[HerHusband]

I dont have this problem. My problem is usually the opposite. I come to quick and beg her to slow down to make it last. BUT I have to say a standing BJ is my fav. Laying on my back is fine and I am not going to complain about any position. Yes I like to hold her head a little but she doesnt like it when Im to pushy so to speak. I have just plain FF'ed her on occasions and she said its not her favorite but let me. I let her do what ever she wants in kind but she is pretty tame in that area and I wish she would be more aggressive. One of life great pleasures is a standing BJ in the shower. No mess to clean up and while she does not swallow she does let me come in her mouth mostly. Its not a dominance thing for me but feels better. I never understand the whole cumshot thing about pulling out to cum on a womans face or belly. Its better for me planted to the hilt be it oral,vag or anal. I do know some girls like to have their guy cum on their face but dont get it. If she wanted it Id do it I suppose. And I dont care if she swallows but I like the feeling of the mouth around my penis as I cum.

[Motorguy]

So you're saying the man is in control ?

No the women is who's has your family jewels in her hands and mouth. I maybe a little slow but i know when my wife is the boss.

[Patti-here]

I dont have this problem. My problem is usually the opposite. I come to quick and beg her to slow down to make it last. BUT I have to say a standing BJ is my fav. Laying on my back is fine and I am not going to complain about any position. Yes I like to hold her head a little but she doesnt like it when Im to pushy so to speak. I have just plain FF'ed her on occasions and she said its not her favorite but let me. I let her do what ever she wants in kind but she is pretty tame in that area and I wish she would be more aggressive. One of life great pleasures is a standing BJ in the shower. No mess to clean up and while she does not swallow she does let me come in her mouth mostly. Its not a dominance thing for me but feels better. I never understand the whole cumshot thing about pulling out to cum on a womans face or belly. Its better for me planted to the hilt be it oral,vag or anal. I do know some girls like to have their guy cum on their face but dont get it. If she wanted it Id do it I suppose. And I dont care if she swallows but I like the feeling of the mouth around my penis as I cum.

I think Cumming on a womans face is degrading imo...

[Patti-here]

If I had a dollar for every B/J I've given,, I could buy this website

[Trixareforkids]

Patti, you crack me up. You seem so quiet and you're so matter-of-fact that the way you put things out there sometimes just makes me laugh.

[Patti-here]

Oh I like to lighten the mood up,, I'm not all that deep,, but "Psssssst" I never lie either

[Trixareforkids]

but "Psssssst" I never lie either

I was about to agree with you, but I can't, lol. I tell little white lies to spare feelings. Other than that though I don't lie either. I may not tell EVERYTHING all the time, but I don't lie. I don't see the point.

[jns]

Its much easier if you adopt a male dominant position. Try this technique: Have her sit or kneel in front of you. Stand with your legs astride her hips. Have her use one or both hands in unison with her mouth (using LOTS of saliva on the hand(s)). This will create a sense of depth and envelopment for you. Have her make eye contact with you. Between her mouth/hand work and your undulations she should be able to get you off in about 2 minutes flat. Let it go, let it go!

I'm generally not easily offended and after re-reading the physical description and finding no problem with it in a stand-alone setting, I found this post offensive.

So... I took a moment to analyze what it was that caused my repugnance and it's all about phrasing and what that phrasing implies to me. PhrendlyPhil it may be unconscious or unintentional but your phrasing implies actual dominance rather than role-play dominance. Make, have her, have her make, for you, your undulations should be able to get you off. The tone and phrasing you use show a complete disregard for the other person involved in the act and THAT is what I find offensive.

I would ask others to chime in on this as I have felt it, to a lesser degree on other posts you've made and if it is an emerging pattern I would ask what is to be done.

If this is referring to my offense at PhrendlyPhil's post however, it wasn't the act he was describing that I have a problem with, I enjoy vanilla subbing, it was entirely about the chauvinistic way in which he presented his suggestion and his chauvinistic attitude across all the posts. This is a women's forum, if you have no respect for women you shouldn't be here in my opinion. And it is my estimation, from his comments, that he has no respect for women beyond whichever one is servicing HIS needs. Stopping now before I get nasty.

It is always good to get a cross section of ideas to help you make up your mind about a subject as long as the posters are civil. Phil helps define a certain segment of thought. It may not be the way I think, but that is OK because it sharpens the focus of the discussion.

I'm trying to find a way to describe why I don't agree with you that won't be offensive and I'm not sure I can. I'll just say what first came to my mind and take my lumps for it. To me Phil is a vocal KKK member at a Martin Luther memorial. He may have a RIGHT to be here but I can't welcome him.

This post is totally hypocritical and uncalled for in this forum! I find this particular comment very off-putting and offensive. You even admitted that you think your comment will be offensive and yet you willingly posted it anyway! In my opinion, you should be banned for such offensive slander. You are personally attacking the poster, which should never be permitted by the community. I strongly believe you owe the poster and the community a sincere apology!

Note that Trix was responding to my defense of Phil posting on this site. Free speech requires individuals defending others' abilities to say things that they don't like or don't agree with. Actually, Martin Luther (of the 95 Theses fame) does not fit in the sentence; Martin Luther King, Jr. does. Some irony. Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., who should be a hero to all Americans, was all about free speech. An assassin's bullet cut short his ability to give that free speech. It's ironic his name was used in a sentence that seems to defend limiting speech if it is deemed offensive due to ideology. What if such limitations had been put on Rev. King from the very beginning?

[jen1447]

Free speech requires individuals defending others' abilities to say things that they don't like or don't agree with.

Likewise it requires that you defend her ability to say things you may not like. What exactly was the point of posting that, now that she can't defend herself here?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I have a problem cumming from my Girlfriends Blow Jobs. I know blowjobs can make me Cum because the very few that my ex wife would give me made me cum. My ex was not a fan of giving blow jobs either.
My Girlfriend loves doing it and it feels great but for some reason I cant finish... Most of the time we do things in her bed. The one time she gave me a blowjob in her living room on her love seat I cam better then I ever did with my ex. Could it be that to loveseat made the difference? A sitting position, instead of laying down? How can I bring this up to her and maybe try the loveseat or somewhere other then the bed again?

Hi there Divorced Dad, I've noticed you haven't returned since you posted this and off course, I am sure there are further member's thoughts on this which I encourage replies.

Hope to hear your thoughts on the initial thoughts from the members and continued thoughts here after.

CW