Tryin' to lose the awkward teenage blues
Workin' on our night moves
And it was summertime

Night Moves by Bob Seger

[Trixareforkids]

Nice, very apropos ^^

[Motorguy]

Has anyone seen the movie FWB with Justin Timberlake, that will explain some what of the whole idea of what this thread about to a point. But it pretty much shows how mess up it really can be with a man and women.

[Patti-here]

I never posted on this thread,, but I don't see how you can just have sex with someone without having some genuine feelings for them ?

[Trixareforkids]

I never posted on this thread,, but I don't see how you can just have sex with someone without having some genuine feelings for them ?

Some people can some can't. Terms like One Night Stand & F-Buddy show that there are enough people who DO have sex with little more than lust and/or the itch for momentary physical contact. Now do they regret it later, again some yes some no.

There's been lots of discussion here on the degrees of these "relationships" and defining them for clarity so that when Archer goes in search of whatever it is that he's looking for he might have a better idea of how to go about it in a way that secures the best possibility of getting what he's looking for without causing undue harm. Which is the best any of us can do at the outset.

[Patti-here]

Some people can some can't. Terms like One Night Stand & F-Buddy show that there are enough people who DO have sex with little more than lust and/or the itch for momentary physical contact. Now do they regret it later, again some yes some no.

There's been lots of discussion here on the degrees of these "relationships" and defining them for clarity so that when Archer goes in search of whatever it is that he's looking for he might have a better idea of how to go about it in a way that secures the best possibility of getting what he's looking for without causing undue harm. Which is the best any of us can do at the outset.

I've had one night stands before,,, but never felt right about it the next morning.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

OK.

FWB is in fact different than FB's. People are nieve off course they are and sex and age has nothing to do with it, it could be the point and time in their life, emotions, immediate past.

Then there is hope. They start of with accepting a FWB, but gain feelings, this is normal for a woman to do, a bit like having an affair with a Married man thinking ah, it's just a quick adventure.

I don't think many people "use others for sex". There I see that as a one night stand, in my "opinion".

I don't think finding someone "outside" a circle, is a friend though if you don't really know them? It's a FB that you maybe, hopefully become friends with, I agree with Justice in that stance. I see a Friend with Benefits as being, someone you know, that you sleep with, have known a while, no strings, no ties, end of story.

I don't agree with a "rude wake up call" life is about lessons. That to me is saying " I will do this, I've laid it all down, if you see it differently bad luck". I see that as harsh against someone whom you don't really know how they tick, think.. In a relationship and for some time, we know people. Again, just my "opinion".

I agree with Motor, that yes, life is about lessons but it would be nice to have things done "the nicest possible way" not as a rude awakening so many women are nieve, get burnt, get so hurt because they aren't thinking straight when they make a decision.

I think at 29 that's different. But, then say the 40 year old woman not much older than me Perhaps she has been burnt so many times that she doesn't give a ******** anymore "about herself".

Women and men are equal. We all have feelings and guys have been used to we get that, more so financially, from what I have read/heard and been told.

I don't think you have to justify either Archer what you believe you are looking for but I do think you have to see what others see you may be doing FB. Not FWB. In reading what you've written. If that is how they read it. I'm on the fence, I read it that way.

Is is possible therefore, that you do see them as FB? And, bad luck if they see you as anything else and then it's their fault? And so bad luck they need a rude awakening?

I'm just not sure how they are a friend when they aren't in your circle of friends. Who then are they, how do you meet and know them more than say for 1 night or a few dates later, is that what you mean and then you sleep with the intention that they know you will only be friends?

Once again, it's a heated topic. We have Mums, Dads, women who have been burnt. Women who like me are not sure that they are FB's that you are referring to and not sure how they really feel about that or understand but then I could be wrong and I am also thinking that you "think" you are making them a friend so it's ok...

We all learn even at 29.

This discussion should explore as you are the OP exactly what people think you mean and nicely question and if wrong so be it, if they feel they might be right but you can't see it (leave it).

I've just again seen attacking, rudeness, difference of opinions, personalities, friends standing up for the other. Let's not do this again huh.

We are Adults. If in doubt please read the FAQ rules in how this site runs. There are a lot of Forums where we can all jump down peoples throats, swear and belittle and gang up and call people liers.

This is not one of them and I don't think anyone is meaning to do it, rather it's the way things are being taken. From what I see you all are fantastic in your posts and thoughts.

BUT, See how I wrote? That is how it's done. "my opinion"..

And Little, myself or a Mod will close a thread no need to discuss whether it should or shouldn't or the OP can request via the correct method please, a PM to Little or Myself or a Mod. Not on a thread.

Last request in this regard.

Thanks

Archer.. You need a woman in your life, sex, is sex. Meaningless, until you have had love, pfttttttttttttttttttttttttt

[Trixareforkids]

sex, is sex. Meaningless, until you have had love, pfttttttttttttttttttttttttt

Ha, you should go post in the new topic I started Sex & Regrets. I don't agree with the above statement, I don't completely disagree with it either, I think it's a matter of degrees and where you happen to be at the time. Let's talk about it over in the other thread

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Has anyone seen the movie FWB with Justin Timberlake, that will explain some what of the whole idea of what this thread about to a point. But it pretty much shows how mess up it really can be with a man and women.

I haven't seen it but I want to. What was the outcome?