To be clear, I enjoy her enjoyment -it isn't that I'm doing it as a favor or chore.
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I have the same strong feeling about giving oral as S_A and Jenn. It is the most intimate act that a man can do with a woman -- all 5 senses are involved. With my partner, it is the taste and scent of love. It is also a very giving act, and those of us who know how to please a woman with oral, can be there all night. As Jenn so aptly wrote, her (my partner's) v is the center of my sexual universe.
That said, my SO can have multiple orgasms and can occasionally ejaculate with oral. In that sense, there is mutual satisfaction with oral. It is part of almost all of our intimacy.
I am surprised that you cannot orgasm with oral. Statistically, the majority of woman (I have read between 50-75% of women) do not have vaginal orgasms and need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. In fact, there is even a "Clitoracy Project" (done by the artist Sandra Wallace -- look her up on Tumblr) which attempts to educate men on the importance of clitoral stimulation. There is no better clitoral stimulant than a well educated tongue, lips and mouth. While I am sure that there are still men who do not enjoy going down on a woman, I am pleased to read that more and more men do."The only consistent feature of all of your dissatisfying relationships is you." Despair.com "Dysfunction"Comment
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I love giving and not over worried if she's not in the mood to repay the favour, she screams with laughter when i hit the spot.Oh geez that’s a same you can’t orgasm through oral sex, I really can’t do without it, it’s a very intimate act, and I orgasm for more easily that way than I do through intercourse, I can’t give you the male perspective on it though, I would imagine it’s our fragrance and taste that attracts them and the knowledge that they’re giving us such extreme pleasure that way.Comment
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I orgasm quite often from oral, sometimes I dont but about 90% of the time I do. I don't know what Id do if my husband disliked giving oral lol... I will agree that it is a very intimate act and if really arouses me that my husband wants to do it to please me, usually without me even asking or mentioning it. So that plus, the orgasm is just awesome lol...
Have you tried 69? Theres all sort of ways to do it differently where you may enjoy it more.Comment
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If my GF wakes up in the middle of the night and is in the mood, she will get ontop of me and wake me up with her vagina on my face.... Totally awesome when it happens! Personally, I would take giving oral over conventional sex. And I would do it without hesitation. If I had to choose one for the rest of my life, it would be giving oral."Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447Comment
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Oh I’m a little surprised to hear that there are men that don’t enjoy going down on a woman, it’s been my experience that it’s one of the first things they go for.I have the same strong feeling about giving oral as S_A and Jenn. It is the most intimate act that a man can do with a woman -- all 5 senses are involved. With my partner, it is the taste and scent of love. It is also a very giving act, and those of us who know how to please a woman with oral, can be there all night. As Jenn so aptly wrote, her (my partner's) v is the center of my sexual universe.
That said, my SO can have multiple orgasms and can occasionally ejaculate with oral. In that sense, there is mutual satisfaction with oral. It is part of almost all of our intimacy.
I am surprised that you cannot orgasm with oral. Statistically, the majority of woman (I have read between 50-75% of women) do not have vaginal orgasms and need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. In fact, there is even a "Clitoracy Project" (done by the artist Sandra Wallace -- look her up on Tumblr) which attempts to educate men on the importance of clitoral stimulation. There is no better clitoral stimulant than a well educated tongue, lips and mouth. While I am sure that there are still men who do not enjoy going down on a woman, I am pleased to read that more and more men do.Comment
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Oh man... In my social circle, men are not supposed to give oral. Actually, none of my friends know I do it. It is hugely looked down upon. I cannot even begin to describe how, in my social circle, my life would get turned upside down if my GF went to them and told them I go down on her. My name would be changed to the name of the thing I eat (p************y). I am of Russian decent, but born and raised in LA. And yes, this way of thinking actually exists in progressive Los Angeles.
As for my girlfriend, she is Brazilian and says a lot of Brazilian guys are the same way and are "too macho" to go down. When my GF got with me, she said she had gone into the relationship with the assumption that she was not getting oral from me. Man was she wrong lol. I think that element of surprise for her made it amazing for her the first time we did it.
To be honest. Sometimes I wish they found out I go down."Are you serious? You're bleeping THAT girl?" - jen1447Comment
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Why would they look down on it, and is this something they actually discuss? I've never discussed details of my sex life with anyone, except anonymously here.
Oh man... In my social circle, men are not supposed to give oral. Actually, none of my friends know I do it. It is hugely looked down upon. I cannot even begin to describe how, in my social circle, my life would get turned upside down if my GF went to them and told them I go down on her. My name would be changed to the name of the thing I eat (p************************************************ y). I am of Russian decent, but born and raised in LA. And yes, this way of thinking actually exists in progressive Los Angeles.
As for my girlfriend, she is Brazilian and says a lot of Brazilian guys are the same way and are "too macho" to go down. When my GF got with me, she said she had gone into the relationship with the assumption that she was not getting oral from me. Man was she wrong lol. I think that element of surprise for her made it amazing for her the first time we did it.
To be honest. Sometimes I wish they found out I go down.Comment
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